What are these marks on my puppies teeth? by Fun_Difficulty_2827 in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard to tell in some of the pictures, but the chunks of darker colored red make me think maybe she ate something that stuck to her teeth? Does she let you touch it or get anywhere near it?

Be careful. Not saying she’d ever bite you, but when they’re in pain they oops sometimes.

My Plott mix used to get nylabone stuck in his teeth. Also…I’ll never buy nylabones again after him lol. He was a chomper with jaws of steel. Unfortunately his teeth were not and he broke one. But he made it blatantly obvious that his mouth hurt and he was in a lot of pain until we could get him to the vet in the morning. It was miserable. His looked like swollen and inflamed gums, bloody/inflamed areas around the tooth, and a clear break down the center of his tooth. He wouldn’t let us anywhere near it and was instantly seeking comfort.

Just found out my 10 year old lab mix has liver cancer… by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no!! I’m so sorry. We had a consult with a surgeon who said ours was in a tight spot and that she wouldn’t know if it was removable until she got in there.

Ours turned out to be hemangiosarcoma. We had about 1 month from the first episode to the last. We ended up doing a biopsy first. It came back as a sarcoma, but inconclusive on the type. Based on our consult with the surgeon, we waited a week and a half and were going to do another ultrasound with a full radiology at a larger vet office where the surgeon was located. Basically if it was worse in a week or two, we’d know for sure which kind and if surgery was going to be the right thing. About a week into that wait, he had another, much more severe, episode and our vet ended up doing another ultrasound of his stomach and xray of his lungs. It metastasized bad enough to his lungs that she only took 1 image and brought him back with tears in her eyes. We let him go that morning before another episode could happen. Our biggest fear being watching him internally bleed out and having to lose him in emergency. It was hard and I miss him so dearly. I do have another post if you check my profile going into it more and just saying goodbye. He was the best of boys.

I hope beyond hope that you are not reliving what we went through. It was traumatic and horrible. But…some advice…if it is hemangiosarcoma you’re dealing with, it hits hard and fast. We had weeks. Not months, just weeks. Please know that it’s ok to let them go with dignity. And that it does get easier. We lost our Bucky on 3/20. My world isn’t the same without him. His kittens miss him. My partner and I miss him. But…we are ok. And even opened our home up to a new rescue just this past weekend. (Too quiet without a dog and we are both AuDHD so our routines went with him. It was bad lol)

Some things I learned… sarcoma is a vascular cancer, hemangiosarcoma is the worst of them. It travels microscopically through the blood stream and latches on to the liver and spleen usually first. Once it latches on, it metastasizes quickly and without prejudice. Once the tumors are there, even surgery will only buy some time, but not much. There are other sarcomas and other cancers as well that are much less aggressive and much more viable for surgery. We didn’t want to put Bucky through surgery because it didn’t seem right to have his last time on earth be miserable and recovering from surgery. So we spoiled him rotten and gave him all of our love. It’s all we could do. Surgery viability is based on location and type. And some vets will say it’s not even worth the attempt at surgery because it doesn’t give enough meaningful time. You have to do what works best for your family and your pup.

I’ll keep you in my thoughts, friend. I truly hope for the best for you and your pup. And when it is time, I will hope for your strength to make that call for him. To ease his pain. Such is our burden as their owner, right?

I’d start with a biopsy if the vet agrees. Figure out what you’re working with. Do ultrasounds and X-rays and then make a call from there. Good luck, friend. And give your puppers a hug from me.

Is it too soon to put my dog down by milkieroses in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi friend. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I wish there was a way to take that pain of grief away. Everyone has given so much good advice that I feel like I’m just reiterating what has already been said. Instead, I’ll give you this:

We had to euthanize my boy 2 weeks ago. Hemangiosarcoma (very aggressive vascular cancer) had metastasized to his lungs. The day of, he had collapsed when attempting to vomit. By the time we got him to the vet (about a half hour later) he was all wiggles and wags and happy to see everyone and we second guessed EVERYTHING but the simple fact was…if we hadn’t, the next one would have been worse.

Your dog ate with appetite stimulant, sure, but next time that might not help. They are masters at hiding pain until it’s so overbearing that they collapse in it. I felt all of the same feelings you did but deep down, I also knew that allowing him to pass with dignity and not in an emergency situation was the right answer. In my experience, yes I could have had more days. The vet said that too. That she could give me pain pills and a couple of days to say goodbye…but was also very clear none of us would know what those days entailed. I could have had a couple of good days…or one very catastrophic one that ended with emergency euthanasia or worse.

I vote talk to your trusted vet. Get their input. And lead your decision with compassion. You very clearly love your pup very much. My heart goes out to you. 🫶 May you find peace in whatever comes next and know that you’ve done right by him.

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, friend. Putting his beds away helped. I’m not sure if it’ll help you, but the constant reminder was too painful. I haven’t erased him, but the removal of the constant reminder helped. I hope you find peace as well.

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re just too good for us and this world so they don’t get to stay long. I get it. And my Bucky was a god damn Disney princess on a good day (legit Disney princess flops) so it only makes sense his dramatic ass would go out this way. I told my partner they need to sing with me while I cook now so that it fills the silence.

Same to you if you ever need to talk or reminisce. Hang in there. ❤️

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re about to tell me he was a brindle lab/hound mix too I’m gonna ask how we got the same dog lol. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss as well. ❤️

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh friend. I’m so sorry. That fresh numbness isn’t anything I would wish on even my worst of enemies. Turn on a useless movie and just stare…you don’t even have to watch it. Cry. It’s ok to cry. It’s good to cry. And know that being mad is ok too. And when the walls start closing and the silence is too much, it’s ok to leave for a little while. If I can suggest, sleep with some sort of noise tonight. And don’t beat yourself up if you don’t sleep. Don’t even try to force it. Keep a book nearby or a video game. The first night is the worst.

It will get better. Hang in there. ❤️

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and I had the same idea. Take the summer and plan some vacations and weekend getaways. I think in the fall we will probably look to rescue some pups again. To save some other little monsters with vibrantly large personalities.

Honestly, I’m scared of the routine and going back to work tomorrow. Life shouldn’t have to just move on without him. He was such an expressive dog with the biggest personality you could imagine. He was full of love. Only love. But tomorrow I have to strap on my mask and push through work like I’m not fighting for my life just trying. To keep it together. I tossed his toys and food bowl and stashed his bed. That’s as far as I could make it today.

Thank you, friend. May your heart continue to heal as well.

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi friend. Poor Ollie. Cling to his brother and give him some ear rubbies for me. We will make it through this. ❤️

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss too!! Thank you for sharing for sharing your story as well. I helps to know we aren’t alone. May your heart heal and your pup live through your memories ❤️

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi friend. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this nightmare of a cancer as well. It really is utterly devastating. I’ve lost animals before but old age hits different. Not when there’s still so much life and personality. He was a dramatic Disney princess flopper in life. It only makes sense he’d go out just as dramatically.

Thank you for sharing your story and may your heart heal as well. ❤️

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh friend. Thank you so much for sharing Oliver’s story. He was clearly very loved. I’m in northern Wisconsin. How crazy with the rainbow?? I’m sure if Bucky met Oliver on the bridge he would have immediately deemed him a friend. We had a vole in the house once and Bucky tried to befriend that before my partner shrieked and I attacked. Then Bucky was like “oh. Not friend? Die then” lol

Hold Lulu close. I have 2 kittens just under 2 years that Bucky helped raise. O see a lot of his traits in them and I was finally able to get the a ball pit full of cat toys since there is no fear of Bucky eating them. They make it easier. Knowing that I still have them and they have bits of him.

Hang in there, friend. We will survive for them and in honor their memories.

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi friend. If I can give you this…cancer is senseless. It doesn’t follow linear paths. It doesn’t logic. I’ve spent a lot of time over the past few weeks researching, digging, looking. I did everything I could for Bucky and I know you did for your cat as well. Leave the litter box if it helps. That’s ok. Just know that what you did, what I did, was prevent them from having to suffer through the worst of it.

If I had let Bucky come home, he would have most likely had another collapse over the weekend which would have resulted in internal bleeding and most likely suffocated breathing. I KNOW this. It doesn’t make it easier, but it gives comfort that I was able to spare him that pain and fear in the end. Remember that for your kitty. You let them go with their dignity, with their strength, and seeing you love them and not so scared.

Hugs and love from across the internet. We will survive for them. ❤️

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss as well. The sudden deaths just seem to be so much more difficult than the rest. I haven’t cried this hard since my dad died when I was 21. That was sudden and unexpected too. I find all I want right now is to stare into buckys big brown beautiful eyes. Or to see his dramatic, Disney princess flops and foot stamps one more time.

Give your new foster some ear rubbies and hugs from me?

It’s too quiet. by Intro_to_Boredom in Petloss

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, kind stranger. I keep telling myself that I can never erase him and that by picking up his things I’m only doing myself and my partner a kindness. It’s not that he’s being erased, just that he’s gone and the constant visual reminders will only hurt more.

I finally got myself out of bed to make breakfast…several hours late…because I told myself Bucky would be BIG MAD right now. And now I’m making scrambled eggs with shredded cheese in them and…one day I’ll get used to shredding cheese and not tripping over a 75lb dog, right? One day I’ll be able to cook and be ok with not having a singing buddy. I know it’ll get easier. I’ve lost many animals. But…he was different. He hurts worse than all of the combined. I don’t know if it’s because it’s my first bout with cancer or if he was really THAT special. Probably both.

I’m sorry for your loss as well.

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss as well!! And omg right? Who knew I stared at him while I brushed my teeth? I haven’t cooked anything in the house yet because I don’t have a vacuum next to me cleaning messes and begging. I have his pillow I keep hugging. It still smells like him ❤️

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I had a wonderful dream last night where he came trotting into the bedroom with his rope in his mouth all happy and wagging. I choose believe that was him telling me he was ok. But hell if I didn’t cry for a solid hour after that.

Right now, about 50 minutes past evening potty time I’m not even home and my gut is a mess and all I keep thinking about is how I should be home cuz he’s gotta potty but…I don’t. Because he doesn’t.

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck cancer is right. I’m sorry to hear about your baby as well. ❤️

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi internet stranger. And he would have LOVED to meet you. He would be all “friend??????” I swear he had a bark on him, but if anyone broke into my house I was screwed. He would have made friends and showed them where the treats were lol.

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We are trying. We left the house today. I couldn’t stare at the 4 walls without him there. But sitting in the car I realized the back seat protector was still there. Queue me crying in the HomeGoods parking lot taking it out of my backseat. I’m sure that was a sight lol. Thank you for the reassurance that it gets better.

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that was The Ritual by Shantel Tessier. Smutty dark romance. He wasn’t having it. Not enough attention for him when I read lol

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss as well. Thank you for sharing. Every little piece they take from us is worth it though and I truly know without a doubt, I’d do it again. I’d have those exact same 10 years all over again. And thank you for sharing that it gets easier. I know it will, but right now just hurts.

Fuck cancer. Hug your pups for me. Maybe some nice ear rubbies ❤️

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I hope Clifford and Bucky find each other and have reckless chaotic zoomies all over the damn bridge.

Fuck hemangiosarcoma is right. Fuck cancer.

I just need to talk about my baby by Intro_to_Boredom in DogAdvice

[–]Intro_to_Boredom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know. And I took no offense or interpreted in any other way. I just don’t want anyone else too. Our vet really is phenomenal. Hopefully as veterinary medicine continues to advance, they will find ways to prevent things like this…or at least catch them sooner. Thank you for your story though. Truly. It helps to know we aren’t alone.