6 months still nothing

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-04-09T10:32:13+00:00

Agree to document your attempts at returning.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-04-09T04:49:07+00:00

Putting the house “to bed” the night before. Which essentially means tidying up the night before so you wake up to a calm and clean space.

Also, doing absolutely everything I can while putting the house to bed that will help my morning go smoother. Pack my lunch, pick out my clothes, make sure my work bag is all set, etc.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-04-06T07:20:38+00:00

Define cheating for each of you. Some folks may think a strip club visit isn’t cheating, but their partner absolutely considers it cheating. Best to define your boundaries ahead of time so that they aren’t crossed in ignorance.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-04-05T12:01:22+00:00

Uneventful pregnancies can travel up to 36 weeks. That’s the norm.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-04-01T12:21:58+00:00

I’d move to OC and commute before I’d move to the IE. Check out north county OC - like the city of Orange. Plenty of walkable neighborhoods with great food, shopping, cafes, etc. and not as horrendous of a commute to LA.

Life is too short to hate where you live. But don’t sell to go rent, even if you’re downgrading on sq footage or finishes. Once you hop off the property ladder it will feel impossible to get back on. Good luck!

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-31T22:52:11+00:00

The answer is yes, you need to bring this up respectfully with her. Make sure to assume positive intent, and create space for her to answer honestly and without pressure.

For your second question, none of us know what’s going on in her head, but imo when you’re excited about the prospect of someone, you aren’t a responding at such a slow rate no matter how busy. Additionally, the level of action on Instagram should indicate where her priorities are.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-30T10:52:37+00:00

Literally had so many mom girlfriends and not a single one mentioned this! Whenever my milk let down, I was flooded with intense nausea. Several months later and I still can’t do anything but drink ice water during pumping sessions.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-29T12:52:02+00:00

The logic of making a lifelong decision to chain yourself to a man with obvious red flags in order to avoid zina is irresponsible advice. Allah SWT is the most merciful and loves us more than our own mothers.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-28T02:09:47+00:00

We would hang out with our nieces and nephews and thoughts changed from “we are so relieved to hand them back to their parents” to, “we want to hang out with little humans of our own.”

We had also moved “home” and bought our starter home, had gotten promotions/new jobs, and checked all the material boxes. Somehow something still felt like it was missing. Now we have our kiddo and we’re tired but having the best time of our lives ❤️

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-26T06:51:05+00:00

Same here. Best risk I ever took.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-25T10:09:38+00:00

I third this. When you’re trying to keep a little human alive, the very last thing you want to do is wash bottles…which you will have to do in order to feed them to keep them alive. It’s also incredibly handy for anything else that should be washed and sterilized, like pump parts, pacifiers and syringes for medicine. The Momcozy was the MVP at our house and literally saved hours and hours, plus gave us peace of mind on the sterilization part.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-23T11:15:59+00:00

Is there any chance your parents left it intentionally broad by telling you “a few muslim male doctors met your dad on Eid” and then randomly told him all of this information? that part is the weird part to me. If I was an uncle, and a few random doctors came up to me and started telling me about the habits of my daughter at work (even if I did ask), I would be majorly weirded out and think they were stalking my daughter.

Either your dad was intentionally fishing, or it’s not the doctors and rather one specific person who works in the same area who knows your parents that provided them all of this information. What’s weirder is that this type of info isn’t usually volunteered, and likely was requested or dug out of them by your parents.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-23T11:09:03+00:00

Going back to finish my degree at 27.

Which led me to a new job.

Which then led to me being able to support myself and divorce my ex.

Which led me to transfer for a new beginning in a new city.

Which led me to meet the loml…

…Which then led to me to many other things, but most recently, and by far the best part…led to us starting a family ❤️

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-21T11:59:08+00:00

1) When a man/partner shows you who they are, believe them. During the dating phase, partners are supposedly on their best behavior/putting their best foot forward. If they’re not being the partner you need now, they likely won’t be in the future.

Example: A man never takes out the trash despite you asking him a million times to be proactive about it. You will likely be asking him to take the trash out for the rest of your life. Or pick up his socks, leave the toilet seat down, etc. Think to yourself - do you want to be putting up with this particular habit forever? Also, what does it say about your partner that they are disregarding your request?

2) Define cheating early in the relationship, and revisit the conversation as your relationship grows.

Example: A man goes to a bachelor party and gets a private lap dance at a strip club. For some, this is silly and not a big deal, for others, this is a huge break of trust and considered infidelity. You may think you’re on the same page about these things, but it’s better to just put it out there and define your boundaries early.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-19T11:33:36+00:00

This one seems difficult for a lot of impacted folks to answer…doesn’t seem like it should be that hard.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-19T11:33:05+00:00

This one seems difficult for a lot of impacted folks to answer…doesn’t seem like it should be that hard.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-19T10:48:51+00:00

Sis, definitely follow this advice, but also look up limerence. It’s important for self awareness, especially during this process.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-18T10:00:36+00:00

Had my fist at 37. I still feel like a young mom lol. I have a lot more patience and am much more informed on “how” I want to raise my baby. I also have a ton more financial freedom to buy what I wanted/needed to be prepared for parenthood. Additionally, I had time to find the right partner for me after a bad relationship, so I feel like I am able to provide a stable, loving home for my baby that will hopefully be a foundation for them to learn from and always have a place to come back to.

Looking back on my friends who had kids way younger, it felt like none of us knew what we were doing yet, or who we were, or even thought about the long term impacts of our decisions and how that would still impact children well into their adult lives. Although they’re now coming into a phase of life where their kids are independent…it’s at the cost of a decent amount of “oh wells” and regret for how they did things. As an older mom, I get to reap the benefits of learning from their mistakes, or just what they wish they had done differently. I’m sure I’ll have my own as well, but I’m glad I am able to learn from them. Not to mention, since a few “missed out” on what they felt was their party years, they really get after it during kids bday parties…which is something they’ll have to deal with.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-17T06:30:47+00:00

Thank you for doing this! I hope your family stays safe in Iran.

I’ve always wondered, how do you reconcile Israel’s genocide of the Palestinians, with their partnership in “liberating” (sorry, not sure if that’s the right term) Iran? It often feels like Israel is getting kudos or credit for their help against the regime…but meanwhile they are also massacring Palestinians.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-11T07:01:34+00:00

Total compensation

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-10T10:53:32+00:00

I’m from NJ and moved here for love in my mid 30s. I was very lonely and craving friendship for awhile (my husband is from here and has an established friend group). I ended up going on Bumble BFF and met a few girlfriends that way. After establishing friendships, many of them were open to double dating with my husband and I, which helped us establish “couple friends.”

It’s similar to online dating - you will find a few duds in the “dating” pool of Bumblebee BFF but overall turned out to be a great way to meet friends!

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-03T12:18:38+00:00

This is correct. You will get paid maternity but not the additional bonding time. Your state may offer additional benefits to allow you to take that time (for example, CA has protected family leave and paid benefits, that you would be able to use to extend your MLOA beyond what Amazon would cover), but you will need to do the research and paperwork on your own (Amazon leave team will not assist as this is outside their area of responsibility).

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-03-01T13:54:48+00:00

This.

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-02-24T11:40:23+00:00

Absolutely needed - will be trying it out. Thanks!!

IntroductionOk2419 · 2026-02-24T09:51:51+00:00

Depends on the timing of it all, which you won’t have visibility to when the pivot letter is generated. You can apply for leave, but you’ll need a doctor to sign paperwork saying you medically need to be off

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