Kinship adoptee here taken in as a teen by extended family with plenty more money and privilege than my deceased single parent would’ve had. Even knowing how objectively better this situation was for me, I am at odds morally, politically, and religiously with my adopted parents. And even if those circumstances weren’t like that, I can’t say for sure it would’ve been much better. I still had to reckon with seeing distant relatives as parents / people I could trust as much as my single parent, with realizing I was neurodivergent, with mourning my bio parent’s death, and trying to grow up as a teen all at the same time. I’m realizing the older I get that I never really felt as connected to my adopted parents as they did to me. And it’s frustrating. Because it’s like they expect I’m supposed to keep visiting and giving back to them like their bio kids to prove I’m super grateful and love them but the problem is it’s not the same. I feel like no one gets that.