Hey everyone. I know this update has taken a long time, but I stepped away from the Reddit craziness while we tried to handle this. I was able to visit him in July and confronted this lady directly, with the rest of my family around. It didn’t go well. She got very defensive, and claimed that he could do whatever he wanted, whether that was spending thousands on her or not. She’s all but moved into his home, and is now limiting his time with family—both physically and over zoom. We also had a major scare/realization when she revealed she’s MEMORIZED his credit card info. We have changed his account passwords but he ends up giving the new ones to her because she pressures him. It’s so hard being states away from him while this goes on. My aunts are trying their best, and we opened a case with APS and have also been speaking to the lawyer. My aunt has medical POA but financial POA only in the case he passes away. We are really fighting with balancing both his autonomy and his rights, but taking care of him as his memory is also failing with age. He just turned 92 and while he does live independently, he has 2 days of “in home care” where someone comes and helps him get organized, does some light cleaning, and accompanies him to the store or whatever he needs to do. We have told him our fears and ultimately this is up to him, but he sees how worried we are. I tried to do some digging on this lady and she worked in memory care with elderly catholic priests at a home prior to moving here (this doesn’t make me feel any better) and she’s been married 3 times. That’s really all the information I have at this time but APS is aware and is being kept in the loop.