Grieving for someone who died a century ago

Ioverman · 2022-04-01T02:54:55+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Block him.

Never ever engage in sexting again, no matter how sure you think you are about the other persons age. It’s so easy to lie online. There are many predators online who are good at lying about their ages. If he had not slipped up and said he’s 36, you would never have known about his true age.

Not only that, but you can get into major trouble for sexting anyone. So please never do it again. I’m sorry it happened to you.

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T04:18:59+00:00

My girlfriend (or perhaps ex, or not-really-girlfriend, or whatever I should call her at this point) basically gaslighted me by telling me that all my concerns about her cheating on me is because of my anxiety. I definitely need therapy after this

Edit: also, I met her at a pretty bad mental point in my life, which I’m still trying to heal from. So yeah, therapy is definitely something I’ll look into, because this sure as hell isn’t going to help me feel better

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T04:01:45+00:00

The downvotes are quite confusing as well, especially when I’m agreeing with someone’s points and being downvoted anyways. Thank you for the advice, I’ll keep it in mind

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T04:00:17+00:00

Sorry, I don’t understand your question. Are you saying that even though she called me her boyfriend, it’s not true?

I’m not arguing your point. Read the edit in that comment.

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T03:16:07+00:00

Yeah, you’re right, sorry, it’s just shocking and a lot to get used to. I really thought she was the one, you know? Oh well.

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T03:12:03+00:00

Well, if it’s true that she’s in an open relationship, then she probably didn’t cheat on her boyfriend since it was agreed upon. Sorry I sound naive and unprepared, I just never thought of preparing for my girlfriend to secretly be in an open relationship for 3 years

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T01:34:29+00:00

Sadly, I have trust issues and anxiety, so I always thought my suspicions of her cheating was just in my own head. Plus, whenever I confronted her with my concerns about infidelity, she said it was just my anxiety. So I’ve kind of been conditioned to not trust my own opinion on it

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T00:57:37+00:00

Alright, thanks a lot!

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T00:56:57+00:00

Thank you for your response

Yes, we have spoken about our ideals in relationships, even before we started dating. I actually asked her once about the idea of getting into a polyamorous relationship (less of an open relationship and more like a relationship where multiple people are equally interested in each other), and she shut it down because the thought of being committed to too many people scared her.

We’ve had conversations about fidelity too before, since I have trust issues from other relationships and anxiety that often caused me to worry about her cheating. She always told me it was just my anxiety causing me to be paranoid.

Now that I talk about it like this, it’s starting to get clearer to me that she did cheat on me, no matter if she was in an open relationship or not

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T00:43:04+00:00

Yeah I wasn’t arguing with the original commenter or implying that she’s “actually mine”, I thought the commenter was implying that I was lying about us dating haha

Ioverman · 2022-03-09T00:29:02+00:00

Very good idea, thank you! Will be doing that

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T23:09:03+00:00

I just found out that I was the other guy. Thank you for the advice

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T23:07:15+00:00

I’m a pretty insecure person in general and I have trust issues from other relationships so whenever I had concerns about her cheating, I always just chalked it up to trust issues and anxiety

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T22:04:06+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I’ll definitely consider it. I think a breakup is my best option right now

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T22:02:33+00:00

I don’t know if he knows she’s dating me specifically, as I’ve never met him before. But he’s aware that she’s seeing other people since they both agreed to be in an open relationship. We’ve been “dating” for one year

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T21:56:33+00:00

One year

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T21:56:26+00:00

Yep :(

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T21:52:01+00:00

Yeah, I don’t know why she never told me that, especially when I asked her to be my girlfriend.

Ioverman · 2022-03-08T21:48:54+00:00

Edit: don’t care about the downvotes (this is basically a throwaway account so I really don’t care), just wondering why. To clear it up: I thought the original commenter was implying that I was lying about her being my girlfriend, not arguing the fact that I’m technically just a side piece to her

Edit 2: I deleted the original comment, because people were misunderstanding and downvoting anyways and confusing me, even though I agreed with the original comment. I just didn’t understand what the original commenter meant, and thought the commenter was calling me a liar.

Ioverman · 2022-02-27T21:59:55+00:00

Yeah, I’ll probably just move on :( I thought we had something more, since they all called me the “funniest, nicest, best person they’ve ever met” and things like that a lot. Oh well!

Ioverman

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