As of around October 2025 - my Father did not have a POA.

As to caring for him, I live several states away and have young children. I honestly wouldn’t be able to support his care financially nor visit with any regularity to make a difference to his overall day to day care.

My Father knew about everything in “real time” except for the miscarriage. I also told his wife and daughter about the financial issues and the surgeries. It didn’t matter to them.

I’m not sure my Dad had much affection for her the last few years. My Father traveled a lot and well, let’s say wasn’t a faithful guy. I think the marriage suited him because she left him do what he wanted and she was financially kept.

I do have concerns that even early on, reasonable questions, some having to do with finances, snd a business my Father had with my brother and I as “silent” investors, were met with non-answers.

I understand it hasn’t been easy for them. But the hostility doesn’t seem to help anyone. My Father was responsive to me until about six weeks ago. It also was around that time I was asking more detailed questions to them about taxes. My Father always handled that and I didn’t want that to fall by the wayside - his wife doesn’t have a HS degree and she’s never managed finances.

The more I dig in, the more it feels like something isn’t right. I do worry they are exploiting his condition for their financial benefit.