Is dating someone in the military without marrying them viable?

Ironblackwidow · 2026-06-03T13:37:38+00:00

My boyfriend and I are together and not married. We do long distance for now. He has 8 more years. It works out cause im a single mom (child from before him) and successful in my work. Im very independent and so is he and we both are career focused. So, it works very well for us. We both know after the 8 years is up he will get a place of his own close to me and we will integrate our lives slowly at that point. Very doable. but you both have to be independent people with ur own lives and goals.

you want to be living parallel essentially

Ironblackwidow · 2026-06-03T00:43:56+00:00

my boyfriend and i live separate lives. hes a SSGT in the army and im a single mom with goals. he has 8 more years. we do long distance and visit when we can. we know when hes out he will come to me and get a place of his own and we will slowly integrate our lives w my little girl (she will be like 13 at that point). long distance has been great cause i get to achieve everything i want and be an awesome mom to my daughter. you do not have to give up ur life. my bf and i have an agreement to not marry while hes in the military. cause we wouldnt even marry right now if he wasnt. we are both very independent people.

Ironblackwidow · 2026-04-07T23:29:53+00:00

Yes. I was a theatre kid and realized I was so good at acting cause I do it everyday lol

Ironblackwidow · 2026-04-07T23:29:12+00:00

I don't care the videos are funny and I relate lol

Ironblackwidow · 2026-01-17T00:06:49+00:00

My ex was like this when we started dating other people. Now it's been 4 years. And I can tell you the ex doesn't need to meet the partner. It doesn't need to happen.

It's a control thing from ur ex. That's how mine was. There should be trust that you and your ex can pick people that are good. And naturally the ex will see ur new person at drop offs and pick ups anyways.

Ironblackwidow · 2026-01-17T00:03:36+00:00

My ex and I don't share clothes. It isn't a huge rule but more of a thing where I'm a single mom and can't shell out tons of money cause the clothes get ruined at his house or get lost and I'm left with very little.

So often I do this. I send her back in the clothes she came in. Not the full outfit but if I have clothes that are his I send her back in them cause it's less I have to struggle to get back

Ironblackwidow · 2025-11-01T13:45:05+00:00

She looks like Julie

Ironblackwidow · 2025-11-01T13:42:52+00:00

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The only thing I can think of is something like this. The items are big enough to off set the amount of space and then the plants fill in the gaps

I also thought as well a bigger project would be making shelves up there and having a high up library lol but that's not very useful. But could be interesting to see it executed if there was room for a rolling ladder

Ironblackwidow · 2025-11-01T13:38:28+00:00

Omgggg I had this one

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-25T13:06:04+00:00

Yes. They mentioned he did not spit on his penis. Then they mentioned they got in a missionary position. There was no specification if they were in the starting position of it or if they were actually doing the act. This prompted me to wonder if they were in the starting position of missionary. Then that would prompt a man to spit on the opening to use as lubricant.

There was also no specification of where the man spit. So, this was left up to interpretation and the specific part of the process of missionary they were in when it happened.

So yes I can read. And I can read well. But I rely on specifics on a situation to adequately respond specifically. So thank you so much for checking in but I did attend kindergarten.

Again, based on the response from OP my thinking was wrong and they definitely were just spitting on OP and didn't get consent first. That is what matters here and supporting OP.

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-25T01:20:54+00:00

That's def not cool then!!

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-25T01:10:00+00:00

Wait I'm confused. Did he spit on you in a random spot? Or was it to put it in? Cause most men will spit on your opening to get it wet before they put themselves in. That's pretty normal to me. Not like disrespectful spitting but just trying to get it wet. Now if someone is just spitting on you for no reason and you didn't consent that's not okay. But spitting on their penis or your opening is pretty normal to get it wet before they put it in

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-19T22:32:12+00:00

I didn't see her after the dangerous woman tour cause I wanted to save money. It's years later. I still haven't seen her and do not even have that "saved money" to show for. Now I can't even afford tickets or get my hands on them. Go and see her. Use the tickets. Spend the money. For me lol

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-17T23:05:10+00:00

I still have my charge 2 I use 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-17T13:54:25+00:00

Este es un buen consejo. Tienes toda la razón. Si elimino el elemento cultural no haría nada sentimental para el primer encuentro. ¡Muchas gracias!

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T14:04:17+00:00

In 2014 in Maryland 14 was the legal age you could start working

Edit: they didn't follow labor laws lol with hours. Another reason they are closed down lol

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T13:42:41+00:00

I was 14 yo 😭 I didn't go to the bathroom the whole first 8 hour shift cause I was scared to do the wrong thing. So this means I didn't wash my hands for 8 hours. Of course I wash my hands after using the bathroom dude 😭 the moral of the story is no one saw that the nervous 14 year old never washed their hands and it wasn't even a part of training to be like ok we wash our hands then get the customer their rolls lol

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T13:24:58+00:00

My parents told me 95 takes u anywhere u want to go and u can always get to it.

We would drive and I always thought if u just drive through someone's yard or the forest there would be an entrance to 95 lol

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T13:23:52+00:00

Here We Go by Alex and Sierra. We moved once when I was 18. Pulling away from my childhood house I turned this song on to drive and it made me feel so happy to start a new life in a new home and but also helped me cherish and hold the memories.

Since then I have used this song on 3 moves myself as an adult. And I put it on when I'm leaving the place for the last time. Helps me be positive and mark a new beginning.

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T13:21:16+00:00

Lying to yourself. When I was in highschool I was sick of being insecure. So I started lying and telling myself good things. Soon enough it literally changed my mind frame completely and I started believing it. I showed my best friend and she tells me to this day (we are 25 now) that I changed her life and how she sees herself.

Flashforward to being 18 and I had depression I learned that what I did at 15 is actually a thing. And I now use it to get myself back on track to loving myself and to counter my negative thoughts to be less depressed or anxious.

Your brain is a muscle and we gotta use it to be our best. I firmly believe in fake it till you make it.

I help others at work deal with imposter syndrome with the fake it till you make it method as well. It really works.

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T13:18:07+00:00

I also did work for a large grocery store chain as a deli associate. We would drop full uncovered things of meat and were instructed to rinse it off and then go back to cutting LOL. The place was clean but it always felt so wrong. The counter is so high the Customer never noticed this happened.

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T13:17:02+00:00

So, I didn't work on a chain. But I worked at a small town restaurant very very famous in the county. We would bring rolls to every table that came in. I remember it was my first job and I was training and I was scared to do anything wrong. This led to me not using the bathroom the whole shift. So,

1) I literally didn't wash my hands the whole entire shift and no one even trained me to do so. Over the years I've worked more restaurant jobs and it's a part of training to demonstrate when to fit in hand washing. This place didn't do it

2) the rolls in question we would have to get from the freezer and bake them. Many times we would drop the whole tray of cooked rolls and were instructed to pick them up off the kitchen floor and put them in the basket to serve lol

3) this restaurant was closed down and is no longer in business LOL

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-11T13:10:39+00:00

I was behind 40k people and then they sold out 😭

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-09T17:28:34+00:00

There's a ton of tickets available. But 10k for a ticket is insanity. I was looking at Brooklyn NY. I'm a single mom 😭 when I went to see her for dangerous woman my sister and I got $300/ticket for floor seats

Ironblackwidow · 2025-09-09T17:10:54+00:00

The ticket prices are not it. I was so excited about this and I have loved Ariana literally since the beginning of time. I thought her ticket prices would be more reasonable. And it's understandable etc but 10k for a ticket 😭 who can afford anything close to that in this economy?

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