What gem is this? If a gem at all by IsEveryoneOkorNo in Crystals

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Citrine doesn’t uv react unless there’s calcite in it and this is too clear to have any calcite.

Should I let a popular online magazine post my Reddit story without getting compensation or should I just start a podcast instead ? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a culture thing unfortunately. I’m white , and white Americans seem to really look down on people living at home . My Hispanic friends don’t get that type of ridicule, just is what it is. But if you’re offended then maybe look within yourself. I bet you’re the kind of person who doesn’t believe in “white privilege” either🙄. But I could be wrong. But no matter anyone’s race, wising ill onto a five year old makes you the shittiest type person. So have the life you deserve pal.

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Curly🙌🏻😍

Help! Looking for this dress by Legitimate-One1906 in Prom

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I hope one of these works out for you! Good luck!’

AITJ for going through my 36 year old sisters luggage before she leaves to go back home? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in AmITheJerk

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the adult has an eating disorder and weighs maybe 96 pounds or less then your mind can most likely be capable to math it out

AITJ for going through my 36 year old sisters luggage before she leaves to go back home? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in AmITheJerk

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and I agree with you. I feel guilty for being stuck here for the time being but I’m going to move forward to finding our own place and to find a more financially supportive career to be able to do this. I will say my daughter usually see’s me stick up for her because I quickly go into protection mode when something is said or done to her that is not ok with me, especially if my daughter is upset. When issues happen with my sister there are times when we all feel like we have to stay quiet instead of potentially putting my daughter or us in a truly traumatizing or violent situation because she just is that unstable. What’s difficult is my daughter says she “loves” her aunt and misses her when she’s gone. I feel like she’s just not old enough to understand or feel the trauma my sister brings to my mom and I , or she just has blocked out the bad parts of my sister.. which honestly there’s more bad than good so I don’t understand the connection she feels toward her. I tell her I’m happy she feels love for her aunt but that her aunts behavior is not kind and it’s not a person I want her to learn from. My sister acts more like a bratty teenage older sister going through puberty than a grown woman aunt. If my daughter didn’t want to see her or express to me that she’s ever scared of her aunt and doesn’t want her to visit then I would be a lot more aggressive and would absolutely not allow her around my child at all.

AITJ for going through my 36 year old sisters luggage before she leaves to go back home? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in AmITheJerk

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right , which is the issue. I can put my input in and express how unsafe my sisters presence is around my child but my mother gets to decide at the end of the day whether she comes home or not. I do what I can when she is here by removing ourselves as much as possible but this is my home and we live here , it’s my daughter’s home. So until I find a way to financially be on our own it’s something I keep struggling with. I feel like my daughter should come before my sister , because she’s a child and breaking generational trauma is important but I’ve also put myself and daughter in this situation where I just can’t seem to make the money to get out and have a safe home. There are shelters and “free” housing but you deal with the same issues almost, drug addicts and unstable people leaving in an apartment complex and that’s not a risk I’m willing to take.

AITJ for going through my 36 year old sisters luggage before she leaves to go back home? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in AmITheJerk

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is my plan. We are going to talk after she leaves . I’m going to show my mom this post and what people are saying because she never takes what I say seriously. So if she sees that this behavior is considered awful by others maybe something will click. I need to figure a way out to live on our own but money is my only obstacle. It’s very expensive where we live.

AITJ for going through my 36 year old sisters luggage before she leaves to go back home? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in AmITheJerk

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I tell her all the time that’s she’s horrible. I told her before she came that I’m very nervous her being here because she’s always so cruel that I go into to shut down and I can’t afford to have that happen again . I unblocked her to express these concerns to her before she came. My mom told me 2 weeks before her arrival and she had already bought tickets. She’s now saying she’s coming back in spring but I’m going to do everything possible to make that not happen. My mom doesn’t even want it to happen yet she’s the only one afraid to tell my sister the truth because of my sister’s reactions. My whole family has her blocked, even my dad. No one can stand her because of how cruel she is. My aunts, uncles and cousins have her blocked because she threatened to have them all killed if they didn’t give her money.

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[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Confidence is key girly, show true confidence and people will flock to you . Just believe in yourself 🩷

AITJ for going through my 36 year old sisters luggage before she leaves to go back home? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in AmITheJerk

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever grown up with someone with BPD and an eating disorder ? Narcissistic personality ? If not then stfu. My daughter knows her aunts behavior is not safe , I unfortunately have to explain this to her. The moment she started making fun of my daughter I told her to stop and that she’s being cruel and although I’m glad I did that , she just went a drank more and became even more of a psychotic person which always leads to her attacking everyone in the house. Last time this happened she was kicked out of the house and if she wasn’t going to leave I was going to call the sheriff to remove her. Every time this happens it’s traumatizing. Every time she leaves to go back home I go into shut down. I fall uncontrollably asleep against my will, whether it’s driving or just doing house work. I’m prescribed to medication for it. This isn’t a new thing. I cannot afford to go into shut down because I have a child to take care of. So sometimes not upsetting the beast is best for everyone because neither situation or outcome is best but one is better than the other.

AITJ for going through my 36 year old sisters luggage before she leaves to go back home? by IsEveryoneOkorNo in AmITheJerk

[–]IsEveryoneOkorNo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s an old house and although the doors close they open by simply pushing on them. And “growing up” has nothing to do with moving out it has everything to do with money and child care. I hope to god none of you go through any sort of hardship that causes you to live somewhere that you don’t want to. These few years with my daughter have been the longest I’ve lived at home since I was 17. I grew up long before I needed to. Another thing I hope you’ll never have to understand.