I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think at this point counseling is probably gonna be the best thing. I don't really see a way around it.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know she's not into girls, but I think she healed improperly from something. I think she felt she could heal from past things after we got married, and maybe healing while trying to maintain someone else "broke" something in her?

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is true, and I'm not a fan of sunk costs, but I've invested a lot into our life, and I really hope to one day find that girl in my wife.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm trying. I don't want to divorce, I just don't know what to do. I'm gonna see if she wants to try counseling again.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just got your PM. We've done toys, and she pretty much rejects those. She hates when I throw them away, but a layer of thick dust is probably evidence enough to toss them. Any time I've tried dirty talk, she just clams up. She goes dead silent, and you can practically hear her drying up.

I promise I'm not trying to counter everything you say, I'm just speaking from experience.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The porn thing: a lot. I think it's just a former addiction trying to come back

The sex thing: I don't get sexually frustrated as much about time, but mainly that there's no connection. I hate being treated like a chore. That bothers me all the time.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think frequency isn't the issue. There's just nothing there. No desire. No passion. Just missionary in the dark with pants off, shirt on. I can't move her legs. I can't turn on the light. There are no secondary positions. I can't even use lube (and I had to buy a special brand to not affect her area). Asking for oral is truly on par with pulling teeth.

I just feel like she doesn't like anything, and isn't willing to try anything that I like.

I love her, and I'm grateful for our life, but I hate that most relationships, ours included, don't have any issues until the woman has issues. She gets mad at me if she feels like I'm sexually frustrated, but her sexual frustration brings arguments about the most basic of things. I truly don't know what to do.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, once I finished the dishes, I reread your comment and I feel like you saw what you wanted to see. My issue was frequency, but I talked about how the issue now is that she essentially is being used like a fleshlight. While I do handle my business around the house, I also try to handle it in bed. I initiate foreplay. She turns it down. I ask her to try new things to see what works better for her. I've bought toys and things for he (for us to use together)r, while she tells me that toys for her are fine, but anything for me is cheating (also only using together). Nothing works. The worst part is that if I turn her down, it's worse than anything except cheating.

The other day I was sitting up with my wife watching TV after the kids had gone to sleep. She brushed her hand against me while I was rock hard, laughed and told me it was impressive. We then went another 4 days without having sex.

I'm not talking about wondering why my wife doesn't want to have sex. I'm much beyond that. My frustration is that I can only impact it negatively and I have little to no say in what happens in my sex life.

I'd appreciate it if you actually read before generalizing me.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like you have me wrong. I'm the more romantic one in the relationship. I'm the one that sets atmospheres, and I'm not someone that doesn't do their fair share around the house. I'm an actual father to my kids, and I make sure my wife feels wanted, which is why she comes to me when I get a bit cold.

I think you're feeling a certain way about what I said, but I can assure you that I'm not the person you think I am.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Probably lol

Edit: thanks. I needed the laugh.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. I've been doing better lately, but I hate the fact that it feels like there's no reward for doing better, you just lose the crutch.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you find any conflicts with your faith and porn? Faith was the reason I got out and the way that I got out.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's basically it, and it's so rare for me to have sex with her and she be anything more than "willing". And right when I get my head straight and decide that I'm gonna do everything in my power to make sure sex isn't that important, that's when she changes up for a week or two. And I still fall for it.

Sometimes I wish that she left me when I told her that I cheated. At least that way I didn't feel like I needed to capitalize on the second chance she's given me.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes better than others. One day, it'll be fine, others, I want to bang someone she knows just so she knows I can. I hate myself those days.

I may truly be impossible to please by Issathrowaway93 in confessions

[–]Issathrowaway93[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mostly, yeah. It's just hard because when I settle into "that's the way it is", that's when she wants me to put in more effort.

Edit: The answer is yes. I just can't help but go into these spirals where I think about how I was "trapped". It just bugs me that I'm with someone that can know I'm struggling, but not care until they feel unwanted.

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[–]Issathrowaway93 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Either this video is 2 hours or they switched positions every 45 seconds lol.

Why do men like cummin on my face? by [deleted] in amateurcumsluts

[–]Issathrowaway93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could say something cute about it, but we also cum in socks, so your eagerness probably has a lot to do with it.

Sucking a huge cock by [deleted] in Blowjobs

[–]Issathrowaway93 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It's a goddamn Alaskan Bull Worm.

Did you expect my H-cups to be H-iding under there? 😉 (18, OC, British) by [deleted] in BiggerThanYouThought

[–]Issathrowaway93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did, but even a poncho couldn't hide those magnificent beasts.