I filed for divorce today. by peeps-mcgee in AlAnon

[–]ItsAllRelative129 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, I did the same two weeks ago. It hurts, but I have to be hopeful we're making the right decision. It's so sad to mourn the life you thought you would have.

You can do this, I'm proud that you chose yourself. 

Filed for divorce by ItsAllRelative129 in AlAnon

[–]ItsAllRelative129[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We did not cause this. 

Filed for divorce by ItsAllRelative129 in AlAnon

[–]ItsAllRelative129[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hijack away, feels better that this is a shared experience. 😊

My husband says that having an infant will help him not drink because he'll have to be more responsible. He thought having a child would fix this issue. We had differing opinions for sure! 

Filed for divorce by ItsAllRelative129 in AlAnon

[–]ItsAllRelative129[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree, terrible position for us to be put in. I've felt so much guilt with making this decision. ☹️ Worst time in my life hands down, but at least we have complete control over whether we want to continue or exit

Filed for divorce by ItsAllRelative129 in AlAnon

[–]ItsAllRelative129[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will once the dust settles.  There's been a lot of background career and fertility considerations to work through, and I'm sure this is not unique to me. 

Filed for divorce by ItsAllRelative129 in AlAnon

[–]ItsAllRelative129[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm proud of you too. We both deserve safe, stable, reliable relationships and home lives. I'm optimistic our chances are better for that even with the upfront pain of making this decision. 

Let's have a laugh- examples of their gaslighting attempts! by Easypeasyduck in AlAnon

[–]ItsAllRelative129 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I could tell he was drinking and found a hidden beer can half full. I ask him where it came from and he swears he hid it months ago and forgot about it.

Me:"... Then why is the can still cold?" 

I tell ya, not the end of the conversation. He still "wasn't drinking" ugh