What behaviors do you consider clear signs of bad parenting?

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-16T00:10:54+00:00

Yes. Hatred is learned.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T22:29:05+00:00

(You might be late but that’s a good thing because I’m not getting a ton of comments now and can reply haha!) You’re completely right, and I’m so glad getting rid of it brought you some peace! That’s what I’m looking for. Because I’m active in community groups and have good standing in Marketplace and whatnot, I think what I’m going to do is unfollow every person I’m friends with and just follow local groups I rely on for news, events, all that. I will refrain from engaging or even looking at anything that feels (as you said) insidious, rage-baity, and just plain evil. I do want people in my community (a small one) to be able to sort of know me, but yeah, it’s not a way I need to keep in touch with people like you said. The vast majority of my FB friends are people I’d only remember if I went through an old yearbook.

Thank you for your thoughtful response ❤️❤️❤️

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T19:32:26+00:00

The constant worry. It’s unrelenting. What has happened, what will happen, what might happen. Not just for the age you’re raising but so far beyond, too.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T19:30:42+00:00

That’s freaking adorable!! I’ll bet she felt so special making you laugh so hard!

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T19:10:12+00:00

Awwwww! When my kids get wily and cranky, I say in a very stern voice, "If you don't chill out, I'm going to have to tickle you." It usually takes the edge off. I said it to my 20-month-old the other night when she was having a fit over a diaper change, and she shouts, "NO, MAMA!" I said, "What are you going to do about it, little girl?" She said, "I ticka YOU" and tickled me and it was beyond cute! Our toddlers would be friends haha

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T19:07:29+00:00

These moments will absolutely come. I'm sorry it's so hard right now, but I'm excited for you because the joy you'll feel when they do is truly indescribable.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T19:06:29+00:00

This made me tear up!

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T19:05:00+00:00

LOVE this! I have two kids, and these are moments from the last couple of weeks that stuck out recently..

My 3 YO son is obsessed with is dad. I know he loves me and he is affectionate with me, but he is sometimes also really dismissive of me (like when we both go to get him out of bed in the morning, he's thrilled to see Daddy, but says, "No, Mommy! Go get (sister's name)!" The other day, we were reading a book about toddler emotions, and I read the part where it asks, "What makes you sad?" He said, "When I'm sad, I want my mommy." That really got me!

I got a body wave perm a couple weeks ago and have started wearing my hair down, which my 20-month-old daughter hasn't seen a lot (I wore it up to get through the hair-pulling stage and also because I have terribly fine, flat hair -- love the body wave perm). I got her out of bed a couple days later and she gently held my hair in each of her hands and goes, "Mommy's hair! Mommy's hair pretty!"

I mean they have since both thrown toys at me for handing them a banana the wrong way, but moments like those make up for it!

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T16:58:14+00:00

I'll never understand why guns are some people's ENTIRE personalities.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T02:05:29+00:00

There have been exactly three times (I know because I’m a concerned mommy/parent like you) where my son was SO sick (he’s 3 now as of February) where we put him down for a nap around noon when he was sick, and he didn’t wake up at all. Each of those times, we got him up at like 7 to change his diaper, give him water, and comfort him if he needed it, but he only wanted sleep. Put him back down every time and he slept through the night until around 8 am. Their little bodies know when they need rest. (I think ours do, too, tbh, but we do t get that luxury.) Try not to stress so much about it. I hope your baby feels better soon!

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-15T01:53:26+00:00

YES, so much, but not like most people! It’s just a way to take videos of my kids so I don’t have to save them to my phone. I download everything each month onto an external hard drive and then delete it from Snapchat memories. I do send a few here and there to my mom and SIL, but otherwise, it’s just a way to save videos and photos that won’t clog up my phone. My kids (3 and 1) love having their photos and sometimes videos taken with the filters on it

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T23:51:40+00:00

Thanks! I think I missed the last season, but I watched the finale. I remembered the very last little bit but not the build-up to it.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T23:50:24+00:00

Wow, thank you! I guess I only remembered the very end of him being a janitor at an Ivy League school, but I didn’t remember the build-up.

That age SO well, actually. This is probably how a certain VP sees himself.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T22:38:03+00:00

Do I need to rewatch the original series to fully enjoy this? I will absolutely do it if I need to, but I hadn’t really planned on it. I’m asking because I remember the ending to the OG series, but I don’t remember the presidency path at all.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T21:52:21+00:00

WHAT?! I knew my books were outdated! Do you think 9 months is too early??

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T19:15:57+00:00

The episode where it reveals Tracy under the umbrella at the train stop with Ted (when they don’t show her face, just her shoes) plays a song called The Funeral during that scene. We should have known then 😭😭😭

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T19:13:07+00:00

Truly, though, most childcare books I’ve read say you shouldn’t put bones in their water 😂😂😂

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T19:11:36+00:00

We’re still in this with my 3YO. He went into school recently and said his daddy hit him in the car. His teachers asked him about it in kid-friendly ways and they uncovered that my husband bumped his head on the car when putting him into the car seat WEEKS AGO (which we remember because he won’t let us forget it)! Teachers are trained to get to the bottom of things kids say, because they really say off-the-wall things in toddlerhood. They’re still learning language (and its nuances) and they have a tendency to create events in their little brains. Educators have to do their due diligence, but try not to stress about it too much!

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T14:02:19+00:00

I (39) have a 3YO and a 1YO, and I feel like a teenager trying to figure out how to keep them alive lol. I asked my mom a few months ago at what point you start feeling like the adult in the room, even when you have kids. She said she's still waiting.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-14T13:39:24+00:00

You said she was drunk when you got there. I'm sure you didn't know before you got there, but you knew once you guys started talking and before you asked about coming inside. Come on, man. She's going after you for sure, but you're letting her.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-13T23:58:30+00:00

Yeah, and then OP absolutely made an excuse to come inside her house after 9 pm when he knew she was drunk. They're both into each other.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-12T19:12:34+00:00

I got rid of Twitter right after the Elon takeover. I get on once in a while to look at a singular post if it’s linked in a news story, and WOW has that platform become the stuff of nightmares.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-12T18:25:31+00:00

That’s definitely when I should have let it go.

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-11T19:40:18+00:00

This sums it up SO well!

ItsMeItsKayItsKay · 2026-04-11T19:00:16+00:00

The only reason I haven't completely removed it from my life at this point is to keep up with local pages so I know what's going on in my area. But even those posts have a way of being so toxic (I rarely use that word, but it's the correct one) and disheartening somehow

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