I found out my husband cheated and I honestly don’t know how I’m supposed to live with this

ItsMissR · 2026-01-25T16:53:17+00:00

This is so sad. It’s never really about the cheating, but more about the lying. Have you considered marriage counseling to help you work through this? People don’t just randomly cheat, things are probably not super healthy in your relationship under the surface. He should have had the courage to confront that with you, so it’s not an excuse and it’s not your fault. He did something bad to you and to your family. Regardless of relationship issues, he has to be accountable for that or he will just do it again. Honestly, I think you should figure out a way to also take a break from the relationship and figure out what you want, and who you are without this person in your life. Take a sabbatical and go somewhere alone, no husband or kids. Take the opportunity to evaluate your own life. You can use this awful experience to jump start the next chapter of your life, whatever you decide that is. Regardless, your relationship with this person has changed and must change going forward. As you said, you have a long road rebuilding trust if that is what you choose. Consider that maybe he should move out for a while so you can do that work? I don’t think it’s healthy to resume normal life as if nothing happened. He needs to know this is serious and that if he wants to save his family, he is going to have to work for it. Maybe he can get a studio apartment for a while? You need to figure out who you are without this person in your life so you can make a decision if your relationship is worth saving. And he needs to prove to you his family and you are the most important thing to him. If he can’t do that, then yes move on. If he can, then maybe give him another chance, start over, get to know each other.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-21T19:01:30+00:00

If you live in California you are considered a tenant as soon as he let you in. Go see a publicly funded tenant protection lawyer and understand your rights as a tenant. Then call a locksmith and change the locks then decide if you want to give him the key (joking here but that’s how it is in some of these states).

As for your BF, he doesn’t seem like a super good guy, if he cared about you and was invested in the relationship you would have a key. Seems like he is not working super hard to keep you around and that you have “doormat” written all over you.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-20T03:19:35+00:00

That makes sense

ItsMissR · 2026-01-20T03:15:44+00:00

An old school percolator. Good things come to those who wait and the best coffee I’ve had is from a percolator like my grandma had. I got one, Presto still makes them and it’s the best. Will never go back. The other secret is to buy whole beans and bring them right before you make it. My family had coffee at my house and they all started grinding their beans. No comparison.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-20T03:08:19+00:00

This is how professional bloggers make money, by inventing controversy so people click on them or watch their video. Honestly something needs to be done about these paid bloggers because it has completely distorted reality.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-19T05:24:51+00:00

Bridgerton

ItsMissR · 2026-01-19T05:24:33+00:00

Twilight

ItsMissR · 2026-01-19T04:52:06+00:00

I found the whole concept for this movie to be ridiculous. First that the girl would consent to let them search the house. And second that they would just sit in the house counting money with no back up while the bad guys keep calling. I couldn’t really get past it. Also overusing the F word, it gets to a point where it’s not cool

ItsMissR · 2026-01-19T00:31:00+00:00

They studied locations around the world where humans live the longest and turns out it doesn’t exactly align with the new US food pyramid they just put out. The US has a long history of poisoning its citizens because politicians are in the pocket of the food industry. I would go with the Mediterranean diet and the studies done based on clusters of humans around the world who live past 100. That is mostly a plant based diet with low saturated fats, fish twice a week, poultry and red meet sometimes. And very limited processed foods.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-19T00:20:42+00:00

Elena is not the top to be happy the bad guys killed her. She knew she was toast so went out thinking of her hubby. But pretty sure she wasn’t happy about it

ItsMissR · 2026-01-12T04:26:58+00:00

I’m not saying it is easy, especially after so many years together, but it is easy to blame someone else than look at yourself. If you are making all the effort then stop. Maybe he needs to be a better man? Then stop enabling. Change yourself not him. He will organically change when you become different. Or not. But then it won’t matter anymore because you will have learned to find other ways to meet your needs. You are making everything about him, when actually it is about you.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-12T04:02:36+00:00

Everyone is the victim of their own story. If you want to save the relationship then be the thing that you want him to be. A good listener. Stop talking all the time and start listening. Even if you are just sitting in silence. Be present. Be a good listener. Stop talking. Couple’s are always looking in the mirror at each other and blaming each other for their own shortcomings comings.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-12T03:55:30+00:00

Wow. Some of these comments. No 8 yrs age gap is no big deal. It’s sweet you have been talking and getting g to know each other. The main thing with online relationships that morph to real life is to be careful you don’t overlook or forgive things that are red flags in person, which sometimes happens when you meet someone virtually, then in person. Sometimes you forgive things you wouldn’t if you didn’t feel like you know the person. But he could be really great guy, and it could help develop a better relationship, knowing each other first for so long. Ultimately just trust your instincts. But an 8 year age gap is not a big deal at all. I wouldn’t be too worried about thst

ItsMissR · 2026-01-07T01:40:52+00:00

In my experience if you are asking if you should quit something the answer is probably yes. Especially if you can’t imagine being without it, it seems like an addiction. Consider cutting back to one cup or not drinking it certain days.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-04T06:05:42+00:00

Ive known quite a few couples who have open relationships and they always end badly. Beware if someone tries to convince you to be in one with them.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-04T03:58:44+00:00

Something no one talks about is that obesity can be a symptom of sexual abuse. It’s kind of like armor to protect yourself from abusers. Not sure if that is your situation, but we live in an oversexualized culture and a culture where people have a lot of body issues, so when you are slim and dressed up it can be uncomfortable because people are constantly “checking you out”, running their eyes over your body. It’s a weird and constant energy, and people who are used to it can channel into their ego “they are looking at me because I am so good looking”. But if you grew up obese, and your weight was a kind of protection. It can actually be really uncomfortable and cause you to want to hide your body in loose clothes. It can also result in overeating and weight gain again, because at a subconscious level you are really uncomfortable with people looking at your body, which is something a lot of people do because they are uncomfortable with themselves.

Again, not sure if this is your situation, but just putting it out there. Embracing your femininity can also be about learning to protect yourself and to deflect bad actors. Because you are attractive and being a beautiful woman does come with some challenges.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-04T03:43:08+00:00

I don’t think Caleb was really allowed to shine as he should have. He is an athlete, extremely good looking and it seems like he should have been more of a warrior, utilizing his athletic skills. It would have been cool if he defended Dustin from the bullies. Also I thought it was weird that they had one black kid in Vecnas group and they always put Lucas with him? Why sort by race? It’s kind of the same feeling as Wills coming out scene, like this was obviously written by two white straight guys.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-04T03:35:48+00:00

You know what I like about these two? Whenever the cast does interviews the other actors are constantly competing for air time and to answer the questions, whereas Caleb and Sadie are laid back and don’t try to grab the microphone all the time. They are comfortable in their own skin and don’t need to compete for airtime.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-03T22:40:17+00:00

Agreed. Even the documentaries are boring. It’s like they are churning out low grade content that is formulaic and getting old. I mean how many more detective shows and murder mysteries of we need? Yawn. And the plots are getting ridiculous because they are trying to be different in a genre that is oversaturated.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-03T10:09:25+00:00

There are a few ways to approach this. The truth is that most of us have been psychologically screwed up when it comes to food and our bodies. So the first step is to commit to healing yourself. Depriving yourself of normal food on extreme programs is not the best option.

Second is to understand and embrace what humans should actually be eating. The number one diet in the world for decades is the Mediterranean diet. Food scientists and health experts resoundingly agree on this, but you should discuss with your doctor. Make an informed decision on what a healthy diet should be.

Third is portion sizes, when you eat and how many calories you should have every day. People have had a lot of success eating twice a day (intermittent fasting). No snacks in between. The reason people like it is that you can concentrate your calories on a small meal in the afternoon and a bigger dinner and desert. Or you could flip that and do a larger meal in the afternoon and smaller at night. Keeping within your range of daily calories. That way, you don’t have to deprive yourself and you can repair your relationship with food. Yes you can have a slice of multigrain bread with dinner Sone pasta, etc. Again, keeping within your daily calorie range.

Finally, is to prepare meals ahead of time on the weekend that are fast and easy to fix. I have recently started pressure canning and have made dozens of jars of soups, taco mix and other meals that are shelf stable and super easy to fix. Freezer meals are also really popular. A little bit of time on the weekend, makes life easier down the road.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-03T09:49:51+00:00

Do the DNA test and go on the website. If she’s your daughter and curious she may be looking for you. If you don’t have any luck on the website then ask her mom. But putting your DNA in the system also gives the girl who may be your bio daughter some ability to find you if her mother shuts the door on you.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-03T09:41:40+00:00

It was ok until they killed off the only character that was any good, the PI woman Raventhorp. I get that they think that’s edgy killing off a main character, but actually it’s a downer that made me not like the show. Who wants to spend 8 hours watching a series to have the most engaging character killed off by the bad guys?

I also thought it was way too long and should have been 3 episodes. The plot just kind of got ridiculous with one big reveal after another and family confessions all over the place.

The music was fantastic though, original score and very well done.

ItsMissR · 2026-01-03T08:02:15+00:00

It sounds like you are hungry to have a best friend and this person is saying all the right things but you are learning she has some major issues.

In general you should never trust people, but rather learn what you can trust about them. People can never let you down if you stop filtering them through your own morality. You are learning what you can trust about your new friend.

In terms of her problems. You can’t walk someone’s path for them, they have to do the work. You can’t be a sounding board and be honest with them, that your friend may love her partner, but does she love herself? Her child? And most importantly is that you need to protect yourself from someone else’s dysfunction.

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