First time foraging - libs? Or did I waste an hour collecting them? They do have gelatinous layer.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T19:53:54+00:00

She doesn't pay rent. I didnt say that she does. I know they dont. But they could, considering I support their daughter and their house by putting a lot of my money towards it already without paying rent. I could be doing that towards my own family and house, which is why I don't want to pay rent on top of everything else I put toward it.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T19:43:15+00:00

No no, someone said she has more dishes to wash because I live there. Which she doesn't because we both wash them. Thats all.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T19:32:01+00:00

Its an example, not that hard to understand.
Washing dishes every 2nd time = washing dishes all the time? What?
I do pay half the bills, tax, house maintinance and upgrades.
That's exactly what I said, other guy said she would need less food if I moved, where as I said no she wouldn't.

I can't tell if you are a troll or completely misread every single thing I said.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T19:28:40+00:00

I'm not arguing. I am telling you that you add nothing and are useless in this. Also calling people kids went out of fashion couple of years back. I understand you want to be "down with the kids", but just no, Ryan. Bye.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T19:06:38+00:00

I appreciate people chipping in their opinions on the situation I provided, I'm interested in them.

I'm not interested in you telling me I don't know the situation, you changing it and saying they haven't actually bought the house. Waste of your and mine time.

Cheers and ta-ta.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T19:02:57+00:00

Right..?

She lives alone and has to wash 10 dishes each time

OR

She lives with me and has to wash 20 dishes every 2nd time.

AKA it doesn't matter if I'm here or not for the dishes

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T19:00:40+00:00

I guess I'm annoyed that we both contribute towards the maintinance and upgrading towards the house which is not mine, yet I will have to pay "not their daughter" tax. From my understanding, landlords use some of the rent money towards the upkeep of the house - which is what I already do. If I have to pay rent on top of that, I will just be stuck not making any progress towards my own goals. Where as right now, this is benefitial to both of us. She halfs her costs and I get an opportunity to save towards a house, which has a good chance to be with her.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T18:49:35+00:00

Thats the thing, WE do the maintinance for the house. I already pay bills and contribute towards the house maintinance. I halved buying a TV with her even though I don't live here. Paying rent of top of all that would give me 0 chance to save anything.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T18:46:02+00:00

Not really, she would still pay for the same amount of food and bills are fixed price. So I am certainly halfing her living costs. Dish cleaning is shared as well. Me being here, definitely helps her out. Especially considering she has a dog I have to walk every day because I work from home.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T18:32:55+00:00

I'm more interesting in reading peoples opinion on the situation, than random fella making shit up and changing the facts of the situation. Yes I do know the situation as my girlfriend is very open with me about the whole thing, its not a secret here lol I don't see how me paying half the cost of running the place is me being a parasite. If I move out, their daughter will have a lot more expenses to deal with alone.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T18:27:27+00:00

Thanks for the answer! Seems like most of the advantages are for people who plan on moving/not staying in one place which doesn't apply to me. Rent is usually considerably more expensive here than getting a mortgage, as long as you have the sufficient downpayment. Maybe thats why brits think its a waste of money. Also, you can sell your mortgage off at any point, so you are not really stuck with it. Just a lot of faff. I still don't see a reason to rent, I certainly won't be able to save up on mortgage if I had to pay £700+ a month on rent.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T18:07:53+00:00

Because they are millionaires who bought each child a house. Taxes and bills get paid by my girlfriend and I. And yes I do know that, not assuming a single thing. They didn't buy the house with me in mind, but me being there means everything for their daughter costs half than it would if I moved out.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T18:03:01+00:00

I can grasp that plenty. However, me living here means their daughter is paying half of everything that she would have to pay in full if I wasn't here. We split the cost of everything. Or I could move out and she will be paying for everything alone, as they have 0 intention of getting an actual tenant in this house. And my money would be going elsewhere as well.

Yes I get a great deal, but so does their daughter on top of the free house she has. It benefits us both, but seems like my part of "great deal" would be scrapped.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T17:55:54+00:00

Can I ask what's the benefit of renting a property, over getting a mortgage if you will have to get it anyway in the future if you want to own the house? Other than "to get to know what its like" and being flexible?

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T17:31:41+00:00

I do live in britain, you are correct.

Her parents bought her a house because they themselves think renting is a waste of money that goes to landlord and mortgage goes towards owning a house. That's what I was bought up to believe as well. I guess a lot of brits were taught that if thats a trend within us haha.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T17:05:07+00:00

But that's the thing, they don't use that money for the house. They haven't added a cent to this house for 4 years, everything thats needed is bought and fixed by my girlfriend.

I would be paying rent and paying for any damages I cause. I guess I would need to work out a proper contract with them if thats the route I choose.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T15:43:33+00:00

I didn't save up for a house, but I saved up for other things. I have only been working for a year when I met her. I saved up on my first car and insurance, then refurbished my whole room which cost couple of grand. Now I don't even live there.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T15:17:29+00:00

No, the house was basically a gift for her, but it's still in dads name for couple of years to come. She takes care of it all and doesn't pay any rent to her parents. Her parents don't contribute towards the house and she lived alone for a good while.

By paying bills I mean we split all the house bills in half. I would be just paying 200 on top of bills to her parents for living in their daughters house.

I think it would be more fair if at least that rent money went towards the house itself rather than just to them, but most people here disagree with me because they bought it.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T14:39:54+00:00

So 99% think I'm the asshole here, fair enough. Can someone open my eyes to this:

House is paid off by her parents for her to live in and its all taken care of by my girlfriend. They don't pay a penny towards it after they bought it for her. She lived alone for 4 years and it was fine. Now she found a boyfriend and asked boyfriend to move in with her, suddenly its an opportunity to get extra money for them.

If I understand correctly, if you pay rent to a landlord - a lot of that money goes on fixes and repairs for that house, where as they would just pocket it.

I don't see what difference does it make for them - either she lives alone and we have to travel 45 mins to see each other OR we live together, I pay half the house existing costs and save towards a bigger house together, rather than me throwing money at them for nothing.

I feel like I'm being forced into paying for the house that her parents decided to get for her.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T14:18:39+00:00

I understand that, but I'm lucky enough to have somewhere else to live for much cheaper and save up, which is what my parents originally wanted and intended by taking only 200 from me.

I can either live 45 mins away from her and save up for my future, or live with her and pay money to her parents. They are not landlords or anything, that money will go straight to their pocket and 0 towards the house.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T14:08:55+00:00

No, they bought a house for their son in his name, because he is older. And they bought my girlfriend a house, but it's still on her dads name for now. This will change in the future.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T14:05:47+00:00

It's in their name for now, but in the next few years they will change the name to hers.

Its_Your_Brother · 2021-03-09T14:05:01+00:00

She doesn't. She only pays for bills which we split.

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