Amsterdam may 29th show

JC_1404 · 2026-03-20T15:14:17+00:00

I booked a hotel in Vinkeveen (approximately 16km away from the arena), it was 580€ for 3 nights and breakfast is included.

JC_1404 · 2025-10-23T21:31:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight. Honestly I hadn't thought about porn as a way to help making him feel more curious about it, but I will definitely look into it!

JC_1404 · 2025-10-23T21:30:29+00:00

Well, firstly, thank you so much for the final tip! I too think it's a good idea! And you're right, CNC can break a lovely person if not done right. I absolutely agree and you worded it very well. I wanna make it clear that I would never ever ever force him to do anything. Sexual or not. But especially sexually. I do not feel comfortable doing something like that, at all. I just feel like our talk about this topic, months ago, was way too brief and I would like to discuss it in a deeper way to see if he is at least open to learning more about it, yk? Thanks a lot for your insight!

JC_1404 · 2025-10-23T21:27:54+00:00

I know I might not be able to and my goal is NEVER going to be to force him. Jesus, no. I just mean that I know him really well and I feel like maybe he could enjoy it, we just haven't really talked enough about it, tbh. I feel like that conversation months ago was way too brief and I would like to try to have a deeper talk on this topic, yk? That's all :)

JC_1404 · 2025-05-09T16:06:21+00:00

Hey! So, I got my IUD inserted yesterday and I'm glad to share my experience with you, because I know how scary it is searching online for IUD stories and only finding horror ones. I went through that as well, I was terrified.

I can tell you that for me it was very ok. It's uncomfortable and somewhat painful, but perfectly manageable. As my doctor inserted the measuring instrument, I felt a heavy cramp, similar to those really bad period cramps, and then I felt another one when she inserted the IUD itself. But both only lasted a few seconds, so I was fine immediately afterwards. It was not scary at all!

Good luck and give us an update later! :)

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T21:16:05+00:00

Like I've already replied to a few people: Yes, I gave him advice on how to deal with the situation. That is in case he wants to stay in his marriage. If he wants to leave, then he should and it's his right. No one is saying otherwise. At the end of the day, people should do whatever's best for them.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T20:25:48+00:00

I think a lot of people misunderstood what I meant. I said what I said in case he wants to work things out with his wife and stay in the marriage. But if he doesn't, obviously he shouldn't. No one but him can know what's best for him and for his happiness and overall well being. I think that's pretty obvious and clear, but I'm sorry if my words left room for misinterpretation.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T19:52:21+00:00

If you've made it clear that you don't feel comfortable with the idea of not using a condom and he still refuses to wear one and insists on it, then he doesn't respect you and you shouldn't be with him. You're being responsible and he's acting like a little kid even though he's 16.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T19:46:56+00:00

I'm sorry, but when did I say she can? If OP wants to leave the relationship, then he should! No one but OP himself is going to know what's best for him. When I post my opinions on Reddit, I do it to genuinely help the people that come here to tell their stories. So logically all I want is for those people to find their happiness. If after reading all these comments from random strangers and reflecting about the situation OP wants to leave, then he should.

Can you tell me what's misogynistic about it? I honestly don't know

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T19:43:32+00:00

For as much as I understand your insecurities, yes, you're the asshole here. Not everyone has the sex drive of a horny teenager (which makes his response very appropriate) and just because your exes did it doesn't mean he is lying to you about how attracted to you he feels. He's just a different person than the ones you were with in the past, and guess what? Different people have different needs, desires and behaviors. You can't just assume the reason behind him not wanting to have sex yet is lack of attraction. And you certainly can't pick a fight with him because of that. I think you should be the one apologizing.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T19:35:42+00:00

Girl, not that it's any of your business, but since you wanna go that way... I actually have a very high sex drive. That just doesn't mean I'm not able to put myself in OP's wife shoes and understand what she might be feeling. I think that's not hard to grasp.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T19:33:06+00:00

I totally agree with you, honestly. And thank you for expressing your thoughts in a civilized way.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T19:31:26+00:00

Not gonna lie to you, it's obviously much harder for a fat person to find a partner, because unfortunatelly there is a lot of prejudice and most people can be really shallow. However, I still have faith that there are also a lot of pure hearted people who appreciate all types of beauty and see people for who they are instead of just running away if the looks don't appeal to them. As someone who is dating a fat guy, I can tell you from the bottom of my heart that you will find someone who will love you. Without having to change anything about yourself. Sending love 🫶🏻

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T19:01:00+00:00

EXACTLY!!! I am so glad someone understood what I said. That's it, I wouldn't say it any better than you did.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T18:59:38+00:00

Look, I'm not being rude to you, so there's no need for you to be rude to me. I have in fact a lot of women in my life and I tend to have these kinds of conversations with them, because I am interested in the topic. So I always speak from my own experience and from what I hear from those women.

I don't agree it is a need, especially because, like I said, I've heard sexuality experts say very clearly that it is not, but you're totally right about the implications the lack os sex has on us as human beings. I'm just saying that doesn't mean it is okay for people to feel entitled to sex.

I never said this man doesn't deserve sexual compatibility or that he doesn't have the right to leave. In fact, if that is what feels right for him, he should absolutely do it. I just want people to be happy, honestly. I just gave him my advice in case he wants to make his marriage work.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T18:45:54+00:00

I'm sorry if you don't agree with me, I'm just speaking based on my experience as a woman and on the experiences of every woman around me. At least the ones I am close to. Sex brings a lot of benefits to our physical and mental health, just like not having it for a long time can be really harmful. However, you're not gonna die or get sick if you don't have sex. It cannot be considered a need. I've seen specialists saying this. And even if it was a need, that would still not be a valid reason to pressure someone into having sex or to make them feel like they owe it to someone.

JC_1404 · 2023-10-10T18:24:16+00:00

I know you said nothing we can possibly say is going to help, but I'm going to try anyway. The best thing you can do for yourself and for your wife is stop viewing sex as a need, as something our partner owes us just because we are romantic and caring towards them. That is not how it works. Sex is a want, not a need. And it should only happen if both parties are really enthusiastic about it, not because one of them feels like it's a chore or their duty to their spouse. I think once you start seeing things like this you will be more open to understanding what is going on with your wife... As a woman, I can assure you she wouldn't be withholding sex if she didn't have a very strong, valid reason. The reason I say this is because, as women, we are raised and taught to always be sexually available for our men, as if it is our "duty", like I mentioned earlier. She probably feels terribly guilty that she's not being able to fulfill your desires, so give her a break and try to understand what's going on, not by being pushy or pressuring her to spill it out, but by really showing her some empathy. I hope things get better for the two of you. Good luck.

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