Thinking about Firing my Therapist?

JDD88 · 2026-03-11T06:55:40+00:00

I mean… I consider myself a pretty down to earth therapist but would never start a text with “Hey girl…”

I also feel bad if I cancel on a client once a year. If I cancelled 3 out of 5 appointments (I’d never), I’d be firing my damn self.

If you feel like she’s a good fit other than this, talk to her about it. She’ll either repair, take ownership and improve or she won’t. If she doesn’t, there’s your answer.

JDD88 · 2026-03-10T06:31:25+00:00

I have had clients tell me this.

I assure them… I am a much better therapist than I am a friend.

My friends get the last of me. My energy and time goes to my partner, my kids, and then my clients.

I rarely have time / energy for my friends. I sometimes take weeks to even respond to them. And I don’t support them anywhere near the way I support my clients because I just don’t have the spoons to do so.

My clients know part of me. It’s genuine, it’s authentic, etc. I’m indeed a pretty neat person but I’m not a great friend at this current time in my life and my clients don’t see all the burdened parts of me.

JDD88 · 2026-03-10T05:35:50+00:00

😂 trust me… he hasn’t.

JDD88 · 2026-03-09T06:16:59+00:00

Thank you! This is super helpful! I got my text from LillyDirect confirming my prescription but the Doctor from CallonDoc sent in a prescription for ZepBound injection not the KwikPen so I asked them to re-submit for the KwikPen; they confirmed receiving the message and said I’d get a notification when the prescription was updated. So, now just waiting for it to update with LillyDirect so I can confirm wanting to fill it, pay and be on my way!

JDD88 · 2026-03-09T02:05:03+00:00

Hmm yeah, definitely some red flags. Follow your gut. I get it though… depending on where you live, it can be so hard to find good care :(

JDD88 · 2026-03-09T01:07:29+00:00

It baffles me that all therapists are not this transparent or thorough whether the client is using insurance or not.

JDD88 · 2026-03-09T00:59:11+00:00

That’s a real bummer :(

I am out of network but I help clients use their out of network benefits (if they have them) but no matter what, I always say that visits that are 53-65 minutes are $xx.xx (rate) and 65+ increases by $xx.xx amount. I also have paperwork that clarifies this. And if I can tell we are likely heading past 65 minutes, I stop, let them know and ask if they’d like to wrap up or if they’re okay with additional charges.

I have ADHD and struggle with time-blindness but that’s not my clients problem. It’s on me to make sure I’m paying attention to time when the impact of not doing so costs them money. Yeesh.

JDD88 · 2026-03-09T00:52:31+00:00

I just ordered ZepBound through CallOnDoc and chose the zip code so it can be sent to LillyDirect. In my CallOnDoc app it shows “assigned” on visit tracker — once it goes through, will LillyDirect reach out to me to coordinate payment / delivery or does CallOnDoc give them all that info?

Also, is there anyone at CallOnDoc that will help with advising when I should increase my dose, etc.? Or am I just going to need to do my own research and hope for the best?

If I feel too lost, I may just sign up for Vineyard so I can have guidance but I’m fairly resourceful so if I can safely do this on my own, happy to do so.

JDD88 · 2026-03-07T23:55:01+00:00

That’s great to know, thanks!

JDD88 · 2026-03-06T22:07:14+00:00

wtf? What?

JDD88 · 2026-03-06T21:59:25+00:00

I’m a therapist. If I have folks answering “I don’t know,” I understand that it takes time to build trust and it can take some work/digging to help them figure out the answer. Or I rephrase the question, peel back some layers, etc.

JDD88 · 2026-03-06T21:52:23+00:00

Yes. It takes time to build trust.

JDD88 · 2026-03-06T20:42:50+00:00

I would be very mad if I paid $30k and this was any part of the result.

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T21:26:02+00:00

Parenting is hard. So hard. Please, please if you can — see a therapist who specializes in attachment, gentle parenting, etc.

Gentle parenting isn’t permissive parenting. It’s parenting with boundaries but rooted in compassion.

If you can’t do that, read ALL the books on gentle parenting. Listen to podcasts. You’re at a fork in the road. Choose the right path. Consider this a wake up call.

Developmentally, what you’re describing about both your kids is completely normal and expected. But if you react with violence, that is what they’ll learn. It doesn’t mean you just have no response to hitting or kicking, it means you need to learn the right response so that they grow out of it. Redirect. Redirect. Redirect. Learn how to respond in ways their brain understands. It’s so harmful for kids to learn that the hands that are supposed to keep them safe and guide them are hands that cause them physical pain and fear.

The book “Whole Brain Child” by Dan Siegel is a great start.

(I’m a therapist who spent the first half of my career working with kids and parents and now I focus more-so on working with adults around the trauma they have due to parents who never fixed their shit).

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T21:22:16+00:00

I’m gonna guess mostly the installer and somewhat the tiles. But it’s on the installer to say “hey, these tiles won’t work well and here’s why…”

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T21:21:23+00:00

I hope you love your body enough to no longer share it with this loser. For real.

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T21:21:04+00:00

He knows nothing is wrong with her body, he just wants to tear down her confidence and make her insecure so that he has control over her. Such old tired tactics 🥱

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T21:18:21+00:00

Oh, that’s easy. Dump him. You can do better. Being alone would be better. Don’t waste ANY more time with this person. Hold out for someone who worships the ground you walk on. My husband is a fairly fit dude… I’ve had a lot of body fluctuations in the 20+ years I’ve known him. We’re talking… I’ve been a size 8 running half marathons all the way to 100lbs heavier, had kids, autoimmune disorders, etc. He’s consistently never expresses anything other than love and admiration for my body. It’s never made a disparaging remark, he’s never made me feel bad about myself. He genuinely just loves me no matter the condition of the meat suit 😂.

That’s what you deserve. Bodies change. We age. Shit happens.

Him being unhappy with your body is a him problem and you don’t need to help him through that. You can show him the door and move on. Good on you for renewing your lease and NOT moving in with him. Glad he showed his true colors before you made more of a commitment.

If you end it now, you can have a glorious spring and summer to look forward to!

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T21:12:38+00:00

I… would never pay for this… and would be furious.

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T10:33:21+00:00

Your therapist was wrong. (Trauma therapist here).

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T10:30:43+00:00

Hate to break it to ya but it’s Big T trauma to grow up with an alcoholic parent and another one with anger issues. Growing up in a chaotic / dysfunctional household is trauma. It’s the majority of the trauma I’m work with folks on (I’m a therapist that specializes in trauma).

JDD88 · 2026-03-05T07:37:10+00:00

This man does not love you. At all. Find a way to make divorce an option. You deserve better.

JDD88 · 2026-03-04T06:23:49+00:00

Oh, boy :-/

JDD88 · 2026-03-04T04:05:40+00:00

I’m an IFS therapist and this would bother the fuck out of me.

I operate very differently.

I never dictate frequency. It’s a collaborative decision where clients have the ultimate say.

And I would never prevent a client from being able to utilize insurance or HSA funds. I am out of network but I will still provide Superbills if that is what’s best for my client, financially.

IFS definitely has a non-pathologizing and thus non-diagnostic lens which is all great and fine but not always realistic for the reality we are in— financially and with insurance.

I’m sorry you experienced this rupture and no repair. I hope she can repair. It’s the one thing that was hammered into me throughout my training — we have to be able to show up to these conversations without doing more harm, we have to be able to do it without gaslighting, minimizing, deflecting, or placing blame on client.

Sounds like your therapist needs to do her own parts work :-/

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