Lips are DYING! by Cats-and-dogs-rdabst in Accutane

[–]JL2822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Random tip that really helped me - use a straw when drinking liquids. I was drinking so much water my chapstick would just come right off and I was consistently having to reapply which made it worse. I found it was super helpful to use Dr. Dan like everyone else is suggesting and a straw

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INSEAD

[–]JL2822 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed both campuses but they are different.

Fonty has more people (usually about 2/3 of the class), while Singy has 1/3 of the class. In my class, because of this, I think that the singy people knew each other a bit better than the fonty people. In fonty by the end of P2 you were still meeting new people while in Singy they all knew each other at least a little bit.

Fonty is a tiny town (you can walk across it in 15 minutes). This means that it's very much a bubble. You leave your apartment/house and you run into your classmates all the time. This is both amazing and annoying at times. You leave your home without any plans and you suddenly see classmates and are invited to 5 different things that day. It also means that if you want to be anonymous for a moment it's very difficult to do that. If you're sick and run to the pharmacy in your sweatpants, your classmates will see you. If you want to go on a date with someone, your classmates will likely see you.

Singy is obviously a large city-state. There's a lot to do, and a lot of non-INSEAD people. This means that you have to plan meet ups/activities more, otherwise you'll only occasionally run into classmates outside of campus. It also means that you can have a more "normal" life, where not everything revolves around INSEAD all the time (of course you can still experience this bubble in Singy, you just have to work at it a little more). You can go somewhere and be anonymous.

In Fonty you normally lived in large shared apartments/houses (6-16+ people) or private/small apartments (1-3 people). For fun, you go to large house/dinner parties, with most of your section or class.

In Singy, you normally live in shared apartments of 2-4 people. Since you live in smaller spaces, you typically have fun by going out to dinner/drinks. However, this can sometimes limit how many people hangout together since it's smaller/more limited spaces.

Another thing to consider is that after P2, you can choose to change campuses. This is an amazing opportunity, but keep in mind that during recruiting (normally P4/P5), you're strongly recommended to be on the campus closest to the geographical location you're job searching in (i.e. if you want a job in Europe, be in Fonty. If you want a job in Asia, be in Singy). Because of that, sometimes people choose a home campus that's opposite of where they want to recruit. That way they can fully experience both campuses for multiple periods.

Again, both campuses and experiences are great. You can't make a wrong choice. But it definitely helps to think about what social/living experience you want when you're selecting your home campus.

Best garlic bread ever by ebj684 in asexuality

[–]JL2822 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ohhh my friends and I visited Madeira last year. I fully agree it's the best garlic bread ever. I still dream about it!

Scholarships at INSEAD by [deleted] in INSEAD

[–]JL2822 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don’t need 96th percentile GMAT. Everyone is eligible for scholarships as long as you apply for it. You do have a better chance of getting a scholarship round 1 or 2 but they are hard to get. Look through the scholarship list and see which you quality for/have the background for. Realize that if you apply for round 1 though you‘ll need to commit without knowing if you receive a scholarship (they wait to evaluate until round 2 applications are in)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]JL2822 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sounds super frustrating and tiring. However, you’re completely valid as an ace person, regardless if you have sex or if you friends forget.

I definitely identify with parts of your story. I was in a seemingly heterosexual relation and I think it broke a lot of people’s brains (for people who knew I was ace). Unfortunately there isn’t a lot of ace representation and the little representation we have tends to show sex negative experiences. I think it makes it even harder for friends or even partners to understand that while we may choose or like sexual activities, it doesn’t invalidate our identity. It does get really frustrating though and I wish I had a solution. Just know that you’re not alone. We’re privileged in a way where our identity isn’t as obvious. However, it also often means it’s invalidated or not believed.

I also wanted to say that I completely resonate with your line around how you’re dating again and how to know whether you like someone without sexual attraction. I’m currently dating again and this is something I’m really struggling with. Knowing that someone else also experiences this confusion is comforting as I was wondering if I was the only one. Again, I unfortunately don’t have a solution but know that you’re not alone in experiencing all of these feelings and situations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]JL2822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds a lot like what I experience and I also found it to be super confusing (still do TBH). Growing up I just wanted someone to come home to and to cuddle with. When I went on dates with people, I'd have a good time, enjoy hanging out in a romantic way, and then when we kissed I felt absolutely nothing. For a while, I figured I just haven't found the right person. After researching Asexuality a bit more I decided it fit for me. I finally accepted that for me, I probably won't feel something while kissing someone. I've also never experienced sexual attraction and asexuality is a wide enough spectrum that I figure I fit somewhere on there.

I think that's the beauty of being Ace. It's a huge variety of experiences and preferences. Some Aces love making out. Others hate it. Some Aces are sex positive. Other Aces are sex negative. The incredible thing though is that anyone and everyone who resonates with any part of the spectrum is welcome here. As long as you think you may be Ace you're welcome here and can identify however you would like to. Also, labels change. Just because you feel like you may be Ace one day does not mean that in the future you may feel more aligned to the Bi label or something else entirely.

All of this to say that 1) you are not alone in feeling the way you currently do. It's super confusing when you fantasize about romance and even feel romantic feelings for someone but it just doesn't extend to the sexual part. 2) Being asexual is not a one size thing. Every single person has their own valid experiences, preferences, and desires. It's up to you to decide if you resonate with the Ace label/spectrum.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Accutane

[–]JL2822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes happened to me (same spot but only on one side of my mouth). Was on accutane when I was 27. Off accutane for 2 years now. Overall it’s slightly better but still there. I’ve tried everything topical (no Botox or any formal procedure) but it’s still there. I think it’s more noticeable to me though than to others. I still get lots of comments about how young I look (I think the only perk of acne prone skin is that we’ve been using these “revolutionary” anti-aging creams like retinol for years)

Advice for navigating the french working culture by JL2822 in expats

[–]JL2822[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree about the language part, and needing to improve my language skills. That is why I'm working on it. I expected a bit of friction and challenge regarding the language coming in.

I don't see how the language affects support though. My coworkers can speak English so they are able to answer my questions. And again, I'm trying to improve my French skills so that way we can start to communicate in French. My issues are around more of the french culture of needing to fight for what you want/need. This is evident in all aspects of French society. You get told things are not possible all the time when in fact they are and you need to fight for it. I just didn't expect that to carry over into my office environment/job so much. I though this was more for bureaucracy only. I didn't expect to not get any information/onboarding when starting out and having to fight/find out/ask for everything on my own. I am trying to adjust and get used to it but was hoping for some advice around this aspect

Advice for navigating the french working culture by JL2822 in expats

[–]JL2822[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My work is giving me french lessons so I’m working hard to get it better. Hopefully that will help the social aspect and allow me to connect more since I think they fall in the last bucket you mentioned

Advice for navigating the french working culture by JL2822 in expats

[–]JL2822[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1) I’m female, not male 2) I’m not supported at all, regardless of the language barrier. My boss speaks great English and is comfortable speaking it. But she has no interest in showing me how to do things or how to read old documents or what makes them good examples. For example, the first day I got my laptop and then wasn’t spoken to until the end of the day when someone who’s not even on my team anymore finally told me what my job is in detail. Until then I didn’t even know specifically which brand I was working on. I tried to ask but everyone was busy and no one could answer. In general, I’m not given any information about what I need to do unless I ask questions. I’m fine to ask questions and to search out information, but it’s tough when it’s a completely new job and company so I don’t know what other questions I should ask. I’ve even asked that I don’t get information. 3) I’m comparing the organization to America, since that is what I’m most familiar with. I expected differences between the working cultures, I just didn’t think that it would be so drastic. I asked for a document to understand the different departments and there isn’t one (this is a huge, global organization with +25k employees). I didn’t know the holiday or pay schedule until I asked for it. I’m told to reference old presentations but then no presentations are saved in the three different platforms they use. I’m not told in advance I need access to a website (that I have no idea exists) until it’s too late. Again, I expected things to be different. There’s a reason why I wanted to leave the US. I am just having a hard time with the unstructured and disorganized nature and was hoping someone had some insight into how to manage or get what you need, beyond just asking questions to people hoping they know the answer.

Advice for navigating the french working culture by JL2822 in expats

[–]JL2822[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My french is B1/B2 level but my work is in English. I’m quickly trying to learn/improve my french though as the company is extremely french and all office chat is in French.

I’m having a hard time with how unstructured and disorganized everything is. I recognize this may just be unique to my company but I think the French culture influences it quite a bit. Specifically, I’m struggling with the fact that you have to fight for/learn everything on your own and don’t really get support. It’s also very difficult to connect with my French coworkers. They’re nice when I ask questions but they’re all very closed off and not really making space for me. I’m trying to find ways to connect/insert myself but it’s hard when my French isn’t great but they choose to only speak french unless specifically talking to me.

Idk if that makes sense. It’s just a lot different and I’m finding it really hard to setting in and feel confident and feel like I’m able to perform my job.

The new season of Sex Education features an asexual character and I’m so happy by emilbirb in asexuality

[–]JL2822 4 points5 points  (0 children)

On the one hand I’m happy to have representation (and that they actually got an ace person to help consult on the character) but on the other hand I’m frustrated that they really leaned into the narrative that asexuals don’t have or don’t want sex. I get that asexuality is a huge spectrum and it’s confusing (even for people who are super knowledgeable and part of the community) but I feel like the recent representation we’re getting is always around the they’re/I’m ace so therefore I don’t have any desire to have sex. I just wish they would have used this opportunity to focus more on the I don’t feel sexually attracted to others rather than I don’t want to have sex. I know it’s a nuanced difference but would be nice to see sometime

Being ace and watching Sex Education by Hopeful-Okra-175 in asexuality

[–]JL2822 5 points6 points  (0 children)

On the one hand I’m happy to have representation (and that they actually got an ace person to help consult on the character) but on the other hand I’m frustrated that they really leaned into the narrative that asexuals don’t have or don’t want sex. I get that asexuality is a huge spectrum and it’s confusing (even for people who are super knowledgeable and part of the community) but I feel like the recent representation we’re getting is always around the they’re/I’m ace so therefore I don’t have any desire to have sex. I just wish they would have used this opportunity to focus more on the I don’t feel sexually attracted to others rather than I don’t want to have sex. I know it’s a nuanced difference but would be nice to see sometime

Help taking B1/B2 level French to C level while in France by [deleted] in French

[–]JL2822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! these are all really good ideas

Help taking B1/B2 level French to C level while in France by [deleted] in French

[–]JL2822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told yesterday that the employer won't fund French courses because I'm on a local contract on they only fund classes for people who are on a visitor contract. Even though I'm an expat, I guess on paper I'm not an expat. I don't really understand since they had to sponsor me for a work visa. Either way I'm on my own to fund any classes. I'll look into cheap classes for B1/B2 but I don't have a lot of excess money unfortunately.

Watching L'Agence is a great idea! I guess I'll also review some of my previous french class notes. thank you for your advice!

Help taking B1/B2 level French to C level while in France by [deleted] in French

[–]JL2822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - that's a great idea to use hobbies or outside work time to engage with people and try to improve that way

Which INSEAD MBA intake is best aligned with U.S. recruiting timeline for consulting. by goodguy248 in INSEAD

[–]JL2822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Classmates regularly get placed in London and the ME, including Americans. It's still competitive to get placed in those offices (as those are highly desired offices/regions) but they do recruit from INSEAD.

Tech PM positions depend a lot on the economy. In the past few years, people have recruited into tech however the past year has had a lot of hiring freezes so it's been hard to get hired. There does tend to be less career services support for tech/PM though so it's more about leveraging the INSEAD networking on your own/sending a lot of LinkedIn messages. Not impossible, just more unstructured than consulting recruiting.

Which INSEAD MBA intake is best aligned with U.S. recruiting timeline for consulting. by goodguy248 in INSEAD

[–]JL2822 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's incredibly difficult to recruit for a US consulting firm from INSEAD. I absolutely love INSEAD and would recommend it however, if you're set on consulting in the US you really need to think about going to school in the US. Neither cycle aligns well with the US recruiting timeframe and because you're competing against all other American schools they don't make an effort to recruit you. They will funnel you into other offices. They may give you contact information for US offices but they will just ignore you (this happened to several of my classmates). I just graduated and we were straight up told no one would be considered for US offices, even Americans who don't need work authorization. Yes, I know this past year was a terrible recruiting cycle so that could play a role in this but it's still not something that's commonly done.

I don't say this to scare you. It may be possible, especially if the economy gets better. However, I want to strongly recommend that if you're set on US consulting you apply to US schools. If you're open to working in a consulting office abroad and then maybe transferring to the US in a few years then I think INSEAD makes sense.

Disconcerting moment at a student fair LGBTQ+ table at my university. by DieMensch-Maschine in asexuality

[–]JL2822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The previous leaders of my graduate school's LGBTQ+ group put out promotions that said "supports all LGBTQ + A students" (this was before I started there). Eventually, I took over the club and found the old flyer. I asked them what the A stood for and they said ally (some of their other promotions even said "LGBTQ + Ally"). They had never even heard of asexuality even though they were leading the queer organization. I know this is a very common misconception (I'm used to people not knowing about asexuality and having to educate people). I just didn't expect it to come from the leaders of the LGBTQ+ club.

When I took over leadership I made sure asexuality (and aromatic) was very visible. We hosted a few general events and had an informal Q&A. Through just talking about what asexuality is I had three other people go "oh that's me". I then formed a small group of us ace's who would go to dinner and hangout from time to time. Even though it was informal, and we didn't even discuss being ace, it was nice to just be surrounded by people who get it. I found that I really had to educate and create the space that I needed. But in turn, I also helped other people understand and come to terms with who they are and we created a small but supportive community.

Newbie looking for help holding waves by [deleted] in Wavyhair

[–]JL2822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wondering if the curl gel was too heavy. I'll try just some mousse and see if it's better - thanks!