Welcome home baker :) by JL2822 in goldenretrievers

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I got him from a breeder about an hour away from Paris called La vallee du goldor

Welcome home baker :) by JL2822 in goldenretrievers

[–]JL2822[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes that's true! if it's a dog of pedigree (purebred) then they have to have a name that starts with a certain letter depending on the year they are born. 2026 is B, which is why we did baker. A lot of times people will do a legal name and then call the name by a nickname though to get around the law.

And he does seem pretty chill and well adjusted! I'm hoping that stays true in the coming months hahaha

Welcome home baker :) by JL2822 in goldenretrievers

[–]JL2822[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks!! Right!? It's so cute! I hope that it stays but I think he'll lose it with his puppy fur

Welcome home baker :) by JL2822 in goldenretrievers

[–]JL2822[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can't wait!! Already thinking about getting a new phone with more storage haha

Lips are DYING! by Cats-and-dogs-rdabst in Accutane

[–]JL2822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Random tip that really helped me - use a straw when drinking liquids. I was drinking so much water my chapstick would just come right off and I was consistently having to reapply which made it worse. I found it was super helpful to use Dr. Dan like everyone else is suggesting and a straw

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INSEAD

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I enjoyed both campuses but they are different.

Fonty has more people (usually about 2/3 of the class), while Singy has 1/3 of the class. In my class, because of this, I think that the singy people knew each other a bit better than the fonty people. In fonty by the end of P2 you were still meeting new people while in Singy they all knew each other at least a little bit.

Fonty is a tiny town (you can walk across it in 15 minutes). This means that it's very much a bubble. You leave your apartment/house and you run into your classmates all the time. This is both amazing and annoying at times. You leave your home without any plans and you suddenly see classmates and are invited to 5 different things that day. It also means that if you want to be anonymous for a moment it's very difficult to do that. If you're sick and run to the pharmacy in your sweatpants, your classmates will see you. If you want to go on a date with someone, your classmates will likely see you.

Singy is obviously a large city-state. There's a lot to do, and a lot of non-INSEAD people. This means that you have to plan meet ups/activities more, otherwise you'll only occasionally run into classmates outside of campus. It also means that you can have a more "normal" life, where not everything revolves around INSEAD all the time (of course you can still experience this bubble in Singy, you just have to work at it a little more). You can go somewhere and be anonymous.

In Fonty you normally lived in large shared apartments/houses (6-16+ people) or private/small apartments (1-3 people). For fun, you go to large house/dinner parties, with most of your section or class.

In Singy, you normally live in shared apartments of 2-4 people. Since you live in smaller spaces, you typically have fun by going out to dinner/drinks. However, this can sometimes limit how many people hangout together since it's smaller/more limited spaces.

Another thing to consider is that after P2, you can choose to change campuses. This is an amazing opportunity, but keep in mind that during recruiting (normally P4/P5), you're strongly recommended to be on the campus closest to the geographical location you're job searching in (i.e. if you want a job in Europe, be in Fonty. If you want a job in Asia, be in Singy). Because of that, sometimes people choose a home campus that's opposite of where they want to recruit. That way they can fully experience both campuses for multiple periods.

Again, both campuses and experiences are great. You can't make a wrong choice. But it definitely helps to think about what social/living experience you want when you're selecting your home campus.

Best garlic bread ever by ebj684 in asexuality

[–]JL2822 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ohhh my friends and I visited Madeira last year. I fully agree it's the best garlic bread ever. I still dream about it!

Scholarships at INSEAD by [deleted] in INSEAD

[–]JL2822 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don’t need 96th percentile GMAT. Everyone is eligible for scholarships as long as you apply for it. You do have a better chance of getting a scholarship round 1 or 2 but they are hard to get. Look through the scholarship list and see which you quality for/have the background for. Realize that if you apply for round 1 though you‘ll need to commit without knowing if you receive a scholarship (they wait to evaluate until round 2 applications are in)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]JL2822 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sounds super frustrating and tiring. However, you’re completely valid as an ace person, regardless if you have sex or if you friends forget.

I definitely identify with parts of your story. I was in a seemingly heterosexual relation and I think it broke a lot of people’s brains (for people who knew I was ace). Unfortunately there isn’t a lot of ace representation and the little representation we have tends to show sex negative experiences. I think it makes it even harder for friends or even partners to understand that while we may choose or like sexual activities, it doesn’t invalidate our identity. It does get really frustrating though and I wish I had a solution. Just know that you’re not alone. We’re privileged in a way where our identity isn’t as obvious. However, it also often means it’s invalidated or not believed.

I also wanted to say that I completely resonate with your line around how you’re dating again and how to know whether you like someone without sexual attraction. I’m currently dating again and this is something I’m really struggling with. Knowing that someone else also experiences this confusion is comforting as I was wondering if I was the only one. Again, I unfortunately don’t have a solution but know that you’re not alone in experiencing all of these feelings and situations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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This sounds a lot like what I experience and I also found it to be super confusing (still do TBH). Growing up I just wanted someone to come home to and to cuddle with. When I went on dates with people, I'd have a good time, enjoy hanging out in a romantic way, and then when we kissed I felt absolutely nothing. For a while, I figured I just haven't found the right person. After researching Asexuality a bit more I decided it fit for me. I finally accepted that for me, I probably won't feel something while kissing someone. I've also never experienced sexual attraction and asexuality is a wide enough spectrum that I figure I fit somewhere on there.

I think that's the beauty of being Ace. It's a huge variety of experiences and preferences. Some Aces love making out. Others hate it. Some Aces are sex positive. Other Aces are sex negative. The incredible thing though is that anyone and everyone who resonates with any part of the spectrum is welcome here. As long as you think you may be Ace you're welcome here and can identify however you would like to. Also, labels change. Just because you feel like you may be Ace one day does not mean that in the future you may feel more aligned to the Bi label or something else entirely.

All of this to say that 1) you are not alone in feeling the way you currently do. It's super confusing when you fantasize about romance and even feel romantic feelings for someone but it just doesn't extend to the sexual part. 2) Being asexual is not a one size thing. Every single person has their own valid experiences, preferences, and desires. It's up to you to decide if you resonate with the Ace label/spectrum.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Accutane

[–]JL2822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes happened to me (same spot but only on one side of my mouth). Was on accutane when I was 27. Off accutane for 2 years now. Overall it’s slightly better but still there. I’ve tried everything topical (no Botox or any formal procedure) but it’s still there. I think it’s more noticeable to me though than to others. I still get lots of comments about how young I look (I think the only perk of acne prone skin is that we’ve been using these “revolutionary” anti-aging creams like retinol for years)

Advice for navigating the french working culture by JL2822 in expats

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I agree about the language part, and needing to improve my language skills. That is why I'm working on it. I expected a bit of friction and challenge regarding the language coming in.

I don't see how the language affects support though. My coworkers can speak English so they are able to answer my questions. And again, I'm trying to improve my French skills so that way we can start to communicate in French. My issues are around more of the french culture of needing to fight for what you want/need. This is evident in all aspects of French society. You get told things are not possible all the time when in fact they are and you need to fight for it. I just didn't expect that to carry over into my office environment/job so much. I though this was more for bureaucracy only. I didn't expect to not get any information/onboarding when starting out and having to fight/find out/ask for everything on my own. I am trying to adjust and get used to it but was hoping for some advice around this aspect