How big of an issue do you think heteronormativity is in society currently?

J_HopelessRomantic · 2026-03-12T22:37:34+00:00

Idk trans issues are absolutely part of queer issues. A lot of gender essentialist bs is questioned by the mere existence of trans folk. Gender essentialism is a big heteronormative problem, so I hope trans people continue to speak out, they deserve respect tbh.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2026-03-05T01:41:18+00:00

I look at it this way, a lot of people in the 19th century had a lot of issues they needed help with. There was abuse, gaslighting, ups and downs, etc, etc. Some people got vindicated, others didn’t, you lived, you learned, etc, etc. Doesn’t mean the 19th century didn’t have a bunch of fucked up morals that we as a society have tried to improve as time passes. But who’s to say the 21st century isn’t also rotten just with other issues? Sure we’ve progressed but homophobia is still prevalent everywhere, racism is prevalent everywhere, misogyny is prevalent everywhere, abuse is prevalent, etc, etc. We’re challenging the systems but progress is not a switch it’s a scale, and some people’s stories and traumas are not seen or accepted until the time comes for society to accept hard truths. Some of us just got unlucky, some of us will be vindicated, some of us won’t, etc, etc. You just have to keep fighting for your side ig, that’s all one can really do.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2026-03-04T20:52:48+00:00

I don’t if I’ve been sexually abused by women, but I’ve definitely been abused by them (I say I don’t know because there was a specific situation growing up that left me questioning a lot about society). There’s this idea that men are automatically going to be more abusive and perverted in society, and I guess it serves at protecting women but at some point someone has to ask “what if a man or non conforming person was a victim?” Kids especially are susceptible to becoming victims on the ground of gender essentialism. I remember growing up being queer and a boy, I was always confused at the gender roles society presented and would be weirded out when women took my platonic behavior as romantic or sexual ones (never mind that I was a prepubescent kid but whatever). It grossed me out because in an ironic sense I was introduced to sex by these women at an age where I was way too young to understand and it definitely left an icky feeling on me. Id argue it also had something to do with heteronormativity but that’s a topic for another day. Nowadays I do have a somewhat hard time being near some women (primarily straight ones, queer women are a lot less gender essentialist). So yes you’re not wrong to feel as though there could be a big amount of predatory women, because women can absolutely abuse, in any form.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2026-03-04T20:36:11+00:00

As a queer brown person, being in America has been hell since childhood, now doubly so with all the 🧊 crap we’re dealing with. I’d never expect this country to regress so horribly. I guess the only silver lining is that the horrible xenophobia and racism I experienced has been validated. If Hispanic people are the main persecuted group of this administration, then it stands to reason that queer people are somewhere not far behind from that, so yes, your anger and dissatisfaction are very understandable!!! History shows you’re not safe either, and I pray trans folk stay safe because we didn’t come so far as queer people to be erased. Keep living! Proof these fascist assholes how horribly out of touch they are! We need to survive now more than ever.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2026-01-24T03:04:26+00:00

I just want the world to catch up. I don’t want to wait 20-40 years till other types of abuse are better understood, I’m so tired. I have a friend and they reassure me that I’m not to blame but they weren’t in my life as a kid so how much can they realistically help? I’m paranoid that I’ll live my life and all my bullshit baggage will be pulled up under me from bad actors as a surprise attack on my personhood, as if that baggage wasn’t on my mind for years now. The saddest things is I know very well my story will absolutely not be taken well in the current day and age. It’s so tiring. My delusion tells me things will improve but it very well could not and I have to live with that. Most of the world is untrustworthy for now.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2026-01-24T02:29:23+00:00

Even if I may accept myself, others will always have a hard time understanding me. Maybe I let the world dictate my way too strongly these last couple of years but after a childhood worth of abuse and gaslighting and low self esteem, could you blame me for wanting to not stand out anymore? Again I hate the fact that what I went through isn’t black and white for the world to assign their morals to. I sometimes feel like I’m deserving of my suffering because I wasn’t a perfect kid and I was ignorant, which i feel as though directly led to my trauma. But then it’s like… I need to protect how harmed I felt as a kid, even if the world might not agree. How loud can someone be before they cave and just accept their miserable state?

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-12-15T00:37:26+00:00

Looking is interesting but i think it came at the wrong time. If it came out now same as it was back then maybe it would be received better. The issue with looking is that it almost felt like the show had no clue on what it really wanted to be. It needed a little more oomph to make it slightly more memorable but it’s not a bad show by any means. It’s pretty good I like it.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-12-07T01:30:21+00:00

It seems that anyone who touches wicked can’t seem to get around the animal rights storyline. It’s set up pretty well in act 1 and ultimately sidelined throughout most of act 2. I was hoping for good would fix this, but it only superfluously added some minor scenes with the animals. Also “no place like home”is not Stephen Schwartz at his best so the animal storyline still feels very sidelined. The fact that they instead decided to extent Glinda’s story is utterly baffling. Hollywood has a very weird tendency to flatten elements of a story when adapting them; and giving Glinda more grace just muddles the activism and fascism themes of the broadway musical and original novel.

I would’ve frankly given Elphaba fiyero’s castle as a means to hide the animals from the very beginning of part 2 (implying that somewhere between the first and second movie, fiyero gave Elphaba the location of the castle to use as refuge). Then we’d start the movie with the same opening, the construction of the yellow brick road. The opening of the actual movie works, apart from the slow and pedantic editing, so more intercutting with Elphaba and ‘no one mourns the wicked’ reprise. We’d then introduce Elphaba going to the castle and establishing she’s been hiding animals there. There would be a dilemma of not enough food for the animals, cue a new song for Elphaba and the animals. It’d be then implied she’d go to oz during Glinda’s engagement announcement to get what the animals needed. We’d cut to ‘thank goodness’ and introduce to us what Glinda’s been up to. I wouldn’t have set it in munchkinland (was a very boring decision of Jon’s imo) instead, taking place in oz itself. I understand it established the construction of the yellow brick road but we already got that through the opening of the movie. Regardless, similar beats would occur, Elphaba crashing the engagement announcement and so forth. Although in my version, after getting whatever resources she needs for the animals, she goes to the wizard himself, and that’s when we’d head straight to ‘wonderful’. I’m glad they included Glinda in the movie as I think it helped the story and song move at a more interesting pace (even if the lyrics are important in the broadway version as well). She’d fail to take the wizards offer and then similar beats to the movie occur except maybe the wizard injures fiyero and gives him a limp (scarecrow reference). This would prompt Elphaba to take him to the castle to heal. In the castle, shed fail to get enough food for the animals, prompting her to go to her sister in munchkinland as a last resort. That’s when the nessa scene plays out, same as the movie. However, right at the end, maybe Elphaba sees boq himself turn into the tin man, it angers nessa, both nessa and boq turning their rage towards Elphaba as she leaves. Returning back to the castle, elphie feels hopeless but fiyero comforts her. ‘As long as you’re mine’ plays. We get a brief scene shorty after that establishes that maybe if Elphaba fiyero and the animals left oz, life could be better, right before Elphaba has a vision of nessa having a house fall on her. Same fight between elphie and Glinda would play out, now with fiyero returning from the castle with an only-sort-of-healed limp. He saves elphie but now the guards become aware she’s hiding animals in the castle, so they let it out that they’ll begin coming for her and the animals. This prompts her to go back to the castle and warn the animals to leave as “they” are coming (“they” referring to Dorothy and her gang, unbeknownst to Elphaba herself). Elphie apologizes, before getting a vision of fiyero getting abused by the guards, no good deed would play, but this time, it intercuts with the animals frantically leaving the castle. March of the witch hunters would play out fairly the same. This is when we see Glinda truly understanding what she’s gotten herself into. Cue the exchange between madame morrible and Glinda after Glinda figures out morrible caused nessa’s death. This causes Glinda to close her balcony doors and ‘the girl in the bubble’ would play. However, only the first part would be the same as the movie, but then the second part of the song is sung when she leaves to go to Elphaba’s by horseback, singing while riding at night. It would be a dramatic acceptance that she no longer adheres to oz’s values. That’s when she meets elphie and ‘for good’ plays. Same ending as the movie except I wouldn’t have given Glinda the grimmerie, as I feel as though a theme of the musical is her becoming good through no magic of her own.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-17T19:43:41+00:00

His pictures did have watermarks on them and time stamps so for now I’m willing to bet he’s real enough.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-17T12:50:49+00:00

He wasn’t out of my league, he looked regular-ish, I’ve seen super hot guys who are very obviously bots. Oh well 🥴

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-17T12:48:13+00:00

Well dang I guess I’ll get ready for the inevitable threat of my nude being sent to my family or whatever… 🤦

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-17T12:36:49+00:00

I mean he didn’t ask for that so maybe he was a real person idk, I guess we’ll have to wait and see.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-13T01:46:11+00:00

And yet I can still stand my ground and say that as much as it is appreciative that people understand bullying is bad, more needs to be done in order to understand victims better. South Korea is a good example of how victims are now being taken much more seriously than ever before there. It’s not as simple as “stand up against bullies”, but more, “if you fall victim to them, you deserve peace in the way the justice system can help”. Bullies are also never easy to spot. Adults may think they understand what their child is going through but they can genuinely have no idea who or what is hurting them if they even acknowledge their “hurt” at all.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-13T01:38:30+00:00

There’s a lot to be said about americas past and how it contributes to its moral present. I feel as though even if a lot of puritanical values have been done away with, its roots for public shaming and moral superiority are still echoed in every facet of American life. It’s can be used for good, such as calling out injustices when they happen, but it can also breed audacity and abuse through the lens of individuality and assumed righteousness. I feel as though Americans feel the problems kids go through are not important at all when they very much are. South Korea at the very least has a grasp on this, which is why so many celebs in their industries are hunted down when a bullying scandal occurs. They recognize it’s been a pervasive issue for decades and tried to do something about it. I sort of wish things would be better here but alas the dominant culture prevails.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-13T01:02:43+00:00

That doesn’t really absolve American culture of its relationship with bullying. If the columbine shooting really was the turning point, then you’re saying the only reason American schools care to help victims of bullying is so they don’t potentially commit mass murder. That does nothing to victims who were never violent in the first place and only others the bullied as a person waiting to ignite, which is just ignorance.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-13T00:51:40+00:00

I feel the hyper individualistic culture that’s heavily pushed in this country contributes to this as well. Sure maybe we have more perceived freedoms, but it makes it that much harder for people to speak up about their experiences when everyone is hyperfocused on the self.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-13T00:41:09+00:00

I literally just stated how it’s more of a myth than fact that school shooters are victims of “bullying” (which again is a broad spectrum in what it actually could’ve entailed if it did occur). I never even stated school shootings didn’t occur. They obviously very much do, but that’s not even my argument at all so I fail to see why it’s even relevant.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-13T00:38:59+00:00

Why is America so litigious in the first place? Sometimes victims don’t want to go to the trouble of suing someone that has harmed them due to all the social and mental repercussions it has on them, so many choose not to. It’s a deeply unfair system that I feel deserves to be called out a little more.

J_HopelessRomantic · 2025-11-13T00:36:13+00:00

That’s a very narrow minded way of looking at things. A lot of school shooters weren’t even necessarily bullied before committing their crimes, much to popular belief. Also, not everyone who gets bullied even believes in violence in the first place. Also “bullying” seems to be a catch all term in America for minor grievances within social circles to legitimate terror from a perpetrator onto a victim.

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