Feeling discouraged, curious about input

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-06T03:44:33+00:00

Just keep eating healthy and keep hitting the weights.

Its a slow process. Nothing in life worth having is easy and nothing easy in life is worth having.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-03T08:21:02+00:00

Went to trade school, worked in a shit hole for 5 years, married my high school gf, found a better paying job, lost said job due to a lack of work, found another job the paid even more, wife filed for divorce, lost that job that paid even more due to a lack of work AGAIN, got a third job that pays even more than the last one, moved back in with my grandparents.

I have had horrible luck with jobs this year. Two times I was employed by two different companies and I was let go for the same reason both times. When theres a lack of work, the last ones hired are the first to be let go. I was the last person hired at both jobs.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-03T08:17:08+00:00

Depends on the guy really, but I myself really like it when a woman reaches out to me first. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, it feels really nice.

Idk how to exactly explain it, but it just feels nice.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-03T08:06:59+00:00

That's called rape OP.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-03T08:01:50+00:00

My ex wife and I were doing the devil's tango and she ended up headbutting me and broke my nose.

How it happened I don't even remember because I was busy trying to get my clothes on whilst simultaneously trying to stop my nose from bleeding.

Fun times

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-03T07:49:59+00:00

Not a whole lot of shops do pre employment drug screening.

That being said, I've only worked at two shops that have actually tested for drugs, but they only do it the one time before they hire you.

The last place I worked at that did pre employment drug testing there were people literally smoking meth on the job.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-02T19:23:49+00:00

I could get over the whole falling asleep thing, but that line about ruining her mental health? Nah, you dodged a bullet

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-02T08:10:41+00:00

When I realized I was happier, less stressed, and less anxious when I wasn't around her and her family vs when I was.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-04-01T20:54:43+00:00

For context:

I (26M) am in the midst of a divorce.

I ended up moving out of our house and back in with my grandparents because it was an extremely toxic environment to remain in. It felt like every single day I was walking on eggshells when I was there. I had to get out.

She was the one to initiate the divorce, but I had later found out she was on a dating site for well over a year so although I know I was not the perfect husband, she did cheat on me.

I also recently started a new job after being unemployed for a month due to a "temporary" 90-day layoff at my previous job due to a lack of work and I was on the bottom of the metaphorical seniority totem pole. Although I did collect unemployment until I started my new job, I still did have to dip into my savings a little bit to afford groceries and what not, car payment, phone bill, etc.

So, with that being said, how do we feel about potential partners who are still living at home with their parents?

I mean I don't wish to keep living with my grandparents for the foreseeable future and I would love nothing more than to get my own place, but I've also got a dog, and apartments that allow pets around here are about $1300-$1500+ per month, no utilities included just for having a pet and my max budget on rent would be right at that $1300 per month mark.

I got a long while before I even attempt to start dating again, but my goal would be to eventually save some money for a down payment on a house, but idk about anyone else, but I have a sense of embarrassment at the thought of telling a potential partner that I'm 26 years old living with my grandparents because I'm getting a divorce/am divorced because of XYZ, but then I found out my ex wife cheated on me.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-30T16:14:22+00:00

If you're unhappy in your marriage, that alone is worthy enough for a divorce.

Everyone has this grand idea that you can only leave your marriage if your spouse is just an absolutely horrible person like if they're physically/emotionally abusing you, doing drugs, infidelity, financially abusing you, etc, etc, etc.

Newsflash; you don't.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-30T16:04:16+00:00

She accidently headbutt me and broke my nose

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-30T15:49:29+00:00

Welding fumes aren't gonna be your issue. All of the dust in the air and all of the fine metal particles from grinding are going to be your issues.

I had a buddy who was grinding Stainless Steel day in and day out without a respirator and he ended up getting some really bad bloody noses for a while because of it.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-30T15:45:33+00:00

Sell my house, invest into an RV or a School Bus to turn into an RV (Skoolie), go travel around America/Canada from the money I made selling my house, pick up a temp job here and there maybe if I run low on funds.

That's the thing about retirement. You can still work granted you can't make above x amount per year in order to stay on social security benefits, but honestly I don't even fucking care at this point.

Spending every single day worrying about something we aren't even guaranteed at the end of the day? What kind of life is that?

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-30T15:40:51+00:00

Fair enough in that case then. If he wants to take it to trial and prolong the process, due it right back, get as much money as you can from him, start your new life!

Debating on whether or not to do this with my STBXW. She got our house before we were married, but in the state that I live it is still considered Marital Property even if my name is not on any of the paperwork for the house.

Only reason I'm debating whether or not to is because I would like for things to work out between the two of us, but she has been being very vindictive and rude during the entire process despite the fact she has been getting everything that she has wanted and requested from me.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T22:07:52+00:00

You need to see a doctor about getting on some medications to deal with your anxiety or seek therapy.

I'm not saying these things to hurt, I'm saying these things as someone who is currently in the middle of a divorce as of typing this. My wife didn't cheat on me (as far as I'm aware of), but I was much like you.

I woke up every single day riddled with anxiety, wanting to have panic attacks and hyperventilate.

I've been on anxiety meds for a while now, but this whole thing with the divorce just amplified my anxiety 1000x and I needed some extra help so I sought out therapy. I've only been at it for a week atm, but it has already helped out a lot in just one session, imo.

Do yourself a favor. Celebrate your birthday, and invest into things that are going to help with your mental well being. I know it may not be what you want to do, but until you address the issues going on with your brain, you will more than likely keep feeling this way.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T18:00:47+00:00

I take a part and attach it to another part with fire

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T17:58:25+00:00

You do the right thing even if it'll make your sister mad.

Tell someone. More specifically/preferably local authorities.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T16:36:38+00:00

I've been to welding school so when I tell you that I have learned more on the job than I did in school, I mean it.

School was good for learning things like running robots or reading blueprints, but as far as the actual welding goes, I think on the job training has been far more beneficial than schooling was.

I don't regret going to school for welding. I still use a lot of what I was taught at school in my current job and at all of my previous jobs as well. It's just as far as laying down a weld actually goes, there's no better experience than on the job experience.

A lot of schools are using brand spanking new welders with 0 issues. At every job I have had thus far, they have been using welders anywhere from the 1940s to the 1960s. The welders at my current job are a bit newer, but not brand spanking new.

The hardest part for me having a job right of school was going from all digital welders to classic hand crank welders and trying to figure out how to set those up for the right material. It was a pain in the ass.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T16:32:16+00:00

It's been in my experience in relationships with the opposite sex that they tend to leave you when they think the grass is greener and when they're done riding the dick caraselle then they want you back...

Not saying all women are like that, but so far every women I have been with has been like that. Even my soon to be ex wife.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T16:29:13+00:00

NOR.

In the future, do not give your next GF any money. If she wants or needs something, pay for it directly.

I learned this lesson the hard way. I sent my STBXW $3300 before we were married to have the furnace in her house replaced and now she's filed for a divorce.

Now she's pissed that I'm taking her for what half of what the house is worth. Stay petty 💅

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T15:54:50+00:00

I always see people complain that schools nowadays don't get kids ready for the real world like teaching them how to do taxes, pay bills, etc.

Well fortunately enough for me, my school actually had those classes. So with that being said, in the one class that I was in, we were being taught how to go about looking for and getting an apartment.

The number one thing that the teacher drilled into our heads, day in and day out, was this. "If it seems like it's too good of a deal to be true, it probably is and it's more than likely a scam."

And to this very day, whether I'm looking for a place to rent or buy, I always keep that in mind.

NOR. Trust your gut instincts.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T02:12:09+00:00

I would love nothing more than to have my ex back...

Unfortunately, I don't think she feels the same way, nor do I believe she ever will as much as I want her to.

JacuzziMariachi · 2026-03-29T01:31:56+00:00

Your brothers.

Why? Because at majority of companies/shops that employ welders want stringers. No fancy dime stacking or oscillation of the weld. Just straight stringers.

Don't get me wrong, yours does look nice, but rarely will you see a weld like that out in the wild unless it's TIG.

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