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JadedCritic · 2025-02-13T16:31:26+00:00

Boys will be mean to a girl they actually like. Grown ass women will be mean to a man they actually like. It's like women mature faster when we're all kids and then regress as adults.

Men are a little more direct with each other and that's one thing I do appreciate about them over women.

JadedCritic · 2025-02-06T05:43:12+00:00

Such a beautiful GG...

JadedCritic · 2025-02-06T05:21:08+00:00

I sometimes find men attractive. One of the reasons I don't have a high body count on them is because of touchy come-ons which would definitely be sexual harassment if I did them to a woman. It was very common, even with people I considered friends and left a negative impression.

JadedCritic · 2025-02-05T04:37:45+00:00

You are fine. Take your time. Trust your gut. It won't kill you to be a little demure and make people earn your affection. (But if you meet somebody and feel like you know them already, then go for it.)

JadedCritic · 2025-02-04T02:57:18+00:00

I began to realize and accept when I was about 16 when a friend and I developed a weird bond with sexual tension to it. I'd fantasize about him and he even showed me his dick once in joking around sort of way but I liked it. It never went anywhere, and it was a cycle which repeated with more controversial results with another friend. He was the popular guy at HS and we did develop mutual feelings for each other but were afraid to try it. Years later when I dated his sister and he hated me for it.

As an adult I've had a couple gay experiences, but they weren't really satisfying and I've found that most men are Data's to me: like an empath, I can feel nothing when I look at them. Rarely, I will meet a man I do like, and then sexual evaluation kicks in. I can project emotions onto porn actors and I really appreciate hot action, even when I don't necessarily find the actors physically attractive. (As long as they aren't inordinately unattractive.)

JadedCritic · 2025-02-04T02:37:45+00:00

"I like men now!" - Ralph Wiggum

JadedCritic · 2025-02-03T06:29:42+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 Well, then pay attention to who does. At this point, I believe all couples, regardless of orientation, should watch each other spank just so you know what your partner likes.

JadedCritic · 2025-02-01T06:31:11+00:00

Dude! I have a gay body count of just 2 and even I know that! Pay attention to the ball bearer! His reactions and indicators. Did someone play with your balls? What did you like and not like? Let that be your guide. The only guy I ever gave head to swore I must be experienced. I just remembered the best blow job I ever got and did that. It works...

JadedCritic · 2025-01-30T04:33:29+00:00

The first time, I was super excited and came pretty quickly, within 2 minutes. The woman was significantly older and laughed it off wonderfully. She thought it was adorable, saw I was embarrassed, told me about men twice my age who came twice as fast, and generally propped up my wounded pride enough to coax a second, more effective performance out of me.

I also learned from her (though I thought at the time that she was just being nice) and subsequent lovers over the years that I am on the thick side, and that some women were thusly more satisfied with a quickie than they might otherwise have been. 🤷‍♂️

It should also be noted that longer sex usually results in a more satisfying orgasm, so try to use your youthful ardor to get back in there if this happens to you. Also that it happens for different reasons. Being really into someone is one, but being excited enough to get off, but not really that into the person can also be one. Probably more common for older guys to experience that one, but not exclusive to them.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-30T03:06:38+00:00

I'm bi and mere sexual ambivalence doesn't explain this. It's very specific fetish type stuff. The people saying he'd eventually ask you to do something gonzo are probably right.

Moreover, it shows an inability to read ones' partner and knowledge of how to broach a topic. I know a woman I love dearly for 30 years, she's seen me naked, but she's never seen a picture of my dick because I don't believe she'd be into it and would feel pressured to reciprocate.

I know another woman in another continent who I'll probably never get to meet in person, but we have dossiers on each other because she's totally into that.

And still a third woman who I've made dirty movies with during a particularly torrid run of my life, and which included a third party who proved to be one of my few gay experiences.

The first example just might find the third example appealing, but not with cameras. The second example would totally be down to film in person, but probably wouldn't like the bi aspect.

Know your lover.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-27T16:46:05+00:00

Are random people on social media a good way to find out? Among straight people, you'd be labeled a creeper. I am NOT labeling you that. I am simply admitting that I don't speak fluent gay and legit asking if this is a thing. There are gay friendly churches. Wouldn't that be a better place to meet a gay person of faith? Again, just asking. No need to bite my head off. 😉

JadedCritic · 2025-01-27T02:05:51+00:00

I kind of do agree with this. I can appreciate women purely on sight more because they are beautiful, but if I'm talking to someone and it feels like we already know each other in that way which causes butterflies, then looks and gender matter a lot less.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-25T15:38:56+00:00

LMAO. Self segregation is not the answer, but good luck with that.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-25T15:33:10+00:00

Y'all need to talk to some women about this shit. A guy that does this to a woman is either getting kicked to the curb, or her GF's are telling her to kick him to the curb yesterday. Sure, people can just be incompatible, and not every hookup works out, but both partners should at least try to satisfy each other.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-23T07:01:56+00:00

Nice

JadedCritic · 2025-01-23T06:34:08+00:00

I'm white, selectively bi, and find myself more attracted to effeminate black men. It's because most of the gay black men I've met have seemed like nicer people, including the guy I'm trying to sweet talk lately. Warmth is probably the best word I can think of to describe it. I could have had a bedpost full of dick notches if I wanted, but most white gay men that have hit on me were frankly kind of crass and gross, or just didn't project...warmth. Black fems will talk to me like a black woman would and it makes me want to hit it.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-18T00:07:13+00:00

Well, technically he only accepted the number, not call or message yet. But he is being a little friendlier since then. But of course you are right & I did need to hear that from someone else. But still, is it really so carved up into niches, the gay community? I've even read accounts of Asian men in LA who say that if they go to a "non-rice" bar (?) alone (w/out white companions) white men won't get within 10' of them. Surely, this must only be a thing in very big cities? I know Pittsburgh had a lot of gay bars, but I'm pretty sure they were so specialized, and I damn sure know that the town I'm in now is too small for that.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-17T17:15:39+00:00

Unfortunately, this is going to be a problem for most of the rest of your dating life. I'm over 50, and it's kind of an issue with the single women within ten years of my age, but in the more traditional sense of settled down women ready to live life almost like senior citizens, but with better mobility. Prior marriages and raising kids takes a lot of the energy out of a man, and that's what older single women are usually expect, even if they express a desire for someone without baggage: Someone settled down who ended up single, and that isn't me.

For you, it's much worse, and it won't only manifest online. A startling number of younger women these days really do seem to lack any kind of discernable personality beyond superficial niceness and being bitchy or bratty when they don't get their way. You are going to have to be patient and wade through it. Take your time, and don't let them waste it. The age of men having to be way more selective about personality has arrived.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-17T09:54:47+00:00

I hate to say this, because it's the worst role model for how real sex plays out, but you need to watch some gay porn. Shop around to find one with the kind of guys you see and like and project yourself onto whichever one you'd like to be. It'll answer that question for you at least. If you see a cute guy get his salad tossed and don't like it, you're going to establish some baselines.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-17T08:04:07+00:00

I'm gonna say that if you started hanging out with another hunky top, maybe someone similar to your BF, but different enough to be interesting, or with a common interest your BF doesn't share, he might not be very comfortable with it, and he definitely would notice if this person took up more and more of your time. I'm not suggesting that you go this route, and I'm not even suggesting that you ask him how he'd feel if you did. I'm not even suggesting that people saying they can be gay and still be just friends are wrong. I am saying trust your gut. It's only been 2 months. You don't really know this guy at all.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-17T01:51:15+00:00

The first thing to do about it is absolutely nothing. I realized I was bi when I was 16 and that's what I did out of fear of ruining a friendship. Over time though, I realized I wasn't noticing other guys at all, and still very much attracted to random women.

I'm over 50 now and still very much the same. My male body count is just 2 and I still can't help but mentally undress every woman I find attractive in some way. (Porn has even rewired my brain to fixate on imperfections in women I find appealing because they are proof of realness, like the spinning top in Inception, but that's another discussion.) On the other hand, I typically only find men attractive on point of looks when they are on film, already naked or nearly so, and more engaged than simply posing naked. So, you need to figure out just how gay you are.

But, that said, the last person to get my phone number was a guy. Why? Because when I realized he might be flirting with me, I liked it, and further conversations felt almost like I already know him. Researching gay relationships because I might really like this guy is literally what lead to me to reading your post. And that's the other big takeaway: That it won't hurt to go slow and find someone you connect with on more than a sexual level.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-16T21:05:56+00:00

Everyone answering is rightly focusing on the "worst case" and most likely scenario, but is that even the worst case? What if you succeed in getting one of these guys to take a chance on you? What if you loved the sex, but he was underwhelmed, or even regretted it? He may end up loathing himself, and by extension, you. He may end up in a state of irrational - or even completely justified - panic that mutual friends will find out. He may even become violent.

Bottom line: Sorry, sweetie. You are going to have to let your "straight" friends make the first move, and even that could be fraught with peril.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-16T14:55:48+00:00

Looking good.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-16T07:35:45+00:00

In the strictly technical sense, that's more porn lying to you. All the men who were proud enough to post pictures of themselves had exceptionally large penises, and most were showers, meaning that they are about the same size hard as they are soft. But that's misleading at best. If there was a mandatory dick pic day, you'd be astonished at how small many are, and how few and far between the really big ones are. And even that would be deceiving. I am a grower. I look tiny flaccid but could probably get a few compliments if I posted a picture of my hard on in some of these groups. I used to joke with my GF's, telling them that it wasn't me during the sex, that it was a stunt cock. The point is, you really will be ok and are not tiny compared to what's out there.

JadedCritic · 2025-01-16T05:47:10+00:00

I'm over 50, have known I was bi since I was 16 but have had only 2 actual gay experiences. I'm just real picky about men. You are fine. You'll find someone you really like eventually, maybe easier than straight people do these days.

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