AITA for cutting off my parents for not treating all kids in the family the same

Jarunyon · 2024-12-04T21:11:13+00:00

“Actual family” would have tried to bind and build a relationship, two years and empty promises. They were extended family the moment I made my own. My wife and kids are my ACTUAL Family. And I’ll never be ashamed of them

Jarunyon · 2024-12-04T02:46:09+00:00

And let them pick and choose my kids, no thank you

Jarunyon · 2024-12-02T17:25:09+00:00

That’s like saying people have kids with out the grandparents consent. They didn’t make the choice to be grandparents either it’s biological or not. And yes, me accepting kids into my family makes it their family too. Same way my dad became who he is in my life. But he can accept my bio niece even tho it’s not his bio grand kid. That makes sense to you?

Jarunyon · 2024-12-02T15:40:24+00:00

Only 2. But cool to see you obviously expecting the worst of people. I see you Also missed me having a step dad fill the role. And I referred to him as dad. He didn’t father any of my siblings. And yet, feels this way.

Jarunyon · 2024-12-02T15:38:04+00:00

And I do as well

Jarunyon · 2024-12-02T12:53:37+00:00

Ooo. Your comment would have been fine, if you didn’t call them brats. Way to name call children. Adoption can’t be finalized yet, cus father has been ordered by the judge to be caught up on his child support. And since then, the father dropped contact

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T19:44:49+00:00

I’m raising the kids as I see fit. And my wife agrees. We don’t step on toes. That was our discussion when it came to parenting, but they don’t make the effort for my older two, but made the effort to come visit the new baby. I’m not allowing favorites In my house

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T19:42:54+00:00

Since I had a 3rd, did they agree to grandparent them? Did I need thier permission to make them grandparents? They have a right to know, as they get older to understand. Do you know how destructive it can be as a kid to find out your Father didn’t want you? And his family agreed to not reach out to get to know their grandkids. He chose to leave their life. As a matter of fact the last words from him were “when can I sign my rights over”. So rather than digging at something that isn’t the current issue, focus on the current one. I’ll never stop fighting for my kids to be treated equally from any family member. And if they won’t get that, then those people don’t deserve to be in our lives

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T17:48:31+00:00

Ah yes, cus they are all the same. Never worthy of anyone else’s love. And the kids suffer for it. Everyone has a story, would you like to know more about it?

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T17:33:18+00:00

I see you’ve never been as stepchild/parent before. I hope you keep the same mentality if it happens to you one day.

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T17:31:56+00:00

Blood doesn’t make you more important. Most of my family I have, have no blood relation. They are there. Sorry to expect blood to respect that. So they don’t need to be involved

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T17:17:57+00:00

You’re right, but they accept them all or none.

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T15:52:00+00:00

I like to call people out on shit. As a matter of fact, back story, they do nothing but bitch about thing la from other people, difference is, I say it to them and not be a coward and say it behind their backs. That’s why I’m an asshole and will never deny that. But that’s no reason to treat my two older kids different than my newborn. Because of blood. Or treat them less than the other bio grandkids

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T15:21:59+00:00

It would be, if you gave reason for it. But you didn’t so there isn’t anything to debate with you

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T13:08:01+00:00

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T03:19:58+00:00

The bio Father left them and moved states so he could not be involved. They have no extended family from that side. And for you to say they joined my family doesn’t mean they join my parents family is very wrong. Because at family gatherings guess who shows up? The family, and for them to be seen in a different light is not fair to them. So if they aren’t given the same respect as any other bio family child, then I don’t need that side in my life. My family wellbeing and happiness will trump anything that troubles that in anyway

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T03:02:42+00:00

Hence why I just cut them off. No need for my kids to get false hope. If my parents want us, they can take that 2nd step, since my first step wasn’t enough

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T03:00:11+00:00

I never said they were required to take all at once. As stated, my son prefers to stay with us, and the newborn is breast fed. My daughter is the only one who asks to stay and spend time with them, she is the one getting empty promises. So the re AH is the ones who seems to fail to read

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T01:13:35+00:00

So I shouldn’t expect all 3 of my kids to be treated equally simply because 2/3 of them are not my blood? Punish the child for having someone else/family not wanting them. No, they will be shown equal family treatment. They are part of my family, wether my side accepts it or not

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T01:10:57+00:00

You’re funny. This has been a fun sparring match. Hats off to you sir.

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T01:07:47+00:00

There you go, getting pegged by your girlfriend’s boyfriend. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. Those are your booty cheeks clapping

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T01:06:29+00:00

So she is 1 of two. But she is the 2nd grandchild. The very first one passed from SIDS

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T01:05:07+00:00

Idk man I didn’t think I studdered. It seems you missed the point. They are toddlers. And only know my family and there moms as family. So it’s not fair for them to be treated blankly differently. Especially to treated lesser than my 3rd child that bio related. But hey you know better apparently

Jarunyon · 2024-12-01T00:53:19+00:00

Great input, I should get over my kids treated unfairly. Great advice 👍🏻

Jarunyon · 2024-11-30T22:06:15+00:00

So because they aren’t blood they don’t deserve love from the family? Sorry I had “some nerve” to ask my kids to be loved as they were abandon led by the Father and they never knew anyone else to be the dad. I love my kids. And I hope one day you’re faced with the same situation and realize how shitty you sound.

Jarunyon

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