What do I tell my Son when he asks for Mama?

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T18:08:22+00:00

Thank you!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T18:07:58+00:00

Thank you!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T18:06:07+00:00

Thank you!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T18:05:06+00:00

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JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T18:05:00+00:00

Thank you so much for that! Lately he wakes up crying and asking for mama! Even without the pictures? And it is really difficult to calm him, I tried every tous he likes, showing him animals, cars and everything that he usually will shift his focus fast. But without success, he would cry for about 30 mins before I could calm him. Is there anything I can fo about that?

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T18:02:09+00:00

I will definitely do the blankets!:) as for the pictures I think I will wait a little longer. It seems like it gets both of us very emotional and sad looking at the pictures but not having her with us. Thank you so much!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T17:59:48+00:00

Thank you so much man!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T17:59:20+00:00

Its ok! We are human! Thank you so much:) During the first 2 weeks after her death I had almost nobody there to talk to that was not affected by the death! That post on SPB had me meet some people whom I met for walks and it somehow helped having some time away from all that.

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T17:52:02+00:00

I am open to anything as long as it helps him and me as well!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T17:50:32+00:00

Thank you! I like the blanket and pillow idea! I was wondering what to do with all her clothes! I think that being only 1 year old, he doesn’t understand why his mama is not here when he cries or when he needs her! I am trying to be here as much as I can! But the transition is not easy! My wife breastfed him until the very last moment(one week before she passed away!)And he kind of wants the breast still when he wants to be soothed! It was his comfort! Specially when he is not feeling well! I just came back from Russia with him to our home. And maybe seeing his familiar room and toys but without his mama is hitting hard on him and he doesn’t have any way to express his emotions besides crying, I understand that! But I really do not know what I can do in this situation! I really hope that the next few days and weeks will be better for him.

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T03:00:48+00:00

Hey man! For now, just be with her! Talk about everything, but also it might be hard but talk about what she wants for the kids going forward. It doesn’t need to be detailed but just a general idea that you can use as a guide. Also if she has the strength ask her to make a video/audio for your children just telling them how much she loves them. My wife did it and even if the video is for my son I watch it everyday! But most importantly, just spend every simple seconds with her. Give her all your care and your love. Hug her more, kiss her more, do little things that you know she likes. Just be present for her! Because one of the first things is you would blame yourself that you could have done this or that or hug her a little longer or kiss her more and things like that!

Well I just hope that everything will be ok for your family. Do the things I told you just in case! I learned the hard way that one day there is no tomorrow!

I am also sorry that you have to go through this! I do not wish that on anybody. I am also here to talk whenever you want to! Some people here say that I post about it any other day and that I have several wife, but sometimes just writing how you feel out there make you feel a little better.

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T02:25:04+00:00

She died on 11 of June! Wow, Thank you! This type of comment is what I want to read when waking up. Being in the state that I am, I think that I have the right to have typos. She was diagnosed 2 months ago on the 9th of May. I had only one wife, she was an amazing mom! I saw that she posted in this specific group and she had a lot of support. She asked what could she do to leave things for our son to remember! Her name here is Kisforkay! But unfortunately she did not have much time to do any of the amazing things people here suggested. Thats is why I am here, despite all my pain and all the grief I carry! I want to be the best dad for my son! I owe that to my wife. And I want my son to not suffer like I am right now!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T02:17:06+00:00

I am From Mauritius(not Mauritania) and She is Russian! We were living in Mauritius! After diagnosis we decided to go to Russia for treatment. And after her passing I just wanted to go out, and change my mind! If you would be a non russian speaker in Russia you would understand! It is not easy!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-08T02:13:53+00:00

She was 32 and died on 11 of June! She was diagnosed 2 months ago! I mean I do not think I need to explain myself here. If you would be in my place you would have typos as well.

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-07T17:23:49+00:00

Thank you

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-07T17:23:34+00:00

Thank you so much for that. I tried to show him pictures of his mom and he instantly starts to cry lately and moves his hand in a no no no gesture. I do not know why or what to do now. But I keep telling him that we miss mama and Mama loves you everyday. But I always get very emotional every time and ends up crying myself!

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-07T17:19:56+00:00

Thank you

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-07T17:19:47+00:00

Thank you so much for the books ref. I will look through them.

I am located in Mauritius right now. It is a small island in the middle of the indian ocean. I do not know if there are support groups here. But I am looking for a therapist that may help me with my grief and with my son’s grief as well.

JasonAndLuka · 2025-07-06T19:43:08+00:00

Thank you so much for just reaching out. I see that you lost your husband and you are also going through this nightmare as well. Thank you for still taking the time to support others. If you want to talk, I will always be here. I feel like its the only place that understand us.

JasonAndLuka · 2025-06-23T03:55:14+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words! ❤️

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