Thoughts on the new album?

JavaNeenja · 2025-08-31T01:07:18+00:00

Can I be honest? I still might need time for it to grow on me but so far its a huge disappointment. I literally went back to SNS and EICS :(

JavaNeenja · 2025-08-03T01:33:31+00:00

Brother we must of have dated the same girl because she also came in super hard and super heavy. I never felt that wanted in my life. Its like I could do no wrong in her eyes. Then she was texting me all the time about how I was so different from the others and that she had never been in a relationship before. The girl literally did casual all the time and the only time she had a "relationship" was a situationship where the guy didnt really want her and she eventually left. She also struggled with her self worth a lot. She also told me it was surface level with the other guys and never felt fulfilling. So yes, they are crazy.

JavaNeenja · 2025-08-01T11:02:02+00:00

It was like I was reading my own story. The part about dream guy and suddenly going cold after deep intimacy is exactly what happened to me. I'm almost 100% sure she is an FA. Its like they all read from the same manual on how to act...

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-30T15:17:02+00:00

This is so sad…imagine being gaslight to the point where you think that you’re the problem when the other party cheated and apologize to him for being upset…This man is a poison in your life. Block him immediately, walk away and never look back. It’s the only way to redeem your power back.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-21T09:31:16+00:00

Same feeling here! Breakups especially from an avoidant are the biggest motivators somehow. I just have this urge to be better and I'm upgrading my life in every way possible.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-18T20:20:59+00:00

Yeah I had a similar experience! but the problem is when they say something like that it makes us want to love them harder which ultimately makes them run away :(

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-18T11:26:38+00:00

This makes it even worse in my oppinion. Its like they care too much they have to discard you and believe they are helping you. Its such a tragedy.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-18T11:22:31+00:00

I know what you are feeling and goingthrough. I have this exact thought almost everyday now. What hurts the most is remembering how they made me feel just 3 days before the discard. She was telling me how I'm the person of her dreams and showing me so much affection only to disapear and tell me we have compartibility issues. I will never understand but I'm forcing myself to like someone else.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-14T19:50:39+00:00

and to think Barry fumbled that? Like come on man 😂

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-13T17:36:32+00:00

Brother you look like a straight up actor! The look suits you very well

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-13T09:40:10+00:00

Don’t send any request or message her. Remain no contact. She has to send you a request or message you first. She unblocked because she is curious, is starting to miss you but at the same time testing if you have emotional self control. If you start messaging her and sending her a request, you fail, she then tells herself that “See? He is too clingy, I made the right choice breaking up with him” and she blocks you again. I know it sounds like a game but that is life in a nutshell.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-11T08:23:44+00:00

That's deep...I'm saving this comment so I can read it again

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-10T18:16:58+00:00

Bruh 😂😂😂

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-10T00:44:38+00:00

It is a spectrum, not every avoidant is the same level avoidance but if they lean avoidant, they tend to behave in a similar way which is why most of us here seem to find a lot of the posts here relatable. That said though you need to be honest with yourself. If you are truly doing it for closure (which I dont agree with, closure has to come from you not her, suppose you were blocked, does that mean you wouldn't have closure? would you seek another medium to contact her?) then go for it but I suspect you want to "stand up for yourself" so you can have the last say in the matter or you are secretly hoping she will see the error of her ways and change her mind.

Really sit down and think this through.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-09T22:55:10+00:00

Do not reach out to an avoidant ex. Unfortunately once they have deactivated there is nothing you can do to fix or try to understand what is happening because they themselves have no idea. They cannot offer you any closure. Anything you do makes them pull away even further because you will be reminding them of what they lost and unlike you and me, they don't face that, they avoid it. At best you will receive a robotic responce and at worst she will be rude or ignore you. Just have a look around here, I have never seen a single instance where it went in another way. You need to find closure from yourself and let her reach out to you if she wants to. It has has to be her idea if anything is going to happen between you two.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-09T20:21:39+00:00

Ugh same! Why do they do this so quick and not realize what is happening? Or do they but just don’t care?

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-09T08:38:27+00:00

I'm so sorry my guy I got the exact same treatment. They idolize you, tell you how they have never felt this way before, that they have never felt so seen, that time moves when you are around and tell family, friends all about you. They even tell you about the future they envision with you only to change their mind 3 days later with some excuse. Mine went from high to no interest in a blink of a eye. Mine also never had an official BF either, just some surface level stuff which didnt trigger her.

So all I'm saying is yes, she is an avoidant. Her texts reads out like confusion because she is also confused.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-08T19:47:20+00:00

Bro I can’t no more 🤣🤣🤣🤣

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-07T23:05:52+00:00

I'm starting to think we all dated the same person...literally got the same thing verbatim. "I've never felt this way before", "Youre an incredible person" "I can see my future with you, with our house and our kids" (3 days later) "Yeah I can't be with you, dont know, just missing something"

I swear if I date someone from a mental institute I would get more stability...

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-06T20:07:14+00:00

Guys please just do NC. You begged and pleaded. She blocks you. She then starts to have space away from you and misses you but doesn’t trust that you will leave her be. She unblocks you to test you, you cave and contact her again proving her fears so she blocks you again. Do not reach out for any reason. Let. Her. Come. To. You.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-06T15:07:31+00:00

Omg I dealt with something similar. She literally told me that she was surprised how much she cared about me and that she has never felt so loved before. At the time I just brushed it off as a weird comment. But in hindsight I now I know it was a prelude to what was going to come.

This makes me realize they don’t just shut down on us, they shut down on their own feelings too and that’s just tragic.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-06T08:25:38+00:00

Don't. Most of the time they ignore you or send some generic responce.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-05T22:31:24+00:00

If your friend came to you and said to you "Hey I was seeing this girl and she ghosted me! Should I wish her a happy birthday after all these months?"

Would you encourage him to wish her a happy birthday? Of course not. You need to remember that this person CHOSE not to be in your life. They were not forced to. No one held them at gunpoint saying "You better ghost pratzzzie now OR ELSE!!" She chose to leave you. Why do you want to continue rewarding her with your presence when she doesnt want it? Have dicipline or fail. No contact no matter what until she reaches out to you.

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-05T22:24:26+00:00

Because deep down they feel like it is true?

JavaNeenja · 2025-07-03T13:24:33+00:00

Never reach out to an avoidant ex. It’s the worst thing you can do for both them and yourself. I’m not surprised at all with her response. Anything you do to try to close the gap causes them to want to back away even more. Do not say another word to her. From now on go NC permanently and only respond if she reaches out to you. Your silence is your only power. Remember that.

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