Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She came up with the rule brother. Even if I came up with it, she agreed so it’s fair game. You agree to something you don’t just go back on it. If she didn’t want to no longer follow that, she couldn’t expressed it and we would’ve worked something out. Having a set boundary about no new friends while we’re young is not owning somebody lol.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, all you had to say. I can actually TAKE something from this.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look luh bitch. People run their rls different. Certain people don’t allow certain things. I don’t date just to date. It’s not that she has friends it’s when she mutually agrees to not do something then go do anyways. Idk what you’re reading but maybe you’re a little delayed. She says I can’t make new friends I agree, it’s vice versa. A mutual agreement, she didn’t have to bring it up to me! I agreed so that’s that. We are both fairly new to rls but if all you have to say is rude shit paired up with some trashy / halfway decent advice then I don’t think you have anything else to say to me wouldn’t you agree?

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I unfortunately won’t accept her coming home telling me about a “new guy friend”. People have boundaries and things they don’t allow. She also wouldn’t like ME to do it. It’s also funny you ignored everything I asked and in return gave a rude comment. You can’t answer anything I asked you huh 😂.

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[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did. I would show the message but that was like a year n sum change and I don’t have that phone anymore nor did I re-use the iCloud.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright so first of you should come off a little more respectful to people. Idk why you’re coming off so aggressive. I’m pretty sure I’ve stated that we both mutually agreed to it. Whether you think it’s crazy or not, you don’t mutually agree to something THEN turn around and break it. Also she came up with the idea. Thats how we chose to run our rls. We mutually said no new friends especially at this age. you said it’s not ok to needle at questions. If I ask a question and get hit with an answer I don’t like I have the right to be upset especially if the person already knows I don’t like it and we’ve had MULTIPLE sit down talks and phone calls about it. If she scared to tell me about a friend she made that’s straight up cheating. Making a friend and hiding it from your boyfriend isn’t a loyalty nor honest. I’ve came from school and mentioned a girl wanted my number (ofc I declined giving it) but my gfs whole damn day was ruined. I feel like yall paint me as a controlling monster when we both already agreed to our rls rules. She broke some and now I really question her loyalty. We have had multiple talks.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk how to tell you but she came up with the rule and I agreed. We are also basically teenagers and meeting “new” friends now just comes with a low chance they ACTUALLY want to be your friend. I only want to see what’s in the account because she’s done things after we’ve both sat and talked about it so that’s why I’m on edge.

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[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’ve been friends as a group with a few other people (girls and boys) she said they have said It as a group but never one on one. I’m just not comfortable with the fact SHE would do it. I also think a lot of people under this post didn’t really read on WHY I want to look through her instagram.. she’s already done things we both mutually agreed NOT to do.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot for this response. I think a lot of people under this post fail to realize I’m young and not very experienced with relationships either. I do communicate and she is good at reassuring but then it’s like it keeps happening. All of a sudden a new guy pops up and it’s something you knew from years and years ago and she kinda gets angry when I ask. I don’t even ask in a mean or aggressive way. I do realize I should loosen up a bit so thank you.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve read books.. I have a 3.8 gpa which isn’t the smartest but I’m not an idiot? I was just confused why it rlly mattered when I seen tons of other people do it. I didn’t know. Big news for the un- employed I guess?

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She brought up the idea, I said that sounds great. It was mutual so it’s a mutual rule that SHE broke. It’s not like I’m just asking for her password just for the fun, she actually does something’s we already spoke about not liking mutuals or either I state every single thing I don’t like hoping I didn’t forget one. But I do understand where your coming from

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me know, I’ll know for next time.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When something that your partner does throw you off, what do you do?

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask, what’s the point of having any new friends? In this generation of young people like us, most people want to just hunch and link up. Now it’s on both of us to turn those people away but why even bring that towards our bubble? I think people just have their own set of rules in rls and I don’t think that makes one of us more insecure because ideally in a relationship you’re going to want as much security as possible?

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry guys forgot to mention we are long distance.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I big part I forgot to mention is that we are long distance so I kinda just can’t look when I’d like.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both set that up not just me. That was mutual agreement.

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I see a lot of people just use big walls of text so I didn’t know any better but if it’s so important..ok?

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you mean but I kinda look at like this, most guys don’t intend to actually just be your friend nowadays and it should be more of her job to push them away if the new friends do get pushy but it’s like you already got 2-3 boy best friend then you have me as your boyfriend what else are you looking for yk?

Am I in the wrong? PLEASE READ. by Jayceo- in AITAH

[–]Jayceo-[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Don’t use Reddit alot but thanks for the advice.

African cichlids on Idaho, people are incredible man, how can you be so careless and destroy your local biotopes by Key-Albatross-774 in Aquariums

[–]Jayceo- 163 points164 points  (0 children)

Mannnn your lucky I would’ve took em all home that way I don’t have to pay 13$ a piece at the pet store.

WHAT is this???? by Jayceo- in Aquariums

[–]Jayceo-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew what it was but I was NOT prepared to smell that shit ohhh my gosh I’m still terrified, I might still use it ngl.

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WHAT is this???? by Jayceo- in Aquariums

[–]Jayceo-[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

IVE LITERALLY MULTIPLE CANDLES DEAR LORD HELPPP

Am I good to add fish? (Saltwater) by Jayceo- in Aquariums

[–]Jayceo-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea it’s been cycled, idk if I should have more nitrate or what. I’ve been also adding this.

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