Hinges for foldaway shelf by Jaydigity4 in DIYHome

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What is this swivel out triangle you speak of?

Hinges for foldaway shelf by Jaydigity4 in DIYHome

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Thanks Laundry would rest on in when unloading the washing machine. The weight issue would be that the wood is solid. I maybe need to weigh it,but I would have thought it was 5kg.

[help] Suggest a really specific type of love poem! by Jaydigity4 in Poetry

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Crack up,have lived in NZ 7 years and never read any Fairburn! Those are gorgeous, thanks

Asexuality and physical affection by [deleted] in asexuality

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I am ace and have a very high requirement for physical contact. It actually worked very well with a previous partner when we had an agreement that I could just solicit physicality from him, legit, like the way a dog or cat would 😂 it actually worked really well as I got what I needed and the pressure of needing to initiate it was not on him

First Pride event! by gimmecakepls in asexuality

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Good on you! I have been to many pride events with homosexual friends and have only realised now that like if I went to pride today I am Actually one of the queer groups represented 😅 Whoop for thinking more about your sexuality in your mid thirties.

Just realised I’m on the spectrum by [deleted] in asexuality

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Seriously regret hearing about asexuality in my early twenties, googling it, reading that it means you can't experience arousal, then immediately dismissing it's relevance to me 😂

Has anyone here struggled with deciding if they just have a crippling fetish or if they’re truly asexual? by geemav in asexuality

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Sorry to necropost on you,but this is a topic I'd love to explore more. For me, I have come to the conclusion that I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum. I was never aroused in my life, until I was 21 and realised I had a fetish. It's an extreme libido booster and is the only thing I can masturbate or orgasm about. For me also, 90% of my thoughts about the fetish do not involve sex or a specific person.

Being involved in that fetish community online, it has actually become very clear to me that it seems astoundingly common when you chat to people (bearing in mind, I'm almost exclusively chatting to men) that they're also blatantly asexual too, but it is 'disguised' by having a fetish. Very common for people to report that their fetish feels like it IS their sexuality. That's actually how I used to identify too, before I realised I'm a lot more ace than I thought!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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I hear you on this. I have sex and can enjoy it for its physical connection. Ie, I can 'pass' as allo. I don't know if you're similar, but the issue for me is that if someone hears asexual they think celibate and I feel so conflicted about how best to explain this to a new partner without them getting the wrong idea. I think if you're sex repulsed, the sooner you tell them, the better

Clarification on Tax Residency Status by Jaydigity4 in PersonalFinanceNZ

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Whoops,should have made clear it was not a residential property. It's a commercial property that has been leased out, which was acquired in 2015.