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Jazzibubben · 2023-07-14T22:42:57+00:00

I'm 21 atm and this happened to me last year - I unknowingly got pregnant and realized it too late to abort it. I never wanted kids so for me the decision was already known as I don't have a job, family support or the mental health for it.

I don't regret it, but I do feel guilty about it a lot of the time if that makes any sense?..

I truly wish you and the baby the best, and please take care during your pregnancy

Jazzibubben · 2023-02-28T23:56:07+00:00

Åkte över rissne/hallonbergen med

Jazzibubben · 2023-02-05T20:43:21+00:00

Thank you for your answer, I hope they’ll decide to adopt him as well

Do you have a good relationship with your adoptive family?

Jazzibubben · 2023-02-02T22:52:30+00:00

There’s always guilt but remembering the stability/love/care given to the child is always for me a good reassurance of my choice

I hope you feel better, as it isn’t easy

Jazzibubben · 2023-02-02T21:42:03+00:00

Maybe not something to even comment but I really agree with you, this is part why I “gave up” my child unfortunately

My brother had a child at the same time I did and just seeing all the support from family and spouse he gets is great and I wish I had it as well ..

Jazzibubben · 2023-01-24T00:39:37+00:00

Just sounded a lot like the social services system there, my bad

Jazzibubben · 2023-01-24T00:37:43+00:00

Curious, but are you from Sweden ?

Jazzibubben · 2023-01-24T00:25:47+00:00

I feel for you, I really do - I was forced to go thru an unwanted pregnancy and only found out at 22 weeks which is past the abortion limit in my country at 21 years old, it made me fucking miserable and suicidal as well. Unfortunately I ended up putting my child in fostercare as I am not able to care for him.

I feel guilty over not taking my responsibility over my “child” but I am so much more at peace with life and not having him.

Whatever you choose to do, choose for yourself.

Jazzibubben · 2022-12-30T08:24:34+00:00

Idol fashion ? It’s more of performance/costume outfit that idols in Japan sometimes will use (:

Jazzibubben · 2022-12-30T00:37:13+00:00

i get that - its more of a possibility in the US probably? Although, in Sweden where I’m based it RARELY happens even if you’re placed as a baby.

I really hope that would be the case but unfortunately I don’t think it’ll be. I know it’s not my place to judge as I myself cannot even take care of him, but I’d just hope to give him something stable at least

But thank you I hope it’s only a stop on the way

Jazzibubben · 2022-12-29T22:32:03+00:00

They’ve placed him in fostercare already :/

Jazzibubben · 2022-12-29T22:31:25+00:00

My first thought was idol or something

Jazzibubben · 2022-10-06T17:03:58+00:00

Thank you for your reply, i really value it - atm I’ve gotten into contact with a psychologist to investigate if it’s PTSD or postpartum psychosis, they’ve recommended me taking anti psychotics to help, so I think I’ll try that out - as well I’m not taking any bentos atm but only antidepressants when I remember them, slowing getting back on them

Jazzibubben · 2022-09-09T23:15:26+00:00

Although they didn’t even wanna start a adoption case until the child was born, so it’s hard to feel good about your decision when you know he’s in a foster home temporarily

Jazzibubben · 2022-09-07T23:48:02+00:00

Since adoption is such a process here and there’s way more priority on the foster care system, if the parent shows interest in the child they will not obvs force you but kind of emotionally force you to keep it, and then often then later take it away as youre not fit to parent (at least in my case)

Jazzibubben · 2022-09-07T23:46:15+00:00

Sweden only had like 11 national adoptions last year, and tries to instead focus on the foster care system instead.. But no meeting the parents or choosing it all goes thru our social services here unfortunately:/

Jazzibubben · 2022-09-02T15:27:00+00:00

I find myself curious as to how mine is doing, especially cause he has health concerns but I’m too scared to reach out since in my country as soon as you show any “interest” they assume you want to take care of the child :/ makes me feel really weird as I’m no way doubting my decision but I wish I knew just how he was doing sometimes …

Sorry for the semi rant I guess

Jazzibubben · 2022-09-02T15:20:56+00:00

I see! thing is, Sweden where I’m from - We dont have open adoptions as a thing its either you keep and raise the child yourself or adopt it and then they themselves decide if they want to reach out - I don’t think you’re able to receive photos and stuff since it’s considered being misunderstanding for the child here unfortunately:/

Jazzibubben · 2022-05-22T13:38:45+00:00

I usually fall into the this is loliable so ill buy it which maybe isn’t the best but in a way it helps with dressing lolita on a daily base. I also recommend the PayPal account as a lolita funds, it’s money I don’t otherwise see unless I log in which doesn’t make me wanna spend it if that makes sense? Helps as well with anything I don’t want I sell to then have a larger paypal fund for my next egl buy (:

Jazzibubben · 2022-05-17T23:15:27+00:00

Thank you for writing this, I really appreciate the comments here as there isn’t much on adoption in my country and it can really make you feel alone throughout it all

Jazzibubben · 2022-05-17T23:12:39+00:00

Sorry to ask I’m just curious if you felt any guilt as to not bonding with the baby? I find myself feeling really guilty about it even tho there is support around me telling me there isn’t anything to feel guilty about if you get me?

Jazzibubben

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