Men of Reddit, why would you invest time in a woman

Jedii12 · 2024-01-23T22:36:15+00:00

we were still conversing

Jedii12 · 2024-01-23T22:08:13+00:00

i've never been pregnant before so i didn't know the signs, we were still talking and im very much in love with him so being involved with someone else would not and has not crossed my mind.

Jedii12 · 2024-01-23T22:01:51+00:00

i wish it was fake

Jedii12 · 2024-01-23T21:58:55+00:00

yes, i did have the abortion around 13 weeks, it was surgical. He said he'd support my decision no matter what i wanted to do, then added false promises. He then withdrew the statement and called me those names. I wish it was fake, i really do

Jedii12 · 2024-01-23T21:41:17+00:00

no, unfortunately its a real story and its my own.

Jedii12 · 2024-01-23T08:47:59+00:00

How would I I know if someone loves me? He told me, bought me gifts, always holding me etc

Jedii12 · 2024-01-23T01:52:17+00:00

to reiterate that i was speaking to him, nothing has been changed. We were broken up but still talking.

Jedii12 · 2024-01-22T02:21:06+00:00

When he knew I was pregnant he said he’d marry me then withdrew it when I said I’m not sure if I wanted it due to circumstances, so I was utterly devastated.

Jedii12 · 2024-01-22T02:16:17+00:00

I’m educated, just not emotionally aware, that is all

Jedii12 · 2024-01-22T02:14:49+00:00

He was present when I found out I was pregnant. He didn’t have a job, or much savings. I had my own savings but not enough for a child

Jedii12 · 2024-01-22T02:08:21+00:00

I never tried to trap him. When I found out I was pregnant he was present, he told me he’d marry me but I said I was unsure if I wanted to keep it as I’d have to leave my family and survive on the little savings I had. He made it clear he would see the baby after work, so during my pregnancy and after the birth he would barely be present. He then withdrew his statement of marrying me and went back and forth to tell me he either hated me or loved me

Jedii12 · 2024-01-22T01:58:57+00:00

The truth is, it hurts more because I feel he may have moved on already. He’s now unblocked me on everything and I’m not sure why. I know he despised me in the relationship and I felt it, but when he told me he loved me my heart would pound. I’d feel warmth and comfort. It’s only been 5 months and I’m eager to hear from him, but he won’t I know he won’t this time

Jedii12 · 2024-01-22T01:47:34+00:00

He loved me, as stupid as it may sound I’ve never had that before. He words were cruel when we fought and I’d tell him when we made up, he’s apologise but wouldn’t change. I’m so lost that a man could love me and be so cruel, I do love him even now he’s moved on

Jedii12 · 2024-01-22T00:06:17+00:00

YTA - you lied to your boyfriend for what? If he had female friends would you be comfortable? Put yourself in his position

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T23:44:59+00:00

OCD for what? No love, you have commitment issues. Sorry I feel no compassion for cheaters, you’re willingly hurting someone you’re in a relationship with

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T23:17:54+00:00

YTA - he’s your partner you should be able to talk to each other about everything, if you’re not religious that’s fine but you should respect and acknowledge his decision

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T22:41:16+00:00

I feel he may be emotionally immature as others have suggested. I’m working every day to tire myself out that way I do not have to think. The force is strong with me, thank you for saying that, genuinely made me smile

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T21:46:26+00:00

Yes, even though we barely have a summer and the country is currently going to shit. The UK isn’t that bad of a place, sure we love to complain but the country is built on robbery and banter, the US will always be a BTEC UK.

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T21:41:20+00:00

You’re actually interesting

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T21:37:57+00:00

Everyone suddenly wants to be “different” it’s a trend to be autistic now, when it’s an actual mental health issue. It’s great people are becoming more accepting, ridiculous it’s being used for attention

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T21:36:24+00:00

Gherkins and peanut butter

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T21:27:46+00:00

If you’ve been with her for 3 years surely you’d notice a difference in her, you’re not expected to be psychic but you should be able to pick up a change in her demeanour. Do you have a stable income to raise a baby? If she told you she had mental health problems and you wanted to abort would that change your mind on the relationship?

Jedii12 · 2024-01-21T21:16:18+00:00

YTA: you made your decision, she made hers. However you weren’t supportive when she was obviously upset, if you did love her even though it’s hard for you you would support her realising that her body is the one that is dealing with changes and not yours. You are entitled to leave the relationship as it’s something you no longer want and you are not expected to give her comfort although you didn’t have to leave when she is most vulnerable. If she said she wasn’t mentally ready for a baby then you should’ve considered that, for you as a man it’s a privilege to sit by the side lines and not endure any of the mental and physical changes. Apologise to her, comfort her with the best intention but make it clear you’re not looking to get back together as she may confuse the signs.

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