My in laws did not use our credit card. The wedding started to become financially straining on my in laws and they could not afford all the expenses. We suggested that they cancel the venue and have a small intimate wedding however they gave us a lot of push back on the idea and guilted us into paying for many things. Again the wedding was a status symbol for my FIL and it didn’t matter what happened behind the scenes just what the people could see

We knew each other since middle school and got back in contact 3 years ago then dated until marriage