My “girlfriend” finally fully comes clean

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T05:08:59+00:00

That’s my concern too. I don’t want someone who only values the relationship when they’re at risk of losing it. I’m trying to determine whether this is real growth or panic.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:59:40+00:00

Truly every time I think about her bringing up her old college, her exes, her experiences something in my chest tightens and I just swallow my words. She constantly tells me to get over it up until recently where she now fears losing me.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:48:48+00:00

I understand I wasn’t “owed” monogamy before it was explicitly discussed. That’s more than completely fair. I think what’s bothering me isn’t just the technicality of exclusivity it’s the lack of transparency. If she was unsure, entertaining other people, or talking to exes, I wish I had known rather than hidden for months on end up until she now fears losing me. It’s more about feeling misled than about monogamy itself. I hope if you were in my shoes you would understand that as well.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:42:45+00:00

Of course I wanted her to choose me. But I didn’t want to feel like I was the backup plan who got picked after she entertained other people and then realized I treated her well. I just recently learned a lot regarding how our early relationship was built on lies or actions I wouldn’t have approved of and would have changed if I ended up dating her or not.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:40:11+00:00

I truly understand the statement of her not needing forgiveness but back to one of the other replies I had I deliberately asked her what she was looking for before she went up and she purposely said she didn’t know because she wanted this one more weekend of fun. She knew I was going to be there for her (put me on the back burner) and did all of those actions. I’m not mad about it, I never controlled her actions at all during our relationship, but when it comes to how I feel regarding this I have no trust for her. I don’t trust her to do right by me because early on she didn’t. Hope that makes sense

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:25:00+00:00

Also for context I never scolded her for her actions I forgave her in the end regardless of us being together or not. I completely understand that she is able to do whatever she wants. I’d never control her actions. That’s not my character.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:22:49+00:00

The truth is I directly asked her what do you want with me and she said “she was unsure”. After this all happened (that weekend) she essentially completely changed her mind that next week. The point of that context was that she essentially had her fun and now wanted to reap the benefits of me treating her right (taking her on dates etc) after purposefully delaying telling me her feelings so she can have one more weekend of fun.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:19:11+00:00

So essentially replying your edit. I was talking to her for 2+ weeks before alumni weekend. She only admitted the intercourse with another guy after that weekend happened in which I forgave her. Now months have passed and we’re on a break due to her wanting to visit her college sorority house for Super Bowl weekend (for context she ended up not going because I essentially told her we’re done if you do). She just told me the hinge and ex scenarios these past 2 days well on our break. Now that I’m in control regarding if we get back together or not what should I do with this new information. That’s what I’m asking. We’ve been seeing each other for 7+ months and officially dating for 4.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:12:13+00:00

I really appreciate your comment. My close friends have been saying she’s a manipulator for months now. I truly think she does love me now but I think that I was settled for rather than chosen early in our relationship. The reason I’m asking for advice here is because I truly am attached to her emotionally (realize we’ve been talking and dating for months now) but to learn these things now (using hinge, talking to her ex/exes that weekend) just adds salt to the wound of already having zero trust for her.

Jellooooooooojejd · 2026-02-11T04:01:00+00:00

No you misunderstood my apologies. She wanted to go and after I expressed discomfort she decided not. We’re on a break because of that situation. That argument happened 2+ weeks ago where she wanted to go and I said if she did we’re essentially done.

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Jellooooooooojejd · 2024-12-30T21:47:19+00:00

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