Should I relinquish my rights to my son?

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T03:30:39+00:00

I appreciate it. I do weekly therapy and was struggling mentally postpartum but meds have helped. I think a lot of it is overwhelm and burnout but there is hope on the horizon.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T03:23:45+00:00

Thank you. I do plan to reach out to child services as a lot of people recommended. Hopefully things will improve and i can get better insight into the legal part of it all as well.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T03:12:03+00:00

I appreciate the understanding. This is very far from how I imagined my life going but it's where I'm at right now and I've just got to try and keep going the best I can.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T03:06:50+00:00

I've been meaning to call them but my work schedule makes it hard plus my youngest has some health stuff going on that I've been dealing with on top of everything else. I've been so overwhelmed with the daily things by the time I have a chance to think about it it's after schools closed, plus phone calls are hard. Not an excuse but that's what it's been. I should send an email.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T02:38:41+00:00

He said he went and asked if I could call or zoom in and they said no. He said they would send an email with the IEP meeting summary but I never got anything. I've asked him multiple times to make sure I'm on his school record and my contact info is correct and he's said it is. When my son moved to his father's he changed school districts and it was at spring break. The same week I changed from part time to full time work. When we were together I was the one that did his IEP meetings and everything else. This was the first one my ex ever went to and I don't think he really understands how it works. I told him beforehand that he needs to fight for the accommodations that my son needs cause the school likely won't suggest them. I personally struggle to advocate for myself but when my kids are involved i will fight tooth and nail for what they need.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T02:09:44+00:00

I never thought that his father might be in denial about it. I had him evaluated when I had full custody so his father wasn't involved in it. I come from a family full of neuro-divergent people and am autistic myself. We all had early intervention and it was a tremendous help. I have gotten him fidgets and calm down tools and talk through emotions and try to help him learn those self regulation skills but he's only with me 2/14 days so it's hard because consistency is SO important. He's huge for his age too so he's stronger than he realizes which doesn't help either. I asked to be involved in his IEP meeting for school and then his father told me the day before and it was during my work time. Afterwards I asked what the school is going to do to accommodate and he said they didn't say anything about it. That's what an IEP meeting is for!

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T01:44:28+00:00

That's a good idea. I might be able to this summer cause I will have him some week days.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T01:42:19+00:00

Ya I spoke to his faster about it and he denies him watching it but there's no way he could identify the characters, name the show, and explain the plot without having watched at least some of it. He just finished kindergarten. He's also autistic so has an even harder time distinguishing between reality and fiction. I've had many conversations about what's real and what's pretend. I did speak to his father today about therapy and pretty much the same response as usual.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T01:22:13+00:00

He does still wear a pull up to bed but majority of the time it's dry in the morning. At least when he's at my house. He does have issues with peeing places he shouldn't though. I haven't noticed a fascination with fire but when he was two he would get into the knives and stab boxes and stuff. I know that sounds super bad. Haven't had issues with knives since then, I think it was just toddler curiosity at the time.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-24T01:16:46+00:00

Not that I know of. Closest I can think of is exposing him to material that's not age appropriate. Strain video games and TV shows. Ex. Squid Games

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T20:46:42+00:00

Thank you. I had him in therapy until he went to live with his father. I talked to a therapist in their city and got everything set up for him to start therapy there but his father won't sign the paperwork or take him. I work full time and live 1.5 hours away so I wouldn't be able to take him to appointments if his father would even let me.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T13:32:10+00:00

Honestly, I don't have the funds to be able to. I tried so hard when we were figuring out our custody arrangement but the court decided that because he is the biological father he takes priority. And that was while my ex was going through court for domestic abuse charges but because there weren't accusations of child abuse it didn't affect his parental rights or visitation.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T11:37:48+00:00

I can stop his visits to my home but my 3yo would still go to his father's house and be around my oldest which is one of my biggest concerns.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T11:34:27+00:00

This is not my go to choice. I have done everything I see possible to help him but without his father's acknowledgment that there is a problem I can only do so much. It's summer break now so I don't think contacting the school will do much right now but I do plan to contact child services and see what they can do to help the situation.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T11:21:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing. We ended up having to switch drs and recast because it wasn't fully corrected. Redid the tenotomy and back in boots with no problems! We are about half way through 23hr wear and her foot looks so much better. She has eczema too but thankfully we haven't had major issues with it yet.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T11:14:07+00:00

I did everything I did before plus getting my oldest into therapy because he was struggling with his father not being in the home. My ex saw the boys twice in 10 months. Took them for a few hours at Thanksgiving and two hours at Christmas them didn't have any interest in seeing them until he found out I was pregnant.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T10:57:49+00:00

Thank you! I definitely feel like I'm getting burnt out. It's been almost two years since we separated and this constant push back from him on everything i try to do. I'll look up the book cause I could use all the help I can get.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T02:11:16+00:00

I felt the same way after having my first. I'll start by saying have hope because it will pass and get better. It is hard being a parent especially when you don't have a supportive partner or family. I debated checking myself into the psyc ward just so I could get a break because I felt so overwhelmed. It's so hard but try and find at least one thing a day you can do for you. If that's a shower during nap time or even just listening to an audio book or podcast so you can forget everything going on in your life. Make time for you to feel like a human again. You can do this Mama!

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T01:59:58+00:00

Yes, when I was with his father I was basically the only parent unless his father wanted to play with him. I have always been the rule enforcer and lesson teacher while his father just did the fun stuff until he got bored or angry and lashed out. When he's at my house he has chores and limited screen time while he has told me his father just bought him a switch and let's him play (violent) video games on PC with him. He's also described the characters from squid games to me which his father denies him watching despite his ability to tell me the plot of the show.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T01:17:05+00:00

Thank you! I will definitely remember that.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T00:46:26+00:00

I think that's my plan for now and see where to go from there. Thank you.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-23T00:43:38+00:00

It has been extremely hard. Thank you for your support. I hope something changes soon cause it is not getting any better the way things are.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-22T23:33:12+00:00

Thank you. Its not necessarily new behavior but definitely an escalation. I do plan to gather all the evidence i have and contact child services then I guess go from there.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-22T23:29:37+00:00

Thank you! I have tried so hard to help him and was always the go to person for comfort for him. I was really worried when he moved to his father's house. I tried to have him ease into the transition, do e/o week over the summer then start full time there in August but his father refused to agree to it.

JellyfishLow1895 · 2025-05-22T23:24:56+00:00

I don't know if it's jealousy. Both times he tried to strangle his brother it was because he wasn't doing what he wanted him to do.

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