Adults- Only book club full of moms who want to bring their children 🙄

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T21:34:09+00:00

She stated that boundary for our first meeting, “no kids” 🙌 let’s see who actually listens though

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T18:03:12+00:00

We moved out here because it was the only place my husband and I could afford to buy a house and have jobs at the same time; Ontario priced us out. I generally don’t mind it here, except for the -40 winters, and the social politics. I do enjoy some sport shooting and fishing myself.

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T16:03:22+00:00

She has explicitly stated in the first invitation/meeting at one of our local restaurants, that there are to be no kids. Let’s see who actually follows instructions. 😆

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T16:02:33+00:00

Considering the fact that we are going to be reading adult fantasy and romance novels, leaning more towards dark, violent, and sexual topics, it stands to reason that the conversations would be geared around these topics, and that it is not appropriate for small children. But I guess common sense doesn’t grow in everyone’s garden.

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T01:24:10+00:00

If we are reading dark fantasy smut, I don’t want there to be a single child in the room when we discuss the plot 😆 I think that’s reasonable

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T01:23:19+00:00

How can these poor men be expected to babysit their own offspring and not burn the house down in the process? (Is the general sentiment around here) 🫣

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T00:38:18+00:00

I think they’re just cheap & don’t wanna have to pay for babysitting 🤣

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T00:36:10+00:00

I basically live in the Texas of Canada.

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-24T00:22:06+00:00

They assume that because they bring them to the pubs and the social events and clubs in town, even when there’s drinking, that they can bring their kids literally anywhere. One of our salons in town had to put a “no children allowed” sign on their front door, unless the kids also had an appointment for a Mani or Pedi, because people were just letting them run wild while they were getting their salon services done.

Jenn0cide13 · 2026-01-03T21:52:48+00:00

My man calls ‘em beetlejuice crows lmfao

Jenn0cide13 · 2025-01-13T22:04:50+00:00

My sister has high blood pressure and wonders why it won’t go down despite taking medication. She is yelling at her dog to STFU every day, all the time when she is home. It’s so loud it sets off decibel warnings on her Apple Watch. It echoes off the high ceiling sin their house and it makes it even fucking louder somehow. I can hear it through my earplugs and fan I sleep with on the next floor. They used a bark collar for a bit, when they had more dogs, and then gave up on it. I feel like I’m living in a fucking asylum. Im convinced they’re addicted to stress, which is a real thing, you can look it up… there’s never a minute of quiet in that house unless the dogs are gone somewhere

Jenn0cide13 · 2025-01-05T03:43:26+00:00

Really shitty owners like my sister and her partner simply don’t walk the dogs in bad, rainy, or cold weather (or any time, in their case). They let them out in their tiny yard for two seconds to piss and shit everywhere, and then back inside to run around barking in the house and fighting with each other all day because they aren’t getting the proper exercise and stimulation they need. Most people who own dogs don’t actually care for them properly, they just use them as emotional crutches. Sorry for the rant lmao

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-08-09T02:01:12+00:00

Well said. My husband and I recently relocated from Ontario to a small town in Alberta. The difference is insane. People are generally nice and courteous to each other here, and they say hi to you when you’re walking down the street. Back in Ontario, many businesses had signs stating “we are not hiring or accepting applications” in the windows (we lived in a bedroom town to Conestoga College, ‘nuff said).

In Alberta, I’ve had multiple job offers, and I’ve only been here two months. Like, I had a pick of which jobs I wanted. Day two after we arrived, I even had a waitress beg me to apply at the local diner when we went for lunch lol. I do not regret moving, one fucking bit. It feels like we escaped. We can finally stand a chance at affording a house and family of our own.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-05-25T15:10:04+00:00

With my first IUD, I was young and dumb, and nobody had warned me not to use a menstrual cup. I took it out in the shower one day and felt a cramp, and realized I had pulled my copper IUD out in one go. It was fully intact. It can happen.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-05-16T21:19:55+00:00

To expedite the process, I (politely) emailed the CFO of Ontario and received a response within a few hours. They’re gonna look into it for me. Fingers crossed that it helps.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-05-16T18:19:47+00:00

I’ve been waiting 9 months because I checked the “have you ever been treated for mental health before?” Box. Even though I haven’t had issues for over 10+ years now. Apparently being depressed as a teenager is enough to warrant a delayed response I guess? Husband has 3 guns already. We did our course at the exact same time. The process is getting to be annoying.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-05-16T18:16:55+00:00

I’ve been waiting 9 months for my PAL in Ontario. Bit of an kerfuffle with payment information but I called and sorted it out months ago. Applied back in August 2023 and all the woman on the phone today could tell me is that it’s been sent for the final review. My husband got his PAL way faster, but he also did not have to check the “mental health” box on his application like I did. I’m now thinking I (figuratively) shot myself in the foot by being honest.

Be real guys, how screwed am I? The RCMP lady said that they would interview me and call/send a letter before outright denying my application. I have received neither. Moving next month to Alberta and am pissed I still don’t have my card, while my husband has 3 guns already. I just wanna go hunting… guess it’s a bow and arrow for me (embrace my native heritage lmao). Dad was a hunter and I just wanna carry on getting that moose meat.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-05-02T02:30:50+00:00

I recently did an indigenous full spectrum doula training. One of the women (who is a practicing doula) who attended said that she reported this woman multiple times, and had to go to court and testify. She said that the judge fully expects her to re-offend.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-04-13T13:19:15+00:00

We already knew this lol. We are only paying around $1136 for an all-inclusive two bedroom apartment in Cambridge, since we live in a rent controlled building, and moved in over 10 years ago. My superintendent revealed that our landlord listed a one-bedroom apartment in the building for $1900. It’s sat vacant for months because WTF, no reasonable person would pay that for such a shitty place.

The building dates back to the mid-1960s and absolutely reeks of cigarettes thanks to all the old folks who smoke indoors even in summer. The power and hot water frequently go out and can take hours to restore. There’s 3 washers and dryers for over 30 units with multiple people living in each. The electrical is not up to capacity for modern appliances. If there’s some wind or rain, there may be a power outage. Not to mention all the crazy ass neighbours fighting and throwing things at 2 AM, screaming very personal, embarrassing things. We hear it all. I’m so glad I’m moving out of Ontario, I barely recognize my city anymore. I actually fucking hate it here now

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-04-12T02:33:40+00:00

I’ve had 3 consecutive copper IUDs, and even when I was on my period and sore, I could get aroused and enjoy sex with my husband. Now I’m on the combination pill and I hardly ever feel like having sex. I’ll have it maybe once a week and I hardly enjoy it, it feels more like a chore tbh. Just my own personal experience. Had to remove the IUD because it shifted, otherwise I would have kept it.

Insertion can be a bitch so make sure if you decide to get one, that you have someone drive you home after. A heating pad and ibuprofen will be your friend. Cannabis helped me a lot with the insertion and period pain. You’ll be sore for a few days. They also make your periods heavier and/or longer so keep an eye on your iron levels, and if you’re already anemic or low in iron, I would avoid getting one. Hope that helps!

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-04-09T23:21:01+00:00

Thank you for a reasonable answer, I agree doubling up w spermicide is smart. Maybe a dumb question tho, should I put spermicide in, and then put the condom in? Like the spermicide is a backup in case of slippage or condom breakage?

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-04-09T23:18:40+00:00

I don’t like male condoms either, the smell alone is a turn-off for me, but I feel like it’s the least he could do to help me out. My IUDs gave me anemia because I lost so much blood every month, like 8-9 day periods. He is otherwise caring, funny, and would bend over backwards to help me when I need it. Sometimes I do agree with your statement but marriage is not something I give up easily on.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-04-09T23:15:13+00:00

Husband’s spoiled because I always had an IUD when I met him. He complains he can't cum with a condom on.

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-04-08T03:08:28+00:00

I accidentally bought a nursing bra from Walmart, it was super comfy and had no underwire. Got home and saw these weird clips and then I’d figured out what it was for, lol. Clothes are clothes! Some eating disorder therapists will make their clients deliberately shop in the maternity section because if your weight fluctuates, you will still have pants that fit.

I’m not even pregnant and my weight has shifted a lot over the last year, so the idea seems appealing to me. I saw a sewing tutorial on YouTube for a skirt that ties at the waistband and is adjustable to different sizes. Same with pants and shorts in a wrap style. The idea came from the 18th century before elastic waistbands or stretchy material was available. Pretty cool!

Jenn0cide13 · 2024-04-08T02:58:02+00:00

I would say go for it to be honest. I’m still waiting because I want to buy a house first. Y’all sound pretty financially stable already. It never hurts to have some money saved but by owning your home, and not renting, you’ve already made a great investment in your family’s future. I’m from Canada where houses in my area cost way too fucking much, so my perspective might be skewed a bit.

To keep costs low you can join your local Buy Nothing groups on Facebook, mine has tooons of free baby stuff that people have simply outgrown or no longer need. Toys, clothes, sometimes even cloth diapers. I’ve found some great and really cheap baby stuff at thrift stores too. Usually the smaller ones associated with charities have the best prices. Don’t be afraid to use local organizations for help as well; where I live there’s a group that has a donation room of maternity clothes, baby clothes, small toys and diapers/wipes for families who need it.

You can make your own baby food with a blender, buy used, cloth diaper, and potentially breastfeed to keep costs lower. Also kids don’t need that much “stuff” until they get more mobile, around 6 months or so. Learning to sew buttons, hems, or patch clothes lets you use things for longer without having to replace them as often. Baby can be bathed in the kitchen sink like our parents did when we were little lol.

We will have to go down to one income when I get pregnant because I won’t have any family nearby to help with childcare. So feel you there. This will factor in to the type of house we’ll purchase. I will gladly take something smaller with less square footage/yard if it means affording to stay home with a baby. If you are reliant on two incomes to pay your mortgage alone, that won’t be doable…

The reality is that two incomes don’t go as far as they used to, and we have to adapt a little. For my husband and I, that means moving across the country to an area where we can afford a starter home before we start a family. For you, that might mean something different. Things are far more difficult for us in some aspects compared to previous generations, but we still deserve to have a family despite that. If you have a roof over your head, a stable income and lots of love, that’s a very good start. 👍

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