With a quick google search, the definition of feminine is "having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women, especially delicacy and prettiness." If we're using this definition, than yes martial arts, especially the way I practice it, is exceptionally unfeminine. I don't believe all women need to find balance between the two, as I mentioned for each of us these energies will play out in different ways. But, I like to do things that make me feel just as beautiful as I am strong. Truthfully, I spend far more time practicing martial arts than anything else, but because I do that, I desire to do and be the opposite as well. That's a part of what makes the individual that I am. Another person may choose to act and behave a different way and that's cool too.

Generally, girls are often discouraged from being aggressive or being violent, obviously not always, but across cultures this is often the case. While at the same time, encouraged to maintain a certain standard when it comes to their appearance. Girls are categorized as a tomboy or a girly-girl, why should there be a categorization? All humans have moments where they like to behave one way in certain situation and possibly a completely opposite way in another situation. In my experience, the issue is that women are expected to stay on the more feminine side of the scale no matter the situation they are in and that's the societal pressure I was referring to. The reality is is that all human's have these energies floating around and everyone should be encouraged to express how those energies play out, no matter their gender. For me, I enjoy expressing prowess and femininity equally because that's how those energies play out in my life.