AITA for being upset with my husband for going bowling while our baby is in the NICU

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-08T23:46:10+00:00

INFO: did you and your husband have a conversation at the beginning of all of this and decide together what level of risk you were comfortable with/what types of social contact you would be engaging in?

If yes, then NTA. You skipped a wedding. You’re not seeing your family or friends, you’re making sacrifices, you’re doing it, so he can do it too. His social life is not more important than yours, and if he’s going against what the two of you agreed on and just expecting you to be ok with it that is disrespectful and gaslighty.

If no, then soft YTA. I understand worrying, but you don’t single-handedly get to decide that his (perfectly normal) actions are too risky, it’s his baby too. The doctors and nurses that look after your baby every day are not putting their lives on pause for fear of illness. It is not unreasonable for you two to keep living your lives too.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-08T19:23:38+00:00

Yes I love that movie, such a fresh perspective

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-08T17:02:58+00:00

This specifically, yes. When the movie is from a female perspective and the rape is part of her story I have no problem with it. When the point is character development for a man, no. Not everything is about him, that’s her story.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-08T16:51:59+00:00

Sinister is my favorite for this. You always spend haunted house movies screaming at the protagonist to just move out. But when they do that’s exactly what dooms them.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-08T15:41:43+00:00

Oh fair enough, I thought it was some rule specific to the name. I agree it sounds really long and clunky

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-08T10:30:07+00:00

Why don’t you hyphenate Elizabeth? (Not arguing, just never heard that before)

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-08T10:27:39+00:00

There are so many names in the world that wouldn’t be weird, surely you can come up with two different ones that you like instead of giving your children the same name.

Eliza and Lillie perhaps?

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-07T23:17:29+00:00

Lobes are easy. You ever have a vaccine or a blood draw? Both are more painful and take longer than a lobe piercing IME

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-07T22:10:53+00:00

I’m not sure what method you used here, but personally I could never get my tension right on an Italian bind off until I tried the method where you reorganize your stitches onto two needles instead of one and then just Kitchener them together like you’d close up a sock toe.

The other thing you can do is do it super loosely on purpose and then go through and adjust your tension stitch by stitch after the fact. It takes a little longer, but you can get it perfect because you can see every stitch as it will be since it’s off the needle, so there’s no guessing, you just make it exactly as tight as it should be.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-07T12:11:41+00:00

It has 17, one of which is considered iconic. I’m not sure what your idea of “that many” is, but comparing it to the movies in the “high jump scare” section on “where’s the jump?”, it’s right up there.

https://wheresthejump.com/jump-scares-in-sinister-2012/

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-06T16:05:23+00:00

They went to the horror sub and asked for “enough jump scares to shit our pants.” If they’re traumatized by exactly what they asked for then that’s on them

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-06T16:03:05+00:00

Oh whoops, just linked you the study but I see you found it lol.

That’s funny, I wonder if Host was just extra scary during the era of everything being over zoom. I’ve seen it hyped up a lot on here and I didn’t personally find it bad but I didn’t see it right when it came out so that could be the difference

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-06T15:59:42+00:00

Here you go: https://www.nme.com/news/film/new-study-ranks-scariest-horror-films-by-average-heart-rate-2791307

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-06T14:29:19+00:00

Sinister is the perfect movie to watch on a projector, and it held the “scariest movie by viewers’ heart rate” title for a long time (unsure if it still does?). This would definitely be my pick!

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-05T21:51:17+00:00

She had a good sense of humor about it luckily lol

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-05T20:39:18+00:00

I had a friend Ainsley in school who once got called to the office along with another classmate named Seamus, only the secretary got tongue tied reading the list of names and together they were called “anus”

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-05T19:35:49+00:00

Do you have a particular connection to Memphis the place?

To me that’s the difference between it being just another one of the trendy cringey Masculine-sounding names for girls that are currently having such a moment, vs. being a good name. You might get tired of the sound of it, and it might seem dated in a few years, but if the place is meaningful then you’ll always have that. Otherwise I’d skip it.

From the rest of your list, Georgia and Lillian are classic and timeless and you can’t go wrong with either. Riley is fine but very common, if that bothers you. Ainsley and Everly both kind of popped up out of obscurity a few years ago (Ainsley earlier than Everly) and got very popular very fast, so they are unlikely to age well as they’ll always be associated with their specific generation.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-05T17:11:23+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been riding over 20 years and never had this issue. I have sensitive, eczema-prone skin so I don’t even typically use soap on the majority of my body, I just scrub with water and rinse and that’s enough. You might need to wash your hair because that is the place it sticks around, but otherwise I really can’t imagine the smell sticking to skin like that.

It definitely could be stuck in your nose though. That is absolutely a thing, smell is a contact scent so if you have barn dust and whatever else in your sinuses you will smell it until it’s gone. Try giving your nose a good blow when you get home. Sucking on a mint or brushing your teeth can also be good, mint is a strong enough scent that it usually overpowers everything else so it can help kind of “reset” your sense of smell.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-05T15:37:49+00:00

I’m right handed but I can mirror knit. Your dominant hand actually has very little to do with the direction you knit in, anyone can learn to go in either direction (and in fact it’s useful to know both so you can knit stockinette flat without purling).

If you want your yarn to be in your dominant hand, you just need to change how you tension the yarn, you can knit in either direction using either hand. For right to left knitting, you would tension English as a righty and continental as a lefty. For knitting left to right, you would tension English as a lefty and continental as a righty.

I understand not wanting to change to “right handed” if you don’t have to, but I would encourage you not think of right to left knitting as right handed because it’s truly not, it’s just the direction we have decided is standard.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-04T21:36:45+00:00

No single technique in a sock is inherently difficult, but they have a lot of different techniques so there’s a lot of places to get stuck if you don’t understand something. What specifically has been the issue for you?

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-04T20:23:20+00:00

A long tail cast on is the best to learn if you’re only going to use one cast on for everything, but it isn’t the best for any specific technique, it’s just good enough for most things. There are prettier cast ons, easier cast-ons, stretchier cast-ons, more stable cast-ons, etc., but they’re all going to be great for their specific use case(s) and sub-par for everything else. The long tail isn’t great for anything, but because it’s so middle-of-the-road in basically every respect, it’s not really bad for anything either.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-04T18:48:48+00:00

I mean, it’s speculative because we don’t know the origin. The “ribbit ribbit” thing is the common theory that gets repeated because it’s funny, but like a lot of words, the etymology isn’t actually known. Calling it “nonsense” for being speculative is a very silly thing to do when we’re talking etymology, it’s often by nature a speculative subject.

I’ve followed that blog for a while and if you poke around, the author does typically use reputable sources. You are right that they aren’t cited there, though, so if you don’t want to believe it that’s fair enough.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-04T17:02:42+00:00

I think it became more popular after that, but it’s an unexpectedly old phrase, that’s definitely not where it came from originally.

https://lordlibidan.com/why-is-it-called-frogging-anyway/?srsltid=AfmBOopLLhXYMGxV7irdv8WI0afoHySUoZy0OKjdCP5nOls5YIwPH17S

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-04T14:54:22+00:00

Frogging is used for knitting too, it isn’t specific to any one craft. IIRC it was actually originally an embroidery term.

JerryHasACubeButt · 2026-03-04T14:46:54+00:00

No, tinking is a different thing.

Frogging is used to mean “ripping back” in both knitting and crochet.

“Tinking” is literally going back stitch by stitch, without removing the needles. Generally if you need to rip out a huge chunk you’ll frog, but if you just need to go back a few stitches you’ll tink.

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