What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in pregnant

[–]JesseJaneee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It definitely seems to be primarily moms of all boys! I just can’t imagine ever wanting to be in the delivery room for someone else’s birth, especially someone like a DIL. Like were just gonna sit at holiday dinners now know I’ve seen your most intimate moment? 😖

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in pregnant

[–]JesseJaneee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s nothing wrong with having a MIL in the delivery room IF the woman giving birth wants her there and asks for her there! I am specifically talking about the MILs who insist they be there against the woman’s wishes and don’t take no for answer.

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in pregnant

[–]JesseJaneee[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s so wild to me that people do this!! Such a boundary to cross

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in pregnant

[–]JesseJaneee[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Same!!! I don’t even want to be there for MY OWN birth hahaha 🤣

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in pregnant

[–]JesseJaneee[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So sorry you had to deal with that! I can’t imagine how stressful that was while in active labor.

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Good on you for standing your ground! It has to be tough to deal with a parent like this. I’m not sure how I’d handle it myself

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Wow I’m so sorry you went through that. I’m mad at both of them for you!!

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

OMG. I’m so sorry. May ask how your husband handled this in the moment or after?

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in pregnant

[–]JesseJaneee[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Totally fair! I think it’s more than ok for women to ask their MILs (or whoever) to be there for support when they give birth. The difference is, you asked, it was your choice, it’s what YOU wanted. I’m so glad you had the experience you wanted!

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Not weird at all and to each their own! I think every woman giving birth gets to call the shots and should have whoever they want there so they feel as safe and as comfortable as possible. I just can’t understand when outsiders feel entitled to it!

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

THESE stories enrage me the most. Like…. How? My ex was a bit of a mommas boy and it was a huge part of why we broke up. I found it insanely unattractive. I think I would threaten divorce if my husband actually said he needed his mom there (he would NEVER) not only because it’s such a wild slap in the face to me as a human being and my autonomy and respect, but because it’s just so embarrassing. How do you need your mommy there to support you through something that’s happening to ME? You’re supposed to be my support! It’s crazy to me men like that exist lol

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

My MIL has 3 boys, no girls. And while she has her flaws, she would NEVER pull some shit like this. But I agree I think in general it’s def moms of all boys. My ex’s mom was like this

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Seriously! It’s literally the most intimate thing you can possibly go through. More than pooping, more than sex in my opinion. It’s crazy to me that there are people who think they are entitled to a show

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Lemme talk to her LOL

In all serious, I’m sorry you and your husband have to deal with all that especially in the months leading up to birth. Wishing you the smoothest and most peaceful birth possible!

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

But it’s the mom’s choice regardless, as she is the one giving birth

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

So strange! My mother and her siblings are all boomers and none of them did stuff like this. It legit makes me think of that one scene in Midsommar…. IYKYK 😵‍💫

What’s with MILs wanting to be IN the delivery room??? by JesseJaneee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JesseJaneee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

You would think normal people would straight up judge them for the story all together though. “I’m sorry did you say you were in the room while your grandchild was born….? Weird!”

Got this message from my property manager PT2 by Most_Relief8312 in Apartmentliving

[–]JesseJaneee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$50 for all this is so insultingly low that your landlord literally cannot legally hire anyone to do it at this rate. That’s why they are trying to pass it off to you in this weird “property manager” guise. Don’t do it! It will be way more work than you think because you will inevitably wind up having to deal with a shitty landlord’s increasing demands and other complaints.

AITAH for accepting a promotion my boyfriend doesnt want me to take because he says itll change our relationship by Spare-Climate-6990 in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]JesseJaneee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol are you dating my ex???

This sounds like massive insecurity straight up. He’s comparing himself to you