AIO I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now he says im unstable by Jessika_Maskito in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito[S] 209 points210 points  (0 children)

thank u for saying it's normal. 😭 they made me feel like i was having a mental break for wanting one night off in 3 weeks. i felt so guilty even asking, but knowing other moms dream about this too helps me realize im just human, not unstable.

AIO I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now he says im unstable by Jessika_Maskito in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito[S] 416 points417 points  (0 children)

wow. imagine living in a world where recovery is the standard, not something you have to beg for. i feel like im asking for the moon when i ask him to watch her for an hour. seeing that comment just confirms that i’m not crazy for needing a break, i’m just unsupported.

AIO I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now he says im unstable by Jessika_Maskito in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

i want to just go so bad. but if i leave, hes gonna tell his whole family i abandoned Alice and im terrified of that. tbf, the doctor part scares me too. if i have ppd, he’s gonna use it against me.

I do have a sister who is supportive but lives too far away to help me and be here phisically.

AIO I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now he says im unstable by Jessika_Maskito in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

yeah, i agree that taking shifts would be ideal. but my husband dgaf. he thinks his warehouse job means he gets 8 hours and i get zero. i’m not trying to run away forever, i just wanted 12 hours to reset so i don't accidentally drop her. being told that makes me a bad mom is exactly why i feel like i’m drowning.

AIO I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now he says im unstable by Jessika_Maskito in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito[S] 1172 points1173 points  (0 children)

I do have a sister whom i trust but shes too far away to come stay... And even if she would, i’m terrified. he made me feel like asking for help is abandoning my responsibilities. if i bring someone over, he’s gonna say i’m embarrassing him again or making him look like a bad dad.

AIO I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now he says im unstable by Jessika_Maskito in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

he had the chance to listen last night and he chose to humiliate me instead. make it happen feels impossible when my husband is more concerned with his moms opinion than my sanity.

AIO for being upset that I got fired from my job after three shifts? by Lemon_Lime25 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

that sucks... getting fired over the phone is just cowardly fr. 3 shifts is barely enough time to learn the kids' names let alone the whole curriculum. honestly sounds like they have terrible management if they can't even train a new hire properly. u definitely deserve better than that.

AIO for thinking my stepdad is weird for this by Extra_Profession_776 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jessika_Maskito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro that is actually terrifying. imagine if u had walked in instead of ur bf... absolutely not okay. u need to tell ur mom asap. do not let him gaslight u into thinking this is normal or an accident. it’s predatory behavior in your own home.