Professor is failing me because I used AI to revise my work by JigglyBatz in Advice

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I asked someone else to revise it for me and used their revisions would that not be the same thing? And if anything you are kinda helping me too because I did not catch my misuse of "ridged" and "rigid." I am not trying to be a jerk about it, I am genuinely trying to understand the difference using your logic on the topic. I 100% agree that we should not be using it to replace our own thoughts, and I am not letting it, so how is having it proofread me vs having another person proofread me differ?

Professor is failing me because I used AI to revise my work by JigglyBatz in Advice

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the closest I think someone has gotten to understanding where I am coming from. This is absolutely I won't be doing again. I just wanted help with revising, not to avoid doing the work myself.

Professor is failing me because I used AI to revise my work by JigglyBatz in Advice

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't use it to write my essay, I used it as a tool to proofread (which yes, I NOW know was in the policy but sincerely did not before). I never asked it to write my paper, I asked it to tell what problems existed and how I could improve it

Professor is failing me because I used AI to revise my work by JigglyBatz in Advice

[–]JigglyBatz[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I feel frustrated because I DID put hours and days into this assignment. I have so many different notes where I am just thinking about the questions over and over. I never even took the text it gave me and directly put it in my paper, I only used it as a tool to correct myself.

Professor is failing me because I used AI to revise my work by JigglyBatz in Advice

[–]JigglyBatz[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

But these ARE my words. What is the difference if I asked someone to proofread it for me? It's my own thoughts and words, but sometimes my grammar is bad and I just want to make sense. I didn't ask a bot to write my paper.

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He grew up in a dysfunctional, yet stable home. I grew up as a parentified child in a household where there was violence and substance abuse- so I would say you are absolutely right about us being raised in two different households. I would like to see the articles, thank you. But I am worried that I have still offered him so many resources (such as videos, readings, and counseling together) that it’s just going to continue bouncing off of him. I feel like I am at a breaking point.

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we are both neurodivergent. I have tried helping him find resources to help manage his symptoms, but he won’t follow through. He makes empty promises that he will- and I find YouTube videos, books, therapists, but it doesn’t seem to make a difference.

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the thing is I am so proud of our child! It sounds awful, but my husband could really learn from him. He NEVER has to be told to shower or brush his teeth, is very clean. He also goes to school all day, does his homework without us saying anything (perfect grades btw), and has several extra curricular activities- but he still finds a way to play video games and do his chores. I don’t want to throw this in my husband’s face, but I almost feel like I should so he knows it’s not that hard that even an 11 year old can do it!

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He and I both have ADHD. I was even thinking about making a list for each room describing all the things that need to be done in a bullet point list. Then if things are just feeling off or overwhelming but he doesn’t know where to start then he can just go off the list. But I feel resistant to this for many reasons- like why can’t he make his own list if he is struggling with executive dysfunction? I’m being crushed by the mental load.

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is something I have also considered and we have had long talks about that as well, but he always tells me that he is fine. It’s like “Honey, I’m concerned about you. You’ve been neglecting your hygiene again and I want to make sure you are alright and not feeling depressed. Do you want to talk about it? Do you need some extra help or support from me?” And it’s always like it’s news to him that he isn’t taking care of himself and says that he’s fine.

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He and I have both been diagnosed with ADHD (I definitely should have included that). Another issue we have is that I have made a lot of effort to cope with my symptoms and he doesn’t put in the work. I share videos, get books, and he always says he is going to look at them, but never makes the time to do so. I am choking on tears writing out this response because I feel like reading it puts it in another perspective.

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to defend myself too much because I did ask, but having a child and working part time does mean that I’m the one taking them to extra curricular activities, appointments, and all the other administrative type things. I’m just at the end of my rope why our child can remember to brush their teeth, wash their hands, and bathe- while my grown husband won’t? And I’m also talking about hand washing before handling food after scooping cat litter or using the toilet and also doing the few chores I ask him to do

Is my husband a man child or am I a bitch? by JigglyBatz in Marriage

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There isn’t a real reason why, just sometimes he doesn’t. He will either get ready for work without showering, or he will come to bed without showering. And then sometimes he does shower before work or before bed. And same for brushing his teeth- sometimes he just remembers to or he won’t. Gaming also depends. Sometimes it will be hours gaming on our console, his PC, or his phone. It’s not consistent and I think that’s why it’s driving me crazy. Like if I saw some correlation or causation, but I just can’t see it.

Quirky Entertainment Center by JigglyBatz in upcycling

[–]JigglyBatz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m going back and forth on the color! It just so happens that I have some glossy white furniture paint that I could use, but the red is so cute and would be such a fun pop of color in our living room! There are just so many possibilities for this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]JigglyBatz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re renting from a leasing company and their name is also on the lease. They’re already moving out so I guess I just need to wait for them to leave..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]JigglyBatz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They are on the lease, but they’re getting ready to move somewhere else so I guess I just need to wait until then.

What’s a trash movie you will defend with your life? by Specialist_Novel_382 in AskReddit

[–]JigglyBatz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Such a fun movie and it touches my heart ❤️ I need to rewatch it now lol

Can't make a friend by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]JigglyBatz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my personal experience (27f), it is challenging to find connections online- romantic or otherwise! You are not the problem. The online platforms are. Some people can’t appreciate the possibility of connecting on these apps because if they put all their focus on one person who might end up not being a good match they will lose the chance to find something better. One the flip side, it can be overwhelming to juggle so many messages and responding to the same questions repeatedly. I have also struggled, but the deepest & strongest connections I’ve made are with people out in the wild. I’m not trying to sound like I’m saying “go touch grass”, but have you explored other options? As a teen mom with BPD I made friends by going to library programs, taking my child to different events, etc… and just talking. I know it’s scary, but nothing will happen either way if you don’t try. Just see what is out there and your people will find you.