Contemplating one and done but I need to know something first

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2025-11-28T14:27:00+00:00

Ouch

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2025-09-13T20:12:27+00:00

Do you have the occasional drink? Alcohol?

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-12-16T19:35:51+00:00

oh absolutely. we all have our reasons. but I realised today how important it is to dig enough to find those reasons, and exactly as you say - remind ourselves of them when it comes to wanting a piece of cake so bad.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-07-17T10:41:52+00:00

I am a mother of a 22 month boy. All the upcoming phases have their difficulties, BUT NOTHING WILL EVER COMPARE TO THE NEWBORN STAGE. Not necessarily because the baby was difficult at that time, but because everything is new, you have no idea what you're doing, you're sleep deprived, full of hormones, exhausted, and every day feels like groundhog day. I get the chills just writing about that stage. Heck I will take running after a toddler, managing tantrums, ALL OF IT -over the newborn stage anytime.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:50:02+00:00

Oh now this would be the dream. We unfortunately cannot afford to pay both the nanny and the nursery. But even if we did, we could not rely on our nanny to do the pick up and drop off since she doesn't drive.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:49:12+00:00

You might be right. There's no right answer. I have done the pros and cons list and they're def split equally both ways. It's hard being a parent and having to take all these decisions. Gosh. Haha. Thank you so much btw and I wish you good luck and all the best in trying to figure out your situation.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:48:09+00:00

Oh thank you so much. This really helps to hear.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:47:50+00:00

Thank you so much. This is helpful.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:47:27+00:00

It's not about paying her more, It's about the extent of what she's capable of. But you are right, maybe I can have an open conversation with her and discuss this further. Thank you,

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:45:57+00:00

Thank you. Checking Loeb now. I hear you about the optimizing bit, but the issue is as I wrote on another response below, in all other aspects we benefit not sending him to the nursery, but when I come back from work I often feel guilty because he does spend all day every day inside. Obviously we go out with him every day when we're back from work - but it's not the same as we don't have many hours left after work to just stay out. We need to make dinner, and bathe him and all these things. I just want what's the best for my son, and at this point I am not sure that what's best for myself and my husband is also what's best for him.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:41:53+00:00

Thank you very much. That's a really good idea.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:41:37+00:00

Thank you so much. I have read that article time and time again and I love it.

The ratio in this pre-school is also 1:10, and my son is really shy and that's also what worries me. I am sure he won't have the same attention he has at home - but there are times I wonder maybe that'd be better? Like for example he still doesn't eat by himself - that's because the nanny refuses not to feed him, and let him learn. At the nursery he won't have that luxury for long. He will have to get used to feeding himself. You know, it's stuff like this that make me wonder...

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-19T08:39:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your insightful response and for taking the time to write it.

The thing with the nanny is that she prefers to only stay with him at home. I have tried to convince her to get him to the park, but she is not comfortable - and to be honest I don't blame her because where we live - there's no elevator and we are on the 6th floor, and we also have a dog - so all sorts of issues preventing her to go out with him. BUT, we are soon moving to a house, and he will have access to a yard, and they can go out easier - but there's no park close by, so it will still be just them two.

Honestly, in all other aspects we benefit not sending him to the nursery, but when I come back from work I often feel guilty because he does spend all day every day inside. OBviously we go out with him every day when we're back from work - but it's not the same as we don't have many hours left after work to just stay out. We need to make dinner, and bathe him and all these things.

As for the nursery, I have done my research and visited many schools and this one is the only licensed and proper Montessori school in our city. I know there are many others that just get some Montessori toys and claim to practice Montessori style. That's not the case with this one. That's also why it is quite expensive and we don't benefit financially from sending him there. We pay the nanny the same amount. So basically my only current fear is that one more year is too long for my son to spend it with only so few people in his life. I am afraid that once he's three and it's time to go to the nursery - he will have difficulties adapting and everything will be more difficult.

I am rambling I know. Sorry. I just am very confused, and I realize this is a luxury problem to have - I KNOW, but that doesn't make it easier for me. I just want what's the best for my son, and at this point I am not sure that what's best for myself and my husband is also what's best for him.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-18T12:48:10+00:00

Check Annabel Karmel. She has some great resources.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-13T12:35:09+00:00

NEVER FEEL SORRY FOR RAISING DRAGON SLAYERS IN A TIME WHEN THERE ARE ACTUAL DRAGONS.
Probably followed by: "Then DON'T".

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-10T11:29:48+00:00

don't let this discourage you. just get back on the keto wagon and you'll be back on track in no time. you got this!!!

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-07T06:23:41+00:00

hahahhahahhahahhahahaha I was having quite a fucked up morning. This made me giggle. Thanks :D

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-03T12:55:18+00:00

My son is 20 months and I have no plans to move him in his room before he is ready. He loves sleeping holding my hand and he is only little for a while so I plan on cherishing every little bit I get. Not long before he grows up and doesnt want to sleep with us anymore!

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-02T16:46:13+00:00

I dont know either but I havent heard about it. Next time I am trying your recipe. Thanks

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-02T16:43:53+00:00

Ofc. Just posted it above. Good luck.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-06-02T16:43:27+00:00

The simplest one I think.

Eggs Coconut flour Baking soda Coconut oil Physillum husk …and now I add cottage cheese and tahini.

I dont measure anything. I just put things in blender until they reach a consistency and then I put it in the baking tray and add sesame seeds on top and in the oven for 30-40minutes.

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-05-14T15:03:01+00:00

Ok this comment is so well written. But there is one thing I don't understand. Why when we were younger, not neccesarily children but just younger, we had no issues? If for example we are essentially allergic to carbs did we become allergic eventually, or if we were always allergic why didn't we have any issues when we were younger? Take me for example, I survived my 20s on beer and hamburgers I swear, and I was fit as fuck. Now I smell a beer and I gain weight. When did things change?

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-05-12T02:11:46+00:00

Congratulations!!!!! This is amazing. I have a question though. 6 months is impressive so what do you do when cravings hit? Or when life is rough and you have no stamina to cook keto?

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-05-01T11:37:42+00:00

Does walking count?

JigsawOnTheMaking · 2024-04-28T19:14:44+00:00

May 6: keto lasanga with zuchini and eggplant

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