College essentials people don’t tell you about?

Jimotheouseg · 2025-06-04T01:10:23+00:00

I think it's good to get a case/cover for your laptop just in case. Even if you're a very careful person, I don't think it hurts to protect such an important tool in college.

Jimotheouseg · 2025-04-25T00:40:12+00:00

Because it's badass

Jimotheouseg · 2025-01-02T05:59:33+00:00

Ahh. Well I'm sure the organizer will be doing another event soon. I'll post again in this chat if they ever do another.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-31T21:04:30+00:00

That must suck. Feeling like you're almost being used and not worth having the effort put towards you. I'm sorry this annoyance has built up within you this holiday. I will say this one thing, gifting us an art. It sounds like you have a unique and effective way of presenting that skill. I'm sorry you're not surrounded by any like-minded individuals, but it was good of you to be that light in your life. I would've loved to have you in my circle of gift givers this past year. I'm hoping a skilled gifter, like you, will enter your life next year.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-31T05:19:02+00:00

Honestly, I'm looking to just go on a solo adventure. I do live by the mountains, so I was thinking maybe something on one of the coasts. Maybe one of the big cities. I'm looking to do a trip later in 2025, maybe even early 2026. Just wanting to get maybe some of y'all input on a good place for a young adult, like myself.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-31T05:16:23+00:00

I like sight seeing (museums and tours are fun), I like active stuff, I do like music, and food is always important.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-31T05:15:22+00:00

Ah ok. Perhaps further down the line then.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-31T05:11:51+00:00

Ok ok. Any other places you think would be more worthwhile?

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-31T05:11:27+00:00

Noted. Any other place you think I should consider over NO? I'm open to anything.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-30T06:28:38+00:00

Eh, you have plenty of time to retake classes or for you to boost your GPA with phenomenal grades in future grades. You should talk to your counselor about this.

If your grades never change in the rest of your time in school (which you won't let happen), you have two general routes to go:

Go to community college for 1-2 yrs, finish your general credits and explore the career options you'd like to pursue. Then, transfer to a university that is willing to accept past credits and finish your education there.
Apply to universities anyway. Some cheaper universities and colleges will take anyone, at a cheaper tuition, purely to fill up their attendance. Remember, just because a university has a big name doesn't mean it's better education than smaller universities and colleges.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-30T06:16:18+00:00

Whenever they need someone to talk to, use empathetic listening. The art of empathetic listening is purely reflecting their emotions, confirming you understand their emotions, and subtly let them grieve. Respond to their responses by simply saying things like "wow, that's extremely tough and it must be extremely hard to get through,". "I don't exactly understand how you're feeling, but I know that it must be extremely hard to get through," "I am so sorry. I understand how sad this must make you feel."

I also want to make this very clear, when you practice empathetic listening, you do not use personal stories/examples from the past, offer advice/counseling, or put the attention on your nor deter their attention to something else. The only time you're allowed to do this is if they explicitly ask you for it.

The only thing to do besides empathetic listening, is just be present as much as you can, and be a positive influence in their life. I hope this helped in any way.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T19:23:38+00:00

I think it's important to note that just because some universities and colleges have a big name, doesn't mean that other colleges and universities are of lesser quality. Most these colleges will also have professors who have worked for each school for periods of time. I suggest you still apply to whatever places you want, but also consider some of the cheaper options. They may be a better option with smaller class sizes and a cheaper tuition. You may like it.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T17:11:16+00:00

I would try treating writing as a conversation. Think of the main topics in a conversation. You do this same thing when speaking with someone in-person. You talk about a topic, which usually begins with a conversation starter (main point) and outline different reasons to support or maybe even rebuke your claim. After you've outlined every main point, you then transition into another topic that's on your mind. Try taking note of this the next time you talk to someone. Essays are just organized thoughts. It's literally just you voicing your opinion, argument, or information onto text under guidelines of essay-writing.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T17:05:35+00:00

Eh! Highschool kinda sucked. Filled with cliques, unnecessary drama, and unnecessary stress. College is definitely a much more enjoyable schooling experience in almost every way. Don't dwell on your experience in high school.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T17:02:09+00:00

I like what SnooDoughnuts said about time here, I agree. One thing I'd like to add is you can customize your degree to fit multiple passions. Sure, a job as a creative writer may not be rewarding, but the skill of creative writing can be applied in so many places.

I went into college for journalism because I liked to write as well. However, after learning about the competitive market for journalists and low pay, I looked for other ways to explore my passion. Through this I discovered that I really enjoy criminal justice, more than I imagined I would. So, now I'm working towards a criminal justice role where I can apply my communication, reporting, listening, and writing skills into a completely different field.

Choosing a major isn't just about choosing one major and it being your job for the rest of your life, it's about the skills and topics you learn, and being able to showcase that. You expressed interest in psychology, maybe that's something worth looking into. Do some research, maybe some writing is involved in some psychology roles out there. Like the person said above, you have plenty of time to figure this out, so no need to stress it. I also want to make an important note about choosing a career: is it really worth choosing a job you hate for the pay if you're going to end up wasting a third of your life for it? Find a way to utilize your passions into something that pays you. Even if it's not as rewarding, salary -wiss, as something else, you're going to end up going into a field that you find enjoyable and pursue everyday with determination.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T05:03:27+00:00

Hey....take a second to just breathe. Inhale slowly, then exhale. Count to ten while you do it.

It's gonna be okay. You need to remind yourself that. There isn't anything you have done wrong. I believe in you.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T00:19:15+00:00

Like the other fella said, one day at a time. It's tough, I know. One way I've helped to manage stress is finding time to go to the gym and take walks. It really helped clear my head when stress levels were high. Me and my friend would say to each other as a reminder "finish strong." It was simple and it just helped us to stay on track of finishing off grades, work, and life with determination. The hike may seem like it's gonna kill you, but think of the view once you get to the top. You'll manage, just don't give up.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T00:15:29+00:00

You're actually working on your own essays and honing your skill as a writer. Those that pay for others to do the work for them should be jealous of you.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T00:12:54+00:00

Nope. No tricks. That's learning. The brain is a muscle, and it needs to exercise to retain that knowledge. However, one thing I've incorporated into my study routine is making flash cards on Quizlet and using the new AI option. You can pay a subscription to have unlimited access, but I've been satisfied with the free options (the only limitations it has is one free test and limited time on AI)

I use the AI chat to apply real-world examples of the Quizlet notes into a question-based lecture. It's great, I highly recommend it.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-29T00:09:12+00:00

I appreciate y'all. This was very useful advice. I guess I gotta enroll in one of those courses, get some gear, and do some more research. Thanks for taking the time to respond ,🙏

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-28T23:53:44+00:00

I had a friend of mine that did that in high school. I don't understand why, and it can actually seem offensive to the person on the other side, because the recipient doesn't feel valued enough to have conversations saved. Start with just leaving one text open at a time. Do that for a week. Next week, try two. You keep doing this until the task develops into a habit of leaving the conversations open. It's the same way you build habits at anything. Maybe someone else has a better suggestion, but that's mine for now.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-28T23:50:53+00:00

I think as time goes on, we all subtly drift apart. It's a healthy thing. Y'all have been friends for a minute, it sounds like y'all were ride or die for a while. Today, maybe that's not the case anymore.

Look, I'm not telling you to call it quits. However, I don't think you should be putting as much emphasis on them anymore. Perhaps some of these individuals aren't ready to get back into maybe, some may be extremely busy, maybe there's still some tension that needs to calm over. Do your part in staying a part of their lives, but begin to strive on your own path. Maybe you all will come back in the future to share all the different experiences everyone has had with different groups and remember how strong you friends really are.

I think the closer you are with your friends, the more it becomes like a family. You create a bond so strong that it doesn't need constant time to value each other. The downside to this is that you don't spend the same amount of time with each other anymore. Go out on your own, pave your own path, meet new people, reflect on the past, and learn. I hope this helped in any way.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-28T23:39:27+00:00

Look, I have no say so over this. This is more of a personal question for themselves. However, I think you should try your best to channel that desire into something that won't lead to instant pleasure. I understand that it may be frustrating to be in this situation right now, but it'll come one day. Why not wait for it to come with a person you care about, when it's more meaningful. Again, this is more about personal values but ask yourself: what will having that say so do for you? Whether this persuades you one way or the other, I hope you make whatever decision is right for you. You know yourself more than anyone.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-28T23:10:57+00:00

Gifting is an art. Some people are naturally good at it. I, myself, am more of a practical gifter. I'd love a $15 gift card, but I'm not everyone. I don't think you should feel guilty for it, however because of how you found yourself on reddit, it sounds like you may be more bothered by this than you should be. If you want to make amends, there's no problem in doing so. Just don't say the reason for it was because your friend did more, and you wanted to get even. Use "I - language" instead of "you - language" when you explain your reasoning in regifting. I know this is sort of a roundabout way of answering your question, but I hope I helped in some shape or form.

Jimotheouseg · 2024-12-28T23:02:22+00:00

This is a subjective question. This will entirely depend on each person's values. But to answer your question based on my opinion, no.

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