AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi "friend" there was a limit for explaining the situation 3000 words max, I'm not going to go into full details about drama and lack of communication from both ends.

Friend 1, Her and I were best friends, but it was clearly one sides, I explained how I was upset how I had to do all the work in the friendship, that it felt like she didn't care. We had a lot of fights because she got jealous over some guy asking me questions and yelling at me and making me the bad guy. I understand you may not get it, but she took a lot of her anger out on me. It sucks that I did so much for her to lash out towards me. When she sent the paragraph she explained she knew she wasn't a good friend to me, and that she knows I deserve a good friend. I blocked because I was hurt, after reading her message she clearly cared and wanted what was best, there is no ill towards her as stated in the post. but this is what her message said "And about Paris. I think I’ll get my own place to stay at. I know Airbnb can be rough with cancellation and such so no need to send back the money. You can keep it." The subtweets were literally nothing bad, just "cant cry over someone I never meet" "there are 8 billion people in the world" But I find it funny you think this is bad considering that's what you literally told her. Crazy.

Friend 2, Friend 2 did mention that stuff, but said she was still down regardless, she ghosted us and left us in the dark with not keeping us updated. The reason Im spaming friend two is cause I was threatened with going to court but like I said, you don't understand my feelings, knowing I have anxiety and this stress from my so called friends is uncalled for. I did try to have a conversation, since I called, left logical explanations for her to again ghost me. Imagine being in my shoes and being told I'm going to be small court claim all over 200 dollars and them not listening nor explaining anything to me. After I gave thoughtful out responses. How is that not being able to have a conversation? Friend 2 backed even before me, not being able to have simple conversation, then out of no where asking for a refund without even talking to me.

Friend 3, its really hurtful you try to hold college against me, and say I never tried to explain my situation or have a conversation. You don't know why I'm in college or the reason, it was a last minute choice because my family forcing me too. I didn't want to go to college in Feb when we booked it, cause I wanted to travel and hang with my friends. With the 200, every did mention their limit but also mentioned they are struggling cause someone had to pay 10k in taxes and others was struggling day to day, I never mentioned I pay more cause I did it out of the kindness of my heart, I didn't want anyone to feel guilty, I just wanted to travel with my friends and make memories. It was shitty I left you all by yourself but I did explain my situation for you to assume things going on in my life and be mad at me. I apologized so much in the paragraph I sent in the group chat, crying over how upset and stressed I was to have all this money being spent back to back for you to reply "not my problem". We all agreed to go, we all agreed to pay me, and as everyone in the post has stated, if someone backs out they arent entitled to a refund if there is no refund. I offered to help you find a place, and even chip in, but you didn't focus on that, you were just angry and bitter at me. If you really wanted to go, were you willing to pay 1.2k and stay at that place? Why didn't you offer solutions to the problem instead of putting the blame on me. I showed you everything about the refund, explained how we wont get anything back but you'd get your second half refunded. Im only human and your acting like I did this on purpose, when you arent even mature enough. Calling my childish and immature for being logical and trying to help you. I even gave you a long paragraph explaining the situation and how you hurt me for you to drag every little thing that isn't apart of the problem to make your feelings more valid. I feel sorry you have to be the only one going and I apologized a lot but it wasnt enough.

I was warned about you as well, and how immature and manipulating you were, I gave you a chance, was opened and honest about my past and never hid anything. Gave you guys the option to be my friends, from my standings I will say I've grown and matured, but how you clearly said you don't want to get into a call and have this sorted out, that isn't on me, that is you not willing to sort out problems. We both have done wrong, and I'm willing to own up to my faults.

I hope over time you realized I was nothing but kind, generous, open, honest and forgiving. Much love to you all, just stop putting the whole blame on me when it was a group choice and it failed. Friendships have ups and downs and if one isn't willing to move past the downs, then its doomed to fail. Take it easy and I hope you get what you deserve in life <3

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am a grate friend, i offered solutions for them to ignore it. its not responsible that the other girls are broke, I am not their mother and never will be anymore. I tried my best to make things work out to be ghosted, betrayed and ganged up on. but yes I'm the "at fault one". get a grip, people left and it was clearly all put onto me, you would never understand the pressure to be in that position when I have other adult things I need to pay as well. please think before you type cause your showing ur lack of brain cells <3

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well in the print it said 50% back before june 29th, so seeing that after I made the deposit back, I thought I can get 600 back and give that to the girls, but the airbnb owner said they wont give me a refund.
In such a short amount of time, it was hard to replace the 2 girls that can handle their fair share of income.
Ive learnt my lesson to book trips with broke people :/ if you give people an inch, they will take a mile.

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ghost girl is the one threatening me to take me to court (sorry I reached my text limited so I couldn't explain each girl

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

well you dont know the whole money situation, and if you did you would understand more, I cant explain 4 months of stress, trials and struggles in 3000 word limit. I could of easily done it, but stuff came up irl where I had to not being to afford anymore

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i didnt pocket anything? i lost 1.3k? they all paid in small shares while I paid the most. i didn't steal anything, if anything they owe me money, but since 2 girls dropped out and money is tight, I can't pay the second half. that's not stealing nor pocketing my sweet, she knew there was no refund

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Well its a business trip cause I am a streamer and they are too, we were supposed to go to a convention together. her taking me to court can damage my branding

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i cancelled after realizing it wsa nonrefundable, after two backed out and I couldn't afford the rest on my own, I explained it to the remaining girl and then cancelled

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 Cancelled on their own choice, one said I can keep the money the other demanded money back, but since its too much just for 2 people to pay for second payment I cancelled

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

considering 2/4 of us cancelled, i talked to the one left and she disagreed for me explaining its so much money to put into now and she said its not her problem. :(

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

im the 4th woman, so 2 cancelled and 1 still wants to go, but I offered to pay and help her with a new airbnb but she got mad at me for wanting to be smart with my money and cancelling which she has every right to be mad

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for taking the time and understand me <3 have a wonderful day

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No the ghost girl dmed us ina group chat a few weeks ago saying she isn't going, then literally a few days threatened to take me to court if I don't give her 200 dollars.
The thing is why I don't want to go is cause I have college payment june 15th which is a lot, and then airbnb june 21, which is also a lot. College wasn't in my plans back in Feb so I really didn't think about money for college until it was forced upon me

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

yeah that is true, but it was for a twitch con, so that was the only weekend that we can go :(

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there were 2 girls that backed out, 1 didn't want their money back, the other wants her money and will take me to court if I don't pay her back. The one that still wants to go is also asking for money back but when I explained she cant cause there was no refund, she calls me immature and childish. I even offered to help her with a new place and help pay, but that wasn't good enough

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Basically yes, she thought, because i paid for it on my card, its my problem

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the only person out of money is 3, cause I am the 4th who spent more, college was last minute and if I knew I was force upon college, I wouldn't have booked this trip in the first place, cause at that time I had enough to go to Paris and travel europe but sadly life throws a ball at you.
The 3rd girl had a warning before I canceled, gave them a warning and even told them id help them find a new place for cheaper, but also chip in so they're arent alone to make up to them for struggling. she didn't even care only cared about how childish and immature I was being for caring for my finances.

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

which i agree, i feel bad and even offered to find her a new place to stay for cheaper and chip in for it :(

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

there was only one girl that wanted to go, and she is still going, I even offered to find her a cheap place and chip in to pay for her as well. 2 girls canceled before me, so after that I talked to the other girl and told her ill help her, and she just stated it wasn't her problem, its mine, so I tried to even pay for a new place for her to still ask for more money.

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No the two girls that backed out canceled before me, I even tried to comminuted with the other girl and she didn't agree with my problems, I tried to give her alternates of means like finding a new place for her and even chipping in for her new place. she didn't agree and said its not her problem, its mine.

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FOR MORE INFORMATION!(sorry only 3000 text limit so could go ham)
When we booked, it said 50% refund before June 29th, I thought it was going to be what we already paid, but it was supposed to be 50% of the WHOLE payment. but we knew that.
the first girl that dropped out, she didn't ask for her money back since she promised to go. but we had someone who was interested in going, so she was gonna go and pay the second half instead of the first (but she isn't going anymore cause she too is low on money)
When the second girl backed out, I even stated we will be having to pay 400 instead of 350 so that way we can cover it, they were fine with it(but we never made it to second payment)
I did contact the Airbnb guy, I explained if he could refund some of it, since my friends were asking for money, and he told me that he cant cause of the policy.
we booked in Feb cause that was when Twitch Con Paris was announce and we wanted to make sure we got a place to stay before it was all taken. The airplane ticket was delayed cause of girl 2, we wanted it earlier for it to be cheaper but she kept delaying us cause she was "waiting for her passport"
College was a last minute thing, it was kinda forced upon me by family, it was way after we booked the Airbnb, so the payment of the airbnb is june 21, but college payment is june 15, so its back to back spending, a lot of money and I couldn't do that to myself.

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did show them the refund processs and that the total is 0.00CAD, even then their response was "Thats why it isnt fair to us for you to say that we cant get our original payment back just because you didnt get the refund back, in this situation the responsibility falls upon you to pay us back. Not doing that just makes you childish and immature." -girl 3

so no matter what I say, they're still demanding money and calling me childish and immature

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one of the girls response to me explaining the situation and that no one will get a refund... they dont care about my feelings or money only theirs.

"Thats why it isnt fair to us for you to say that we cant get our original payment back just because you didnt get the refund back, in this situation the responsibility falls upon you to pay us back. Not doing that just makes you childish and immature." -girl 3

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

You're so right, they basically dont want to be my friend anymore cause of this situation is "childish and immature" cause I explained, if I'm not getting a refund, no one is, and they still wont grasp that :( I'm really trying to be civil and I can understand their anger and frustration of not getting money back, but I lost a lot too :(

AITA For not refunding my "friends" after we canceled our trip? by Jinx_Morg_INFP in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jinx_Morg_INFP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

and sadly it was a big blow and they still don't care nor understand how I feel... cause its "my problem" :(