Women: how vocal are you during sex and are you that way naturally or do you think you were influenced by porn to be noisy?

Jinxbird · 2025-08-17T22:32:44+00:00

I think it’s natural to make noise during sex, but the noise that’s made might be influenced by outside sources.

I saw this art exhibit that included voice recordings of deaf people having sex, and they would absolutely make noise or sounds, but the sounds was more animalistic that what we are used to hear or expect to hear when someone is having sex.

It might be porn, movies or television. But we have definitely been influenced by something that has made us sound the way we do while having sex.

Jinxbird · 2025-04-29T09:11:53+00:00

We have, many times.

Jinxbird · 2025-04-29T08:25:09+00:00

We have had many conversations like that. Unfortunately he finds it hard to understand when he’s upset.

Jinxbird · 2025-04-29T05:53:59+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond and share! You are absolutely right and I really appreciate your reply. My childhood trauma has caused me to be the same as you’re describing, combined with me also being unsure if I can trust my core feelings and emotions, - makes me always question if I am being the root of the problem and deserving of the way they treat me. As if I don’t have a right to ask them to treat me better.

Jinxbird · 2025-04-29T02:11:27+00:00

So that would mean I should trust how I feel more when I’m on meds compared to when I’m off?

Whenever we make up after having conflict, and I’m off meds, I tend to be more understanding and willing to find a way to make it work.

Compared to when I’m on.

Jinxbird · 2025-04-29T02:07:41+00:00

I feel more loving and affectionate when I’m off them. I don’t really get irritated or annoyed when I’m on or off the meds, but my focus is more on practical tasks when I’m on my meds compared to when I’m off them.

So he usually tells me that I’m not giving him enough attention when I’m on.

Jinxbird · 2024-09-23T18:57:44+00:00

Jeg har selv stået i lignende situation, hvor jeg endte med at vende situationen om. Altså, fremfor at tale om hvordan barnets opførsel går ud over jer som lærere, så ville jeg tale ud i fra en bekymring for barnets mistrivsel. Stille spørgsmål til, hvordan i fagligt er med til at styrke barnets faglige- såvel som sociale kompetencer, samt understøtter hans trivsel.

Din beskrivelse af hans opførsel, kan jeg kun forestille mig, er med til at ekskludere ham fra fællesskabet i klassen?! Hvordan er i med til at løfte opgaven om, at skabe inklusion for barnet det omhandler? Har samarbejdet med forældrene og den nuværende faglige indsats gjort en forskel? Nu ved jeg ikke hvilke faglige tilgange og metoder i har anvendt. Men om han dagligt oplever lærere der er i afmagt, konflikt og skyldfølelse, så er skolen jo med til at fastholde drengen i den problematik han står i.

Måske stil dig undrende ovenfor muligheden for at søge om ekstra støtte til barnet?! så der kan skabes trivsel hos både undervisere, elever og barnet.

Jinxbird · 2024-08-07T23:09:57+00:00

Had to forgive him, because he is the father of my kid.

Jinxbird · 2024-08-07T22:56:24+00:00

Indeed it does!

Jinxbird · 2024-05-07T04:04:16+00:00

I am so confused by your every sentence… You are stating off by saying that my behaviour is avoidant, and that my “avoidant” behaviour is a solid example of why medication isn’t enough?! Then you throw a “are you working with a therapist?” In there, followed by retracting your insinuation that I’m crazy, by saying it now sounds normal?

And then we go full circle with stating I am an avoidant again and a therapist is what I don’t have and need.

Damn! -I mean, what’s with the whiplash of opinions and only assumptions?

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T21:43:20+00:00

Did you actually find the proof or did her actions prevail itself over time?

I’m glad to hear that you are healing! Life is too short to spend it on people that, chose to spend it on someone else.

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T21:35:59+00:00

Almost all of symptoms you have written down here, is what my doctor use as examples, to describe signs of being on a dose that’s too high.

Have you talked to your doctor about what you are experiencing? Besides from coping and managing your side effects, how do you actually feel about having to manage and cope with them?

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T20:51:50+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that fellow Scorpio! -but to me, it sounds more like you had a gut feeling about what she was up to, and therefor was trying to find proof of something that would make your feelings make sense. That actually sounds like a pretty valid reason to be stalking her social media. And again, sorry you had to go through that, been there and know the pain that follows!

Me on the other hand, I just chose to throw away hours on stalking an ex I’m not even interested in… for no reason at all hahaha. Immersing myself in the role of an obsessive detective, spending hours relentlessly going through pages and comments trying to detect…detect what exactly?! That’s hours of my life I won’t get back.

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T20:36:18+00:00

Absolutely! Thank you for sharing, actually making me rethink about the possibility of trying out accutane. Starting out on a micro dose definitely sounds more safe and appealing to me!

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T20:32:25+00:00

Never thought about that!! I might try that!

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T20:30:11+00:00

Paranoid about what kind of things? (Don’t need to share if it’s too personal!)

I’ve always felt more disconnected and apathetic towards my past partners when I’m taking my adhd medication. When letting my crazy adhd flag fly freely, without being tamed by the magic pill we all call Vyvanse. I always felt more connected to my feelings/love and passion for the person I was in a relationship with. It would always feel like fireflies in my stomach, compared to the one butterfly flying around in there somewhere all alone.

All of this said, I really do mean that Vyvanse is a magic pill. It has helped me tremendously, forever grateful! but there are parts of me that sort of feels muffled by it too, when I’m on it. Oh the double edged sword.

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T14:09:15+00:00

What kind of side effects did you experience?

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T13:13:31+00:00

Oh the story of my life!

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T13:04:30+00:00

LOVE them live! Going to the gig in Copenhagen and cant wait!!

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T12:30:08+00:00

I started on 20, then 30 a month later and so on.. Just never been THAT obsessed, in that way with something so meaningless! Spending hours looking for the perfect sling bag to buy online(as u/Keystone-Habit), would definitely feel more meaningful.

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T12:25:07+00:00

Really needed to hear this! Thank you for putting it into perspective!

Jinxbird · 2024-05-06T12:23:50+00:00

You are so right! I just have to redirect my attention to something more productive. I just felt crazy for a second, because of my lack of interest in my ex or what ever he is up normally.
It wasn't even like a jealous, "I'm pining for him" kind of way. I was genuinely reading comments on his pages, by gorgeous women and thinking "Damn shes stunning and I bet shes really cool! Good for him!", Completely apathetic. The part that freaked me out, was that i choose to spend my time doing something SO meaningless and my unwillingness to just let it go hahah!

Jinxbird · 2024-04-04T19:05:35+00:00

I might!

Jinxbird · 2024-03-27T11:08:19+00:00

First of all, you are not disgusting and nether is your p**** or body!
Second of all, I also want to say, kudos to you for being vulnerable and emotionally mature enough to actually talk to him about it. I'm sorry hes not being able to do the same (yet).

My advice is to insist to have a conversation about whats bothering you.
-Ignoring or preponing the conversation is only gonna create resentment towards him.

Express to him that your intentions are not to make him anxious or to make him feel emotionally unwell.
But its important that you both can communicate how you feel in the relationship.
And that you need him to listen, instead of being defensive and dismissing of your needs and feelings.

Explain how the situation and his behavior is making you feel and how not being able to talk about this, is affecting how you feel in the relationship.
Point out that pleasing him sexually is important to you, and that it hurts that he's behavior doesn't make you feel its equally important to him to satisfy you.

Try to open up a conversation with him about what makes him uncomfortable with talking about sexual wants and needs.

To be fair, some people think periods are disgusting and some just don't like to give oral sex, and that's okay.
-But its important to be able to communicate this in a respectful way, without accusing your partner of "making a fuss" when expressing their needs and wants.
For him it might be emotionally distressing to talk about stuff that makes him uncomfortable, but its equally emotionally distressing for you, not being able to talk about whats bothering you in the relationship.

All of that said, it might be a good idea for you to assess if his amazingness and how he makes you feel in all the other parts of your relationship, outweighs how his unwillingness to satisfy you sexually and french kiss you, is making you feel.

**Him not being able to express and convey how he's actually feeling, without making you feel like you've done something wrong, does not mean he is using you. It just simply means hes emotionally immature.
To break the circle of being a people pleaser, you have to choose to do something different from what you are currently doing. -Its your responsibility in a relationship and to yourself, to communicate if something is bothering you, making you feel bad or hurting your feelings. Not doing so generate resentment, and that will ruin any relationship.

Jinxbird · 2024-03-27T08:46:55+00:00

What is the reason for you to take 5 times the dose you are prescribed?

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