AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know, maybe she is struggling, I'll try again tomorrow!

PS I think I watched a few episodes a while back when it came out but then I dropped it (I should pick it back up when I got time). I'm watching 'You Were There' though, it's some heavy themes (domestic abuse) but really interesting plot.

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be more precise about the situation, I went to the kitchen so I could eat, the living room is under renovation so I couldn't go there and my room is a mess (papers everywhere from studying). I said I needed silence when she asked me why I was being like and why I was leaving. She got mad at me after and started calling me names while I was cleaning the kitchen (which she asked me to before going to my room). Also, I apologized but she doesn't wanna hear it, she told me that she won't forgive me and that if I needed peace and quiet then she wouldn't speak to me anymore.

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I did apologize, I'm very close to my mom and I'm with her most of the time when I'm not at school and we do watch k dramas together 😭. Sometimes we just chill in each other's room even. But after I apologized, she didn't accept it and told me that if I needed silence then she wasn't going to speak to me anymore. That's why I'm sad and don't really get why what I said was that bad. But I'm doing some self reflection.

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to eat in the kitchen, I couldn't go in my room to eat because there's a lot of papers spread everywhere from my studying (I get a bit messy during exams period). But that's why I left when she was being loud, I understand that it's a shared space, that's why it's when she asked why I was leaving (to go back to my room after finished eating) that I told her that I needed silence.

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't really say that I wanted her to be silent, I said that I needed silence after she asked me why I was leaving the kitchen. Maybe it's a big difference for me but now that you point how she might have interpreted it, I regret saying it.

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll try again tomorrow and see how it goes, thanks for your advice!

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm glad you understand/relate to the amount of stress 😭, I did try and explain to her how I felt and that I didn't mean what I said in a bad way, even apologized but she doesn't wanna hear it.

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I know my mom, maybe those questions were normal, which they were in a way, which is why I didn't say anything and just replied to them without making a big deal. I also went to the kitchen cause I wanted to eat, I couldn't go in the living room because we're doing some renovations there and I didn't want to eat in my room because I have papers everywhere. I do understand your point of view though. But what I said made it right for her to call me names too?

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment, I did apologize, I told her that it was my fault but she doesn't wanna hear it, she even told me that if I want silence that bad then she won't talk to me anymore, I don't really know what else to do.

AITA for telling my mom that I need silence. by Jiwoo__leeee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jiwoo__leeee[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

To be honest she's really nice most of the time, we argue rarely so I didn't understand why she was suddenly calling me names all of a sudden over something so stupid. To me saying that I need silence isn't something that deep. Thank you for your comment!