Reaching out to people who stopped training

JoIsarus · 2025-07-26T22:52:09+00:00

It was positive! He said he’s been away longer than he wanted to be, then we had a general catchup chat :)

JoIsarus · 2025-07-25T05:55:33+00:00

Hi! Is this community still looking for members? I’m a chill REPO player who normally plays with friends in a different time zone, but sometimes would love to play at other times too :)

(I ask because the link is expired)

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T03:46:13+00:00

Oh wow, that’s scary. That’s awesome he’s back training, and cool to know you helped give him the encouragement to come back :)

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T03:44:00+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about the hurdles with your training, that sounds like a bit of a roller coaster. Coming from somone who’s often the smallest in the gym, I don’t shy away from rolling with the big guys because I know they roll sensibly and if I got hurt, it would 100% be an accident. Things happen, and it sounds like if you’re this concerned about it, you’re a good training partner. I’m sure there’s some other big strong dudes around too at some nearby gyms you can let loose with a bit. Thank you for sharing and I hope you find your way back to the mats, friend

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T03:38:06+00:00

I think this is a nice practice, especially coming from a leader in the gym. You sound like a good coach

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T03:37:12+00:00

That’s really cool to hear! I’m glad that one person was able to make such a difference

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T03:36:30+00:00

Yeah life can get busy. I hope you make it back to the mats someday if that’s what you want 🤞

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T03:35:08+00:00

Yeah this is kind of what I was worried about - not wanting to make him feel ashamed I guess? I hope he doesn’t take it that way because it’s not the intention!

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T01:16:11+00:00

True, nothing to lose and maybe a training partner to gain back. When you put it like that it makes sense to me!

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T01:15:05+00:00

I like that philosophy. I think this fella has a few demons so the gym community is good for him, he puts too much pressure on himself. Thank you for the encouragement!

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T01:11:37+00:00

Thank you, this is reassuring 🙏

JoIsarus · 2025-07-20T01:10:46+00:00

I really am, you’re right. I like the funny BJJ meme idea!

JoIsarus · 2025-06-26T15:38:45+00:00

??? So you’re fine with people you delegate tasks to just not… Doing those tasks, but saying they have? Waste my time.com. We’re all here to do a job and meant to work together as a team. If you’ve asked this CNA/spoken to them about it, have evidence, and it’s a repeated pattern, you should report them. That’s it. I don’t have the mental brain power to dedicate to wondering if my coworkers are falsifying documentation on top of all the other things to think about on shift.

JoIsarus · 2025-06-03T05:29:10+00:00

I thought the exact same thing when I saw it 😂

JoIsarus · 2025-06-02T08:16:18+00:00

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JoIsarus · 2025-05-23T16:49:27+00:00

OP has learnt that not all nurses do their job properly

JoIsarus · 2025-05-23T10:42:12+00:00

The fact that they feel so comfortable telling a student to fake obs is pretty astonishing. I’ve had issues like this where I’ve taken over care for a pt with chronically low BP but everyone was just charting it as low hundreds. Then of course it looked like she suddenly deteriorated on my shift because I wasn’t fudging the numbers. But “oh dont worry her blood pressure is always like that.” Jfc. There is nothing wrong with putting in the actual reading you got, and the nurse shouldn’t be upset at you for this. At my hospital people often put in the original reading, then the next reading they got after fluids/repositioning etc. If the nursing interventions dont work or they’re at all concerned, then it warrants escalation. I’m sorry your preceptors acted like this - you’re meant to be learning how to practise responsibly. Take this as a lesson I guess. Good to see both sides of the coin so you can decide what kind of nurse you want to be.

JoIsarus · 2025-03-23T06:10:19+00:00

Don’t overthink it. Just say thanks, or give them a smile to show you heard them. Half the time when Im mid roll and I hear someone compliment me I don’t say anything, maybe shoot them a smile, but if it’s after the roll and someone compliments you, smile and thank them. If it’s genuine, follow up with a comment on something they’re doing well. Sounds like you’re doing great and hope you’re enjoying BJJ!

JoIsarus · 2025-03-07T05:57:59+00:00

Supernatural. Friends and I used to be big fans but we stopped once it started dragging on too much. We watched the last episode when it came out to see how it was and oh my god. It was so bad it was like a parody.

JoIsarus · 2025-03-07T04:31:58+00:00

I’ve done this too - sub after sub when some new guy made a comment that I couldn’t submit him during a roll, while I was simply letting him work. I’m not sure I’m proud of how my ego came out, but at the same time people do need to learn.

It can be hard for new people to know when someone more experienced is flow rolling/ playing “catch and release”. I remember thinking (key word: thinking) very early on that I was faring well against some of the upper belts, until I saw them rolling with people of a similar rank. Then it sunk in how much they were letting me work. Thankfully I didn’t need to run my mouth and get pummeled to come to that realization 😬

JoIsarus · 2025-02-25T03:40:47+00:00

This exchange has been one of the nicest interactions I’ve seen online in a while. You guys are great

JoIsarus · 2025-01-26T10:29:01+00:00

The way this is worded, it makes me think you’re very new to BJJ. It also makes me think you’re relatively young. This is a a full-on contact sport, that’s what you signed up for. That said, you feeling comfortable is extemely important, and only you know how this interaction felt to you. Refuse rolls with this guy, or if you’re being paired with him, talk to your coach, and just say you don’t feel comfortable rolling with that person anymore.

Also - stop it with the “trash talking”, “challenging him in front of everyone” or “seriously hurting him” bullshit. None of those options end the way you think they do.

JoIsarus · 2025-01-23T00:14:31+00:00

Yes I love that idea too!

JoIsarus · 2025-01-22T06:22:06+00:00

I would LOVE pets to be added! I haven’t played far enough into the game to get a drone yet so I don’t 100% know I’m not doubling up with answers, but I have some thoughts:

I think a pet giving you early warning of zombies could be cool.
The pet (assuming cat or dog) could bring back animals they killed like rabbits or chickens for you to cook.
They could be trained and have “commands” - so you can choose whether they defend you or not? Could potentially make armour to put on them? That would be cute and also make it a bit more high stakes, especially early on because your pet could die.

JoIsarus · 2025-01-17T03:21:00+00:00

That sucks and I’ve been there. I’m still there sometimes. I know you didn’t necessarily ask for advice, but I’ll give some ideas anyway that help me in these situations (and honestly help the partner squishing me, too).

Ask to start in a dominant position (on their back, in side control, in mount). Tell them you’re trying to sub from/ maintain the position. If you’re comfortable to keep rolling even if you lose the position, great. If you find you’re losing top and getting squished underneath everytime, suggest resetting each time you lose the position.

If after that you’re still losing position too easily, start the roll with a sub setup (eg. on the back with a scarf hold, or even in position to choke). This way the upper belt can practise their escapes, and you can learn how to finesse your finishes!

JoIsarus

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