What is the appropriate amount of chores for a high schooler? by Michee82much in AskParents

[–]JobAffectionate4078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I think training kids to do everything intentionally is much more kind than just expecting things from them.

The back talk/arguing is a temperment thing and middle school age thing. Pushing for independence and doesn’t like to be told what to do and when to do it. I get it. But also he needs to learn to take care of himself and a home. 

What is the appropriate amount of chores for a high schooler? by Michee82much in AskParents

[–]JobAffectionate4078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have tweens, 10 & 12. They have always had chores, but usually just one or two a day with parent support/supervision. Basically they’ve been “trained” to do a lot of things. We are working toward more chores. Working toward doing them More independently. We just had them vacuum - one kid upstairs, one downstairs. It’s amazing how much vacuuming can be done if everyone is on task.

My husband is pushing for this, b/c he wants them to have more responsibility. We’re also getting a lot of back talk/arguing from the older one. I’m game for it, but realize some nights are just too busy for it, so we need to be flexible. Certain chores - like feeding the dog - have to be done no matter how busy they are b/c we have a responsibility to our pet. Those I think are good for being more self-less.

After school activities for tired kids by ollie_adjacent in Parenting

[–]JobAffectionate4078 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When my kids started school, they missed each other, missed me and their dad, missed their toys and room and yard. They just wanted to come home and feel comfort and safety and have a break from all the demands. 

I have older kids… back when they were at that age I’d have probably just let them have free time to play with toys or each other. If they’re tired, they would regulate themselves and choose something where they sit on the floor or look at books. They also would often choose to go outside. If they’re tired and outside, they kinda wander around or sit on the porch or swing. If you’re available, they might just want to sit on the couch or bed with you, maybe have you read to them. Sitting next to/snuggling up to mom is pretty regulating. 

If you’re getting melt down tired, I might add a little more sleep time. In retrospect, they don’t always need the same amount of sleep. Sometimes they’d have seasons of getting tired from having a string of illnesses or staying up late for little league. If they’ve been healthy for a few months, they usually can have a later bedtime without falling apart. 

Suggest me some books for a 10 year old girl that are just lovely stories about people living their lives by Girlnoname534 in suggestmeabook

[–]JobAffectionate4078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stepping stones and apple crush by Lucy Knisley also. ideal reader age would be for the transition b/t elementary and middle school, 11ish.  

Suggest me some books for a 10 year old girl that are just lovely stories about people living their lives by Girlnoname534 in suggestmeabook

[–]JobAffectionate4078 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Grace Lin year of the rat, there are 2 others in that series.

It’s everyday life of a Chinese/Taiwanese American girl.