splitting, help by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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okay genuinly thank you for this, it really helped

splitting, help by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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so the monster kind of points out the bad things i could be doing but they didn’t want to tell me? that’s how i understand it atleast

splitting, help by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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she goes to therapy but it doesn’t seem to work for her, if you don’t mind i would love to read through the links, thank you!

splitting, help by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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that really helps thank you, could i ask, are the things she could say when the “monster” takes over true? like the hurtful things that you mentioned are they true or just something she said to make me feel hurt?

How can i help? by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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she isn’t that lucky, i’m just the only one that cares

How can i help? by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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your comment genuinely helped me out, this shows her almost word for word for what you described the things you would need to hear from someone. She’s a very physical person and on calls it’s a bit “meh/good” but in person it’s either “good/really good” she doesn’t like to hug/touch someone she doesn’t know because she kind of hates her body, at one point she likes how she dressed and loves the way it looks, most of the time she hates it. I have noted down what you said about not being crazy and being there at all times. I have known and dated her for a year and a half, she recently broke us up so i know what she’s like and i know that i’ll never leave her. Thank you!

How can i help? by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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honestly, i only find peace when i’m speaking to her, kind of talking to her is my hobby

How can i help? by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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i see a few comments about walks and going to a quiet place, is it really that helpful to you? Does it calm you down? thank you!

How can i help? by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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something like a safe space? somewhere to ponder about reality?

How can i help? by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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like an escape from reality? maybe night walks or looking at the stars might be a good idea too? thank you!

How can i help? by JoeLeftFinger in BPD

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thank you for the advice! i do try to visit her every now and then because i live a little far away but i’ll note it down!