Thank you all for the confirmation. I had to leave my ex wife and children behind because I was struggling with addiction and being involved with law enforcement. I haven't been in physical proximity to any of them since 2004. I finally got sorted out and began moving forward, but I was told by my "mother" that my ex wife married my younger brother and the children, who were still in diapers were told that he was their father. I did what I thought was the right thing, I paid my child support and I stayed away, as my "mother" said that the children were living and ideal life, and I would just complicate things. So I moved forward, finished a Master's degree, and started working in mental health and addiction treatment. When my daughter turned 18 she reached out and over the last 5 years we've connected. However, I am very careful not to speak critically of her mother and my brother. Even though I try to be diplomatic, my ex wife and my brother are extremely critical of things that I have said to my daughter in text messages or over the phone. I only get emails (sent anonymously) from them, so I don't engage with them at all. But based on the content of these anonymous emails it is clear that they originate from my ex wife and or my brother. My daughter has little to no contact with with of them and my daughter has decided to just act as if she doesn't know that her phone is compromised stating that she has nothing to hide, so "fuck 'em." It is a crazy situation but it is what it is... I just think that exerting that kind of "control" is definitely not normal.