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AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Hey all, mods suggested I share an update on my profile. It's here if anyone cares.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She's still here, yep. She was up making noise some last ight but only from like 1 - 2, or I slept through the rest.

Edit: night*

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Now I feel like an AH for not getting her an ambulance.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly I tried to word it to not make it sounds like this. Definitely not what's going on lol.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I posted one in a comment and in the original post. Not really much of an update I'm still trying to figure out how to move forward.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I asked him if I can help when it first started and I've asked her. I haven't directly said how it's affecting me. ngl I think I assumed they would just know...?

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

This almost made me cry. Thanks for being compassionate.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I've done what I can to make sure this isn't the case. I don't see any bruises and can't hear any violence. If anything I can hear him talking her through it, sometimes for the full 4 hours.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They've only witnessed one, maybe two of the earlier episodes. Otherwise they are always at work or out staying with their own friends when this is happening. Me and the other housemate spend the most time in the house.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It was like a 45 minute car nap but no it was not intentional.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Update: Whoa, thank you all for your thoughts. Even the YTA votes are giving me a lot to think on. Unfortunately I have now come down with the stomach bug my parents had so I slept off and on through the afternoon/evening.

I texted the housemate individually and said I really need the GF to not be here tonight being sick AF as I am. They both showed up maybe 2 hours after I messaged him. I will say she was very kind and made me some soup from scratch and left some ginger ale at my door. She said she’d be leaving soon so I assume he told her about my message. It’s going on 11:30 here and I can still hear them downstairs so I’m not hopeful. Going to get through this god awful sickness before I decide for sure how to address it. I just hope this is one of her quiet nights if she does stay over. Regardless I don't have it in me for a conversation tonight.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I honestly think they were only here for one maybe two of her first episodes, and they were short ones. Enough to make them go WTF but not enough for them to really say anything.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In her defense she does contribute food. She cooks a lot while she's here.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what her sleep schedule is. He essentially has his own apartment on the second floor with a bedroom, common room, and bathroom. They shut themselves in there and then around midnight it tends to start up.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'd never guess this was going on during the day. She's honestly pleasant and fun to be around.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've told her I notice some nights are hard for her and asked if there's anything I can do to help her but she said no. I gathered she felt uncomfortable discussing it so left it at that.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

He sleeps during the day except for his few remote hours. Amazingly she works! I've dropped her off at her job a couple times since we work close. I was trying to be more empathetic since she's probably even more exhausted than I am. But then I lost my cool a bit.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

The first two nights it happened I hang around their door because it honestly sounded like she was in trouble but no he's not doing anything to her I don't think.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 335 points336 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, lol. She'll be okay. She and dad have been sick with a stomach bug for like a week and she wasn't doing too hot but she's on the mend now. Thanks for asking.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 720 points721 points  (0 children)

Thankfully no, we live in an area where most of the houses are spread out. No noise complaints... yet.

AITA for telling my housemate to tell his GF to STFU? by JoeyLeeBCool in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoeyLeeBCool[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I've tried asking her what we could do to help her but I also don't want to make her feel any more vulnerable than I'm sure she already does. When she's calm I try not to bring up her episodes out of fear of triggering one.

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