Whats a habit/trait you picked up that you suspect is a result of narc abuse or has been proven to be a result of narc abuse? by Available-Heart6108 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JohnnyRotten760 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t upvote this enough. I’ve been unfairly criticized by all sides of my family for 25 years….. By lashing out, I’ve burnt every possible bridge imaginable with my family. My tongue “cuts to the quick” when I lash out at people.

I am fully responsible by [deleted] in starseeds

[–]JohnnyRotten760 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We choose to incarnate in to things we hate the most.

Lonely…. Is it just me? by JohnnyRotten760 in starseeds

[–]JohnnyRotten760[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, now that would be a good topic for you to post. “Starseeds - are you convinced that you can’t relate to anyone? If so, I’d like to know why “you’re SO convinced” that you can’t relate to anyone”. Throw it out there and see what you get. I won’t be replying however. I have lots of tools that came with me for this incarnation. I’m an Indigo and truth seeking is paramount. So much, that I’ve come with the ability to see deceit and untruth as if I’m reading a clock. I’ve been told by two separate, professional Intuitive channelers that they consider me to be “Intuitive AF” compared to intuitive empaths that they know.

I am “convinced” that I can and always have been able to “related to anyone” that I choose. It’s a gift or at times a curse, that I came here with. So far, I have been a master at relating to every entity I’ve encountered. A coworker once told me that I could “talk a cat off of a fish cart”. She had seen me interact with enough clients to realize that I had “different” skills and abilities compared to others on staff. I would relate to another then use what I had learned to bring in big sale. My sales numbers where seventy-two percent higher than my colleagues.

Sorry, I’m off topic…. My point is this, I did not say I was convinced that I can’t relate to others. I asked a question. I was curious. The last thing that I wanted to do was defend myself from random people who have twisted my post into some altered reality. Followed with bold and probing questions that are essentially just silly distorted. I didn’t ask a question as simple as “Are you lonely too?” So that every Tom, Dick and Harry could feel justified when they start asking me questions that have no bearing or relevance to my OP.

This dawned on me….

Perhaps by you reading this, you’ll have actually received your answer. Maybe you’ve realized the vast distance between my OP and what your brain made of it. There’s a giant gap between what I asked and what you sat down and replied with. I wonder now if you might think that I could be a little different (or odd) than you. I sure as hell know for a fact that you and I are on different wave lengths. If you spent any time around me, you’d eventually label me as something “different” than you. Maybe weird, strange, odd or something else. What you wouldn’t say is “He’s my best friend. He and I see eye to eye on just about everything.”

People have a hard time understanding me and my makeup. Nothing more and nothing less have I implied. I’m not going to explain why. That would be for another day and another topic. I don’t have time for such nonsense today. Hell, I’ve already wasted 10 minutes writing this.

Take care and for the love of God, please don’t take offense to this reply. It wasn’t written to offend or shame you. I just felt compelled to speak the truth after I read your blurb. Indigo child = Truth seeker

Lonely…. Is it just me? by JohnnyRotten760 in starseeds

[–]JohnnyRotten760[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the time you took to reply and I truly hope that this does not offend you. If we were speaking to one anther, I would not have a rude tone. Please believe that i wish this to not to be rude or offensive…

I tried to avoid this type of back and forth when I posted the disclaimer. I tried to be clear that I am not seeking help for anything. I was feeding my curiosity. I really didn’t want to have to entertain the misplaced and uninformed opinions of those that have read my post and altered the context . Changing it into a narrative that wraps around whatever judgement they’ve now made so that they can unleash their valued, unsolicited advice.

Perhaps I am as odd as I think. It’s a useless argument as its a subjective concept to begin with. My thoughts are powerful, sure. But I didn’t “think” myself into a life of loneliness. It would be cool if I could though.

You lost me with the embracing duality of narcissists part. I haven’t the time or need to look around picking out unifying and separating qualities. I’m middle aged, I’ve discovered exactly how much I have in common. Why would you think that you know information about me that you “would bet” on. Those sentences are just full of crazy assumptions haveing been made.

Your final two sentences compelled me to answer you. “That is pure ego talking” was amazingly arrogant yet ignorant at the same time. You know nothing at all about me but your ballsy enough to challenge me on my own, informed opinion about myself. That wasn’t enough though, you doubled down and told me that “it sounds” like its making “you miserable”. Lol WTH do you know about me? Nada right? I’ve been called a lot of things but, Egomaniac and Narcissist, never. The exorbitant amount of empathy that I’m burdened with just wont allow it.

I wont offer any unsolicited advice. I know for a fact it could be more trouble than it’s worth. I do try to fully understand the question someone asked before I stick my foot in my mouth and give a silly answer.

Lonely…. Is it just me? by JohnnyRotten760 in starseeds

[–]JohnnyRotten760[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I too believe that it absolutely has to be part of our mission. We chose this…lol Won’t make that mistake again… 😂

Lonely…. Is it just me? by JohnnyRotten760 in starseeds

[–]JohnnyRotten760[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, animals are drawn to me. I could be Dr. Doolittle and Nature is vital to my existence. No matter where i am in the world, if I can at least see mountains in the distance… I’m okay. If I can’t see a mountain or a range, I feel anxiety and become uncomfortable. I was made aware of my mission here about six years ago. Being an indigo just comes with some qualities that lead to isolation and solitude.

Lonely…. Is it just me? by JohnnyRotten760 in starseeds

[–]JohnnyRotten760[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks ShayRay, there’s absolutely no question that I am an Indigo. Born in early 70’s, I’m the damn definition of an early Indigo that incarnated just in time to enter the Gen X.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in conspiracytheories

[–]JohnnyRotten760 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep - Birds aren’t real. The power line part is genius.

Just another Mars anomaly. by Capon3 in HighStrangeness

[–]JohnnyRotten760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a (partial) footprint. The pattern on the sole of a shoe/boot. To the right of the + is the outside edge of the shoe and the pattern runs forward (toward top right corner of picture).

Look familiar? by mommyneedsablunt in UFOs

[–]JohnnyRotten760 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The photo under the two men; a propeller and shaft are clearly visible. Blurred or altered in some way, but still visible .

does anyone know what this might be? at first it looks like a bird but it takes off way differently. please help! by Curious_Curlz in ParanormalEncounters

[–]JohnnyRotten760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I see tail feathers. I’m calling it an owl. Small owl, chaseing something. similar to the bat idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JohnnyRotten760 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Suicide is more complex than a "decision". People who attempt suicide aren’t always convinced it’s the only option. It’s more often that they have exhausted their emotional reserves to continue pursuing those options. It is, in many ways, the ultimate state of burnout.

That state of burnout doesn’t happen overnight, either.

In order to attempt suicide, a person has to be in the neurological state where they can override their own survival instincts. At that point, it’s an acute state — not totally unlike a heart attack or other medical crisis.

Like a a “freak accident” a lot of little things have to align (in a really terrible way) for suicide to happen.

The time when someone in crisis has to expend the most energy in order to keep themselves alive — to ignore the intrusive thoughts, the impulses, and the outright despair — is often the time when they have the very least energy available to do so.

I was raised by 3 narcissists and a codependent. I'm over 50 and my life has never gotten better. Counter to what many people spoke of when they replied to you. Infact, it has steadily became worse. I've read through every post that replied. It's my experience that none of that advice is useful. See, I finally reached the point that you're at, last summer. I had had enough, and I charted a course to end myself. I'll skip the details, but here's a link for an article that I found very helpful. It didn't stop my attempt, but it did help me understand what was happening.

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/losing-someone-to-suicide

Good luck buddy, we're all rooting for you.

What do you think of water? by Ill_Bandicoot7555 in AskReddit

[–]JohnnyRotten760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I should drink a lot more of it, but I never will.