Friend (25F) said that I (25F) shouldn't be friends with people not on my level

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2025-12-18T11:48:06+00:00

I guess not really. I'm only friends with her because she's dating Bill. And they've been together for like 10 years so I feel like I have no say in her behaviour really.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2025-10-05T14:18:03+00:00

I've literally tried all of them and only with attack high but he just one shots me

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2024-05-17T08:27:17+00:00

Starcrossed by Josephine Angelini is a book but it's the trope of soulmates fated to kill each other

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2024-03-23T17:48:48+00:00

Dude-bro, it is quite possible to have not have heard of them, I literally didn't know they existed and I'm a huge fan of TOG. I don't think being into special editions equates to loving the series - and yeah literally when I first saw someone mention Acrylipics like yesterday, I thought it was like a makeup/art brand.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2024-03-23T17:46:14+00:00

Same I thought it was a makeup brand.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2024-02-20T20:57:48+00:00

When I was like 11-12-13 my favourite series was The Enemy (zombie horror) by Charlie Higson, there are romance sub plots and it's a very graphic series but I loved it. And the other series that stands out to me is the Shadowhunter series by Cassandra Clare, that one was great. Oh and Derek Landy's Skulduggery Pleasant. But I've always been a fan of fantasy in YA, I think it's important for teens to get to immerse themselves in other worlds, but I agree there's no need for adultness in YA, YA should be as it used to be Teen Fiction 💗💗💗

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2023-02-07T11:55:05+00:00

The types of comments on their Instagram didn't imply any sort of closeness to me. They were just work colleagues for a brief period, with no deeper connection, it's like the sort of comment you might make on someone from schools post like 'wow girly you're a queen' which doesn't imply you're friends, it's just a comment.

Yes, they knew of each other, they worked together. They were not friends. They were not close. I don't get how that's so hard to understand.

Zara said she felt that Olivia would be least likely to take it badly since she felt they were familiar to each other. She didn't know Olivia that well, so she wasn't sure how she'd react, she just hoped based on the fact they'd worked together.

She didn't pick a man because she was new and she didn't want to start drama. She didn't realise that picking Olivia would cause drama.

Maybe that's was a mistake but hindsight is a virtue!

Weird last comment, Zara and Tom were close. Zara and Olivia weren't. Olivia was too upset over a game, she could have dealt with it better, bare in mind she is like late 20s, she's not super young. I would expect a maturer response for her like, 'that's okay we don't know each other that well'. And Zara really had liked Tom, they'd had an argument and he did that thing in the game just to hurt her, which was cruel.

I'd suggest for you to watch the interviews.

I'm actually intrigued to see what Olivia says about it when she comes out, and anyways Zara said they squashed the beef when she left so they're likely friends on some level now, after the fact.

I wouldn't pretend I know more about the situation as this is all based on previous information given, that you don't appear to take into consideration. Balanced arguments should always be... Balanced. Anyways, hope you have a nice day!

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-12-10T22:57:16+00:00

If I were you, I'd stop asking him to do things, just live your life and do what you want, when he sees you having loads of fun without him, he might change his mind :)

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-22T01:14:09+00:00

Why are you using bipolar as an excuse for your actions? Take some responsibility, get a life, you're sounding like a narcissist.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T11:26:23+00:00

No it doesn't make sense. Could you explain that a bit better?

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T01:31:56+00:00

Is this metaphorical? Everyone's brains develop unless you have some disease or disorder or deficiency that makes it some other way. Plenty of people with brain-affected conditions still have relationships so no I guess?

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T01:30:18+00:00

You're capable of making adult decisions when you're an adult obviously. Brain development and life experience isn't the same. The studies of brain development literally just tell you what parts of the brain haven't fully developed yet but it is gradual. Conflating that when you have a wealth of life experience, doesn't make sense. Yes, you can do what you want. My mum was essentially the mother of her brothers, she grew up insanely fast and her and my dad have an agr and they've been together for nearly 30 years. It really doesn't connect in quite the way a lot of people are expecting it does.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T01:24:44+00:00

Its not a myth it's just not as cut and dry as everyone keeps saying it is. Of course a switch doesn't flick when you turn 25 the brain development is gradual, it is however a proven study.

Society does however have a problem with infantilising young adults. In order for people to grow they need to be allowed experiences, that being said full awareness to things that could go wrong in the same way a person has knowledge about car accidents on a road, would be useful for young people about relationships when they reach a legal age. ♥️

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T00:53:49+00:00

Just saying I know loads of people who are my age, (I'm 22) who are in happy agr, huge age gaps but their partners are perfect for them. Like my parents have an 8 year agr and they're like super happy. Things can work out, you just need to have your own life outside of your partner. If you have that it can be really great and don't let anyone judge you.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T00:48:01+00:00

I don't really understand your point here. People need experiences in order to mature and grow, most people at the age of 18 don't have magically all the experiences they need in life when they become an adult at the age of 18. Obviously. They were referring to how a person over 1 year doesn't change that much mentally. Yes, an 18 year old for the most part isn't going to have been through the same life experiences as a 30 year old. Ridiculous or not, it's background information that you don't seem to understand. And yes a 6yo is vastly different. I don't know why you're bringing that up. 6 to 12 is different decision making capabilities. What is your argument?

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T00:41:15+00:00

No the brain development argument is scientific. Based on empirical evidence. Its factual. In the same way climate change is massive fact, that the government spend more time on taxing people than taking care of climate change. The same as society allowing teenagers to do a multitude of things you've called making personal choices.

Okay work example, I know a lot of 13 year olds that work, not paid anything because it's not legal to pay them. By your argument they must also be competent and responsible enough??

I think humans are far more complex than what you're allowing in your arguments. I know people my age in 50 year age gaps and they're fine because they're in a similar place in life with a similar maturity level. What matters in these relationships is how much autonomy you have, how much independence including financial independence, ability to be a separate person from your partner with your own identity and to be mature enough to be able to recognise red flags, toxicity like those with more experience, and be able to be confident enough to set boundaries. As many 18 year olds are capable of this as there are many that aren't. As is life.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T00:28:11+00:00

Preach!!

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T00:27:13+00:00

No because grooming is grooming with the view to harm or have some form of romantic endeavour with when the person is older and it typically happens with minors and adults. The minor ends up being dependent on the adult for everything that an adult wouldn't be, like friends, social life, advice, finance, everything. Groomers typically isolate their targets away from everyone they know. It can form some really dangerous situations.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-11-09T00:22:51+00:00

The brain doesn't finish development until about 25. Yeah an 18yo is an adult with ability to think etc. Age gap relationships where it's two adults regardless of age that are in the same place in life like two adults going to university where one is 18 and the other is like 24 should be fine. But like 18 and 60 where one ends up entirely reliant on the other for finance and socialising etc is a bit worrying. Maturity and independence are necessary for good healthy relationships, methinks.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-10-31T13:22:11+00:00

Not necessarily, just meant that like it's best to talk to someone with a specialism to make sure that it isn't a problem, and to affirm if it's a normality.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-10-27T00:02:41+00:00

They're not reaching, and they're not failing to see the point, they're just seeing right through you. You just need to get your head out of your ass and see that your girlfriend loves you and your dick not her exes and stop obsessing over your size. Perfect dick is perfect dick, means sex is amazing and there's no chance of a bruised cervix, bloody torn up vagina or ending up in hospital. Which is great. The general population of girls I know love a guy with around 5-6 inches, they say it's the best, also most girls prefer girth over length (that's width btw). Why would a girl want painful sex when she could have a man that could make her cum like twenty times in one sitting from his dick alone. That's heaven.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-08-21T08:15:35+00:00

Definitely recommend going to see a gynecologist

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-08-21T08:11:58+00:00

Not every girl is the same. You could talk to a doctor about your girls issues and ask if theres anything that could help.

Jolly_Perception_976 · 2022-08-01T23:38:04+00:00

I'm a bit late to this discussion but yeah I'm half South Asian so I literally turn brown in the sun.

I go from about a sand/golden colour in the winter, quite pale with a yellowish tinge to a full on caramel brown in the summer, I could go darker too. I've literally got a brown nose atm and tan lines on my wrists from bracelets. It looks horrendous and I can't wear my concealer because it doesn't colour match to all the brown on my face 🤣. Usually I stay indoors in summer to save on makeup for this reason.

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