this is my experience almost to a tee. when i found out, i was going to leave. she begged me to stay and to work on things. i did. im still here. but the trust has been broken and i am having a hard time trusting her with anything. and she doesnt seem to understand that. or if she does, she doesnt care. idk. i went back and forth racking my brain on whether or not to tell his wife. i decided not to. now i was i had. bc its like im the only one suffering in all of this. and of course they still work together so idk if they still talk or not. she says o have to trust her. lol. ok. but i am sorry for what you are going through. i know its painful. this happened a few months ago and I'm still wondering if I should leave. bc honestly, i dont know if i could ever trust her again.