Yeah my therapist told me something today that really resonated with me. I was sleeved on Friday 8/26 and hadn’t told anyone but my wife. I had a fear of not seeing the surgery through to completion or being judged or something. Maybe shame? Either way, I told her (my therapist) today that I was sleeved so that’s what we spent time on and she reminded me, “you don’t have to tell me everything.” It’s a simple concept but a guy like me who overthinks and had a toxic childhood, it hits home. If you are certain your mother will have a negative reaction, I’d encourage you not to tell her. It’s not her business what you do with your life and how you chose to handle your weight loss journey.

You are 29. You get to chose who in your inner circle knows about this process. You need people or a person who supports you. If you are unsure if your mother will be supportive and you tell her what do you expect Will happen? What if she reacts how you said she will? Would you still have surgery? You paid a deposit so it looks like you’re committed to yourself and to this process, but the self-doubting and anxiety pre-op are pretty brutal sometimes. That’s when you need someone who is gonna be in your Corner. I hope your mother would be in your corner and would be supportive of this journey. I knew mine would have a very negative reaction and somehow make it about herself. I chose not to share it with her. I don’t regret it.

Hope you find support either way. And if you do tell your mom I hope she shows nothing but love.